Mother's Day Issue

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Message edited 1/29/2008 6:01:35 PM.

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Splitting holidays is so hard...

I had a full out breakdown on Thanksgiving because we were running from one place to the other and we MISSED DINNER at both places! No Thanksgiving dinner!

I agree that DH's family is being very inconsiderate and I don't think that will change until they have ILs to worry about. Some people just don't get it, no matter what you say to them.

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Message edited 11/1/2007 5:55:34 PM.

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I *did* say something, and it didn't get me anywhere.

I never know what time his family is doing ANYTHING, and it makes it so hard to plan things.

They're the kind of family that says 4pm, but it really means 5:30

eta: I just keep repeating "marrying the MAN because I love him, dealing with the family because they come with."

We've had 7 yrs to practice this - we still can't get it right

Message edited 5/9/2007 8:40:45 AM.

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Posted by Shorty

I *did* say something, and it didn't get me anywhere.

I never know what time his family is doing ANYTHING, and it makes it so hard to plan things.

They're the kind of family that says 4pm, but it really means 5:30

Message edited 11/1/2007 5:55:54 PM.

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Holiday's are that much of an issue for me because DH is jewish and I am catholic. The only overlaps we have are Thanksgiving and mother's day (my father is deceased). So - thanksgiving we are alternating his family one year, my family the next and Mother's day i decided to combine the two families. since you are an only child is there any way that going forward you could plan Mother's and Father's Day at your house? It might be a little more work but in the end it might be worth it.

Message edited 5/9/2007 8:45:22 AM.

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Message edited 11/1/2007 5:56:18 PM.

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Dh and I both come from big italian families...so we are expected at both sides for all holidays. When we got engaged we came up with a system that works for us and makes both sides happy...

For Mother's Day, I decided to have a brunch at my house that way all the mothers can enjoy (including me)and WE dont have to worry about running all over!

Of course the brunch will then turn into a dinner

I open my house to everyone, so not only will it be our parents/siblings but the grandparents and some aunts/uncles cousins will be their as well.....

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Posted by Sweets13

Dh and I both come from big italian families...so we are expected at both sides for all holidays. When we got engaged we came up with a system that works for us and makes both sides happy...

For Mother's Day, I decided to have a brunch at my house that way all the mothers can enjoy (including me)and WE dont have to worry about running all over!

Of course the brunch will then turn into a dinner

I open my house to everyone, so not only will it be our parents/siblings but the grandparents and some aunts/uncles cousins will be their as well.....

Message edited 11/1/2007 5:56:48 PM.

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So his family doesnt host any holidays and if you dont host they dont do anything? It will only get harder for you once your son is born. That is a great excuse for you not to host holidays for them anymore. If they dont offer, then you spend the holiday's with your family.

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Message edited 11/1/2007 5:54:55 PM.

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I am an only child too - what we are doing is going to brunch with Both families...Dh, parents, his two brothers, one girlfriend, and my parents... Would your parents want to go out with you and the Dhs family?
Being an only child and my parents not having much family in NY/CT anymore, my parents come with me wherever we go if they want to do so- it's a package dealI am not going to leave my parents alone on a holiday ...and when we are at my house everyone is invited, and when my parents have a holiday at their house everyone is invited... luckily both sets of parents get along well

Message edited 5/9/2007 9:31:06 AM.

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Message edited 11/1/2007 5:57:11 PM.

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I think DH should say something to his siblings. If he doesn't, I would since ultimately it affects you more.

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Thats why I try to host as many holidays as I can because it is easier for me for both sets of families to be their. I think they should have asked you guys first.

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when you're leaving at 1:30, politely say, "Awww...I'm so sorry we have to leave, but had we known in advance, we would have worked something out."