I am having a huge problem with my emotions after this miscarriage. I have been picking at DH every single day since last week. I feel so bad but i just cant stop nagging him. I have been in such a down mood. He is tryng to be supportive but at times i say things i dont mean and it really makes him feel bad. I really want to try to have a baby again but i dont know if I can right away. I am really scared of misscarrying again. The doc says wait like 2 cycles but i dont want to wait. I WANT TO BE PREGNANT NOW! I have waited 26 yrs for this and i dont want to wait any longer. I thougth i would get over this miscarriage thing easily but I cant seem to shake it. I was only 6 weeks and not really attached but attached enough that it hurts. DH says we should do what the doctor says and wait. He also says we have a lot to work in our relationship b/c we argue and fuss waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to much. Its like almost every day. And this was even before we were marrie.d
Girls please tell me what I should do to stay sane. I feel like I am losing all sense and sensibility.
I am so so so sorry for what you are going thru. I just wanted to offer some hugs and support. Maybe you just have to work thru this , try to just go out and go on "dates" and do some fun things- I had a MC but did not know I was pregnant yet- I only found out thru the doctors, I was barely pregnant- but it hurt A lot. I can only say time will heal- but it is not so easy. I am so sorry.
I have experienced mc not once but twice. My Dh has been so extremely supportive even though at one point he wavered on having kids at all! As far as the Dr's orders my Dr told me I could try my next normal cycle. So my first m/c I bled for almost a month had two days off then got AF-we tried the next time i ovulated. I ended up not getting pregnant until about 6 months later but we really weren't dilligent every month
As far as your relationship is concerned it sounds as if this is what your relationship is like. EVERYONE bickers! Thats my theory anyway.
Bottom line-your Dr was probably being safe when he told you that. Only you can decide whats right for you. Good luck
I went through something similiar. A m/c is devastaing but time has helped me move on. Initially, it took a toll on me and my emotions. Now, I thinnk about it from time to time, but feel so much better. Talk to your friends or close family.
Remember that it is a loss for dh as well but dh's may not feel the same attachment that we do.
Take one day @ a time and know that time will help.
I know it's easier said then done, but try not to stress about it. My girlfriend miscarried at the 3 month mark and then didn't get pregnant til a year later. But it just so happens that during that time she got a huge promotion and her job became that much better. If she had carried to term on the first one she never would have been able to get that promotion because she would have been out on maternity leave.
My point is that everything happens for a reason. Have faith and you will have the child of your dreams in no time.
