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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by BaysideForever
Looking at what she bought... are there any other games, maybe b or c list games they might also like? there are so many games out there. I feel like there are hundreds of good game choices for them. Even zingo has like 6 variations, so if she got the main one, go for the other variations.
Also art supplies, so she got the big set... maybe you can get a bunch of smaller things and make your own basket of things it didnt include.
lego sets- there is an endless supply of them out there. choose other sets, so what if they have a ton of legos?!?
what about magnatiles or bristle blocks, do they have those yet?
is there another character/brand like the ninja turtles that you can indulge? I am sure there are other ninja turtle things you can pick up anyway.
What about personalized things for each kid? A personalized book to read, or a blanket with their name, or name puzzles, or pictures of themselves in puzzle form. Shutterfly does that I believe.
How about regular books?
good luck!
very helpful thanks!
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Since they are getting so many "things", why not get them gifts that aren't things?
"Adopt" an animal from the local aquarium/zoo. Many of them have a program where you donate money, and they give you photos and info about the animal you helped.
The 5yos are old enough to understand helping others, and they'll most likely enjoy the photos and info about the animals.
Get them some duplicates of some of the items and let them donate the "extras" to a local charity.
Sorry I don't have a lot of ideas. I've never had to worry about family buying too much for DC.... but that's a story for another thread...  
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| Posted 11/11/15 8:43 AM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
Oh, I get that, I really do and would say something.
I said that though as there are many kids out there who get nothing or the bare minimum from their grandparents.
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| Posted 11/11/15 11:24 AM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by stinger
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
I don't know if I consider this lucky or what. I do know there are bigger problems in the world so my advice is try to talk to her about buying some items and you just move on with a lesson learned. If she doesn't listen just buy them a few other things and have other family buy other things as well. They are so young they don't need a ton of gifts under the tree from Santa anyway.
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| Posted 11/11/15 11:26 AM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
I would be annoyed for sure. You're a better person than me, OP!
Especially when she looked it up, unprompted. And then bought it all! Balls.
We have grandparents on one side that go overboard. It's disgusting. At some point it becomes less about wanting to spoil the kids or treat them
very well at Christmas and crosses over into some other territory that's self-serving somehow and more about them. I don't engage it in anymore, toys get promptly donated to kids who have nothing.
I would have dh talk to her. What does he think?
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| Posted 11/11/15 12:27 PM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
While it's very generous - I'd be annoyed that she searched it. I don't think any blame is on you for not keeping it private, really, who would have thought that someone would search in early Nov and buy it all.
If there are any things on the list that you feel need to come from Santa - something the kids are really asking for - I would mention it to her and buy them off of her to put under your tree.
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| Posted 11/11/15 1:03 PM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
Agreed. I would be pissed beyond belief. That was rude. She should have asked you. But I am having my own MILs and Xmas list issues over here as well 
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| Posted 11/11/15 10:22 PM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Maybe just tell Grandma that you would like a few of the toys to be from "Santa' since you are trying to teach the kiddos about Santa and how if theyre good etc they will get what they ask for from Santa..
To tell you the truth... I never really thought about it that way since you mentioned it in your post.. Im sure if you tell Grandma that she will understand and let you use some of the gifts/ or buy them back from her for under the tree. I would just do it for a few of the gifts they really wanted from santa though
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| Posted 11/12/15 12:02 AM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
She is WAY out of line. I would never in a million years search for someone's list without asking, let alone buy the entire thing! How exactly
Did she tell you this?
Also, IMO and this is just for my house, but that is way way too much for one person to buy for my kids! I would have no problem telling her that also. I'd instruct her (or have DH) to return half if the items and if she really needs to spend that much, put in towards their college tuition. It really seems like she's trying to steal the show so she can give all the gifts.
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| Posted 11/12/15 7:31 AM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Sparrow
She is WAY out of line. I would never in a million years search for someone's list without asking, let alone buy the entire thing! How exactly
Did she tell you this?
Also, IMO and this is just for my house, but that is way way too much for one person to buy for my kids! I would have no problem telling her that also. I'd instruct her (or have DH) to return half if the items and if she really needs to spend that much, put in towards their college tuition. It really seems like she's trying to steal the show so she can give all the gifts.
My SIl called me (she was doing ordering with mil because mil won't order things online lol) and said you might want to put more on their wish list because mom just bought it all.
I was caught off guard and all I said well I need to take a look at what was on the list because it was just ideas and they may even have some of the Lego sets .
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| Posted 11/12/15 8:27 AM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
I'm the total minority here! Id be like a pig in poop if my in laws bought my LO the entire wish list! The way I see it is, that's more money I can put anyway for college and/or experiences.
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
While I totally think it's ballsy I have the opposite issue. My in laws have plenty of $$ yet for Xmas they get my kids some crappy knick knacks that probably total less than $20. They are the cheapest people ever!!
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Umm...did she already tell you that she bought all of that?
Because if she didn't I would still buy what you planned for your kids. They will open the gifts from Santa first anyway right? By the time your MIL comes with her gifts they would be duplicates. Of course if she already told you then I would ask her to buy some stuff off of her.
Coming from someone whose MIL sends DD a check (a generous check but a check nonetheless) , I would be livid. I think it's so rude. It's one thing if she bought a few items off the list but everything..that is so wrong.
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Sparrow
She is WAY out of line. I would never in a million years search for someone's list without asking, let alone buy the entire thing! How exactly
Did she tell you this?
Also, IMO and this is just for my house, but that is way way too much for one person to buy for my kids! I would have no problem telling her that also. I'd instruct her (or have DH) to return half if the items and if she really needs to spend that much, put in towards their college tuition. It really seems like she's trying to steal the show so she can give all the gifts.
Agree 1000000%. I think MIL is completely wrong. I would let DH handle this.. At your kids age let's face it christmasis still magical and Santa driven. She's trying to steal the show and that is completely wrong. Sorry but that's the truth.
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by stinger
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
I don't know if I consider this lucky or what. I do know there are bigger problems in the world so my advice is try to talk to her about buying some items and you just move on with a lesson learned. If she doesn't listen just buy them a few other things and have other family buy other things as well. They are so young they don't need a ton of gifts under the tree from Santa anyway.
I am honestly baffled that anyone would be pissed about this, I mean really? consider yourself blessed and move on
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| Posted 11/12/15 10:31 AM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by bunnyluck
I'm the total minority here! Id be like a pig in poop if my in laws bought my LO the entire wish list! The way I see it is, that's more money I can put anyway for college and/or experiences.
I could not agree more.
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| Posted 11/12/15 10:32 AM |
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My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
ummm do we have the same MIL?
Mine just recently did the same thing!!! I had mentioned in conversation that I started to put together a list on amazon of things I THOUGHT they would want/like. I had also told her that I did not have a chance to go through it and weed out things. Basically, I was just putting things in there for ideas, and then planned on reviewing things, and getting rid of most of it. This was a few days before Halloween.
The weekend of Halloween I get a text from her that she purchaseD more than a handful of the items on it for both of them. I was so livid, because a few of the things she bought were going to be from Santa. I also had items on there for our upcoming Disney trip for the plane and car rides.
When I texted her back telling her that she bought things from Santa and to not purchase anything else her response was - 'that's ok, more gifts from Santa then!!!!'
WHAT??? So DH is going to buy the items from her and she can purchase the remainder of the items on the list. I plan on leaving just a few books and a board game. I also told him to tell her if she buys anything else, she will have to keep it at her house for them or I will return it. This isn't a one time thing with my MIL, so I need to start playing nasty with her to get it. I have tried to explain to her that I do not want them getting things every other week from her, because now they expect it. She just does not get it....
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by stinger
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
I don't know if I consider this lucky or what. I do know there are bigger problems in the world so my advice is try to talk to her about buying some items and you just move on with a lesson learned. If she doesn't listen just buy them a few other things and have other family buy other things as well. They are so young they don't need a ton of gifts under the tree from Santa anyway.
I am honestly baffled that anyone would be pissed about this, I mean really? consider yourself blessed and move on
My mother in law does this all the time - I just posted how she literally did the same thing with my kids. It is not a blessing.
She completely undermine's our requests. I have let it slide so many times, but now I am just beyond annoyed. It is a slap in my face as their mother. They are my children and I will not let them be spoiled just because she thinks they should. I don't mind a random little gift here and there, but she NEVER comes over with empty hands. She is always bringing something - she picks DS up from school several days a week, so she is over A LOT.
She constantly is buying them junk that they look at for a hot minute before it gets tossed into a pile and never gets picked up again. When they start to have to much they become unappreciative of what they do have. I don't want that.
If we say NO, than she needs to abide by it. Not take it upon herself to buy out a wish list.
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by bunnyluck
I'm the total minority here! Id be like a pig in poop if my in laws bought my LO the entire wish list! The way I see it is, that's more money I can put anyway for college and/or experiences.
I could not agree more.
Id be grateful..if it was from Santa. But the poster says its going to be from her mil. Id be pissed because its alot of stuff she bought and now she has to come up with another 50 things to buy LOL its just annoying
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by stinger
Posted by Michi
Posted by afternoondelight828
Take the Toys R Us catalog out and have the kids pick things they want. Many some of the things will be different.
I know you don't want to hear this but you are VERY lucky that your MIL did this. When my MIL ever did buy my kids things, they were always too young for their ages even after telling her what they would like.
Sorry, I don't think there is anything lucky about this. I think it is rude and kinda ballsy of her MIL to at least not ask if it was ok. I would tell her politely that some of those items were supposed to be from you(or have your DH tell her) and she can either return them or you can buy them from her. I wouldn't go gathering an entire new list from the kids.
I don't know if I consider this lucky or what. I do know there are bigger problems in the world so my advice is try to talk to her about buying some items and you just move on with a lesson learned. If she doesn't listen just buy them a few other things and have other family buy other things as well. They are so young they don't need a ton of gifts under the tree from Santa anyway.
I am honestly baffled that anyone would be pissed about this, I mean really? consider yourself blessed and move on
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by Lara&Aidansmommy
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by bunnyluck
I'm the total minority here! Id be like a pig in poop if my in laws bought my LO the entire wish list! The way I see it is, that's more money I can put anyway for college and/or experiences.
I could not agree more.
Id be grateful..if it was from Santa. But the poster says its going to be from her mil. Id be pissed because its alot of stuff she bought and now she has to come up with another 50 things to buy LOL its just annoying
The kids are young and won't even know and care.
I personally would be THRILLED if my MIL even bought them one thing they asked for that I was planning to buy.
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| Posted 11/12/15 11:05 AM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Thanks everyone.
Totally didn't mean for this to turn into a debate.
I decided to buy them a big dollhouse and a bike for my little one and some little things and say santa wanted to get you a BIG gift this year. and play that up lol
Yes I am grateful that I have people that want to buy for them BUT to just think of silly things they don't want for others to give to them because my MIL bought it all just seems wasteful. I can put gift certificates etc on there for experiences but others want to see them open something not just give gift cards. A balance between the family members would be nice.
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Tell her thanks for doing Santa's shopping and you expect it wrapped and under the tree for xmas morning. 
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| Posted 11/12/15 9:19 PM |
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
Posted by cowgirlkate
Tell her thanks for doing Santa's shopping and you expect it wrapped and under the tree for xmas morning.
haha no she lives out of state and I have gotten about 15 boxes from Amazon and have to wrap it all 
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Re: My MIL bought my entire amazon wishlist for my kids....HELP
My MIL Always stole my thunder. Even today when she bought my DD's the ugliest dress, but they love it, so they're wearing it. 
She shared this article with me privately because she and I have a wonderful relationship. She did not have such a relationship with her MIL.
Careful, I cried my face off:
She Knew Mother-In-Law Was Turning Her Kids Into Spoiled Brats. But Never Expected This After She Passed Away
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