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hi everyone..

dh and i were preggo and just found out we no longer are

i was not that far along..i have my day were im perfectly fine and others that im not

my main things is the fear..i cant stop thinking this will happen everytime and even with the doc saying this is normal i cant shake it..

how do you girls deal with this part...thanks so much for reading

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i'm so sorry for your loss there's a great group of girls here and everybody is so supportive. i'm recovering from an ectopic pregnancy and i also had a loss in the fall so i definitely understand about the fear. i feel that fear so much, especially now. all i can say is that you should just take it day by day. eventually you'll be ready to ttc again and even though it will be scary, you will also be excited for the possibility of being preggo again. i don't think the fear ever goes away completely but you will start to feel better little by little

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awww gina, I'm so sorry you have to join us on this board (I'm Maggieluvsjoe from LIW) but the girls here are a great support system, they helped me get through the darkest time in my life.

As tough as it may be, just think positive that you did get pregnant and that is a very good sign. I just went through my second miscarriage and as terrified as I am of it happening a 3rd time, I'm more afraid of never being a mom so this will not stop me from trying until it happens for me.

Keep your head up and think positive thoughts, sending you lots of hugs sweetie

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I am so sorry for your loss My advice is to take it one day at a time. Try to stay positive

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I'm so sorry for you loss. I think we have to take everything day by day. Like the other girls said, this board is great and everyone knows how you feel. I, like you, can't give in to my fear and just have to look forward to trying again and it being a health happy baby!

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hey there.... sorry for your situation.

I think the main thing is you just can't let the fear rule you or it wins. You can't help but be nervous this will happen again.. but you have to have faith and hope that it won't happen again and things will work out better. Otherwise you will really drive yourself insane. And you can't do that over something you don't have much control over.

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I am sorry for your loss! This board is wonderful and has helped me get through 2 m.c and now A healthy pregnancy!!

In time you will start to feel better. Def give yourself the time to heal. I promise you, you will be hopeful again and be ready to fufill that dream of being a mother.

It just sucks that anyone has to go through this!! There will always be a little fear, I wont lie (I am 16 wks pregnant and still a little nervous) but the excitement of having a baby and getting pregnant again will allow you to be Hopeful and Excited to TTC again!

Lot's of hugs!

I'm sorry!

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I know we've talked a few times about what happened but I just want to reiterate how much I love you and Tommy and you've both been in my prayers.

After having multiple miscarriages, I don't think I'll ever be able to sit back, relax and enjoy a pregnancy. It really s u c k s because it should be an exciting thing but I still haven't figured out how to be optimistic.

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I am sorry for your loss. It takes time and will get easier. Having had a m/c before my frrst DC did cause extra anxiety during my pregnancy and made it hard to completely enjoy it until at least halfway through but it all worked out and I have an amazing 2 year old now. Hang in there

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sorry for your loss

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I'm sorry for your loss...it's just not fair.

Everything you said is completely normal. and the fear is something that we unfortunatly have to deal with I think the best way is to just try to focus on the end result and remember that MOST of the time things all go well. try to keep that in mind...80% have healthy pregnancies.