my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

Before I was pregnant I would have SWORN up and down that my parents would NOT be those annoying people who tell you what they think about other people's baby name choices. They have always been the king and queen of saying "all of your choices are just beautiful" whenever they would hear other people's possible baby names.

UNTIL THEY FOUND OUT THEY'RE GETTING THEIR FIRST GRANDCHILD.

They are driving me crazy!!!!!!!!! I mention to my dad that I really like the name Genevieve for a girl and he responds with "it's ok - but it's no Emma - Emma is the prettiest name for a girl I've ever heard."

Emma is a beautiful name - but I've never mentioned it!!!!! It's just not on our list - DH dated an Emma - we're not considering it.

I mention to my mom - DH and I both like the name Shannon. Her response - (after a long pause) "It's certainly not a name I would choose - probably because I knew a shannon, and I didnt like her - so I really don't like the name - but now that I think about it - I dont think I ever liked that name."

Who are these people???????????????

we're not even bringing up boy's names with them - we've learned our lesson with girl names.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

We are constantly polititely reminding our parents when they say "how's our baby girl?" that WE ARE HER parents not THEM!

Same goes for names, it none of the business. If you feel like naming your baby after a kind of grass, they have no say!

I say keep em out of the loop, if they ask, just make up names that you know will tick them off and let them think whatever they want.

We had our parents convinced we were naming our baby girl oscar after oscar the grouch, or Shea, after shea stadium. It was so funny pushing their buttons for months!

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

This happened with my folks too!!! They are usually the "whatever makes you happy" kind of people, so I was surprised when they gave their two cents on our name choices. DH and I liked Justin for a boy and my Mom said "Just in what? Just in time? -". Ughh - thankfully we are having a girl and they liked the name we pick. (Oh, but she had her two cents on how to spell it too!!!)

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

When we were deciding names, my parents somehow got it in their head that they had a say, so I know how you feel. Every girl's name, my dad would have a comment for.

I had to politely remind them that they had 4 chances at naming kids, now it's our turn

They complied. But, part of me thinks only because we are having a boy and there was only one choice, STEVEN, and they like that name

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

That was why we didn't tell anyone her name until she was born. It was our baby no opinions needed.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

Oh man

We told Dhs parents yesterday & the first conversation they had after the dust settled was that the baby gets named after the grandparent on the father's side.

We are so not doing that & I could not believe they would even bring it up already.

ETA: We are doing very traditional italian name either way, and it will represent all of our grandparents.

Message edited 11/6/2006 10:31:29 AM.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

when it comes time for Dh and I to give the baby a name i am not telling my parents until the baby is born. I know my mom will have something to say about the name.
Plus we we are not finding out the sex of the baby so it makes it easier.

Message edited 11/6/2006 10:39:15 AM.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

Posted by monkeybride

That was why we didn't tell anyone her name until she was born. It was our baby no opinions needed.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

Just do what YOU GUYS want!! Its not anyone elses kid

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

We didnt give out names for EXACTLY the same reason. I dont want to hear peoples opinions! When they hear we dont know yet...their next steps are naming the child for us! People are impossible.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

My mom and my in-laws were very opinionated about name choices (thank God my dad never gave me a hard time.) In fact my mom and FIL were never fans of the name we chose, but it didn't stop us. We like the name and it's our son, to tough sh!t for anyone else.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

For all of the above reason we are keeping our mouths shut about EVERYTHING until after the babies are born.

We don't want any comments on names and especially the fact that there will be no Christening or Bris. Too bad, so sad, it's not their kid!!

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

My mother weighed in on one of our choices as well. It wasn't one of the top contenders anyway. It was annoying though. But I almost made it a top contender just to spite her!!

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

My parents have made comments about all the names DH and I like. It got to a point where we decided we dont care what they think b/c its not their baby.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

My parents have been great about keeping their negative opinions to themselves (although my mom will be honest with me if we are just one on one without my dad or DH)


My MIL is one of those opinionated mothers who wants to tell us what to name the child and when DH told he a name we chose for a girl she asked three times if he really liked it and finally he told her that he chose it (which is kind of true because I suggested it one day and he LOVED it and so did I so we agreed). When he said it was his choice she backed off

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

they can't help it.
our parents did the same thing w/ boy names. We were 100% set with the girl name- and since it was a family name, no onen was going to say anything about it- but boy names- sheesh- no one could agree- we learned to keep our mouths shut- but in the end, it didn't matter.

Re: my parents and our name choices - LONG vent

Posted by monkeybride

That was why we didn't tell anyone her name until she was born. It was our baby no opinions needed.