My Younger Sister = TTC

I feel bad even posting this.

Please don’t quote me. I will probably delete this soon.

My sister is 7 years younger than I am. She recently told me that her and her DH are TTC. Part of me is so happy for her and part of me is worried. I am worried for 1 unselfish reason and 1 selfish reason. The unselfish reason is that she recently had some relationship problems. The selfish reason (OMG, I am so horrible for thinking this) is that I am worried that she will get pregnant before me (or worse, that she’ll have a baby B4 I even get pregnant). I feel terrible thinking this way, but I do. I think it would really kill me. She keeps saying that she knows “2009 is OUR year and we are BOTH going to be pregnant at the same time.” What if she is and I’m not? I know it hasn’t happened yet and I have to think positively but (as we all know) that’s easier said than done.

Sorry, I can't talk to anyone else about this. I know u guys know how I feel and I just had to get this off my chest and out of my head.

Thanks for reading such a long post!

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

So sorry you are feeling that way but I think it's natural. How's THIS for horrible, my brother is not married yet, they're not even engaged (but they're talking) and when I'm in a bad place I secretly pray they dont have children before me because how sad would that be?

Here...let me be the bad one... that you get your BFP first!

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

Don't feel horrible. My SIL younger than me just had a baby and I tell my mom all the time that I am willing to bet she gets pregnant and has a second one before I even get pregnant with #1

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

Don't feel bad - that is totally natural. You love your sister, but its the whole situation that causes us to feel this way. I do it all the time, I see people I know who just got engaged or are having fun and I'm like -watch, when they want to TTC it'll be totally easy for them and then I feel awful. I think its just part of it all. We're here for you And to you!

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

Don't feel bad for thinking these things... I can understand how you feel... My SIL announced her third pregnancy and had the baby while I still have none... It's very sad and uncomfortable and she has no idea what we're going thru!
So, don't feel bad having these thoughts - they are natural and to be expected while on this (unfortunate) journey!!

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I was in a similar situation. I started to TTC in August of 2006, my sister told me in November that year, they were TTC as well (she is 6 years younger than I am, but married longer.. not that it makes a difference). She got pregnant right away, like immediatley after coming off BCP. Of course I was beyond happy for her, but even though at that point we had not been trying very long, we already knew we'd have trouble conceiving on our own it was so hard for me. I'm VERY close with my sister so it was very hard to hide my true feelings (which I did).

It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do.

Re: My Younger Sister = TTC

You are not alone with those thoughts and I've been there.

I am the oldest of four and two of my sisters had children before me, and one even got married before I did. Those jelousy feelings are there and all we can do is recognize those feelings and deal with them.

Don't worry about what isn't, just about what is. Concentrate on your journey, focus on what your protocol is for ttc, and just pray for the best for the both of you.