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I was dealing with similar issues last year. Minus wanting to be a supervisor because I've been there, done that and wasn't offered enough to deal with the nonsense.

I actually was offered less but the fact they paid for almost all my health insurance, I'm bringing home slightly more.

I am in an amazing environment now and have almost zero stress ever. The clients are great and my coworkers are all finally sane, normal people.

Change is very scary and you will invent a million reasons in your head of why you should stay in the comfortable position.

I am so glad I moved on though.

There were also lots of changes going on with the population I was working with and I suspect that could've eventually affected my job security.

Where I am now, I feel pretty confident I will always be able to find a job now, at least within the system I work for.

I hear from old colleagues constantly how miserable they are now and I also know there are weird issues with certain people being made supervisors as well.

That's a whole seperate issue though.

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I made a major career change in 2010 -- from being a litigation attorney at a large Manhattan corporate law firm to working in real estate. So I completely understand how hard it is to make a big change, and I struggled with my decision for awhile.

I think, first of all, you have to recognize that there will always be tradeoffs with career changes or even job changes within the same field. For me, I traded off a steady (and high, and prestige for a happiness, a job I enjoy more, and a better work/life balance.

For me, the tradeoff was worth it, and I never regretted my choice. It was the right time to make that move for me (I was a new mother, and had moved out of the city to Long Island, and my old job just wasn't fitting my current lifestyle).

But you have to ask yourself whether moving on to another position that offers more money and more potential for advancement is worth giving up the comfort level at your current job. There's no right or wrong answer... it's just what's right for you at this particular time. And I think you just have to be honest with yourself about what you want. If advancing in your field is your number one priority, then I think you should make the move. Of course, it won't be as immediately comfortable as your old job, but perhaps over time you will like it just as much or even more. But I also think that there is an intangible "happiness" factor with work that can't be measured on paper (by salary, benefits, title, etc.). And if you are truly happy in your current job, even without a promotion, then maybe that's a sign to stay there.

I think another good guide for decision making is, what are you likely going to regret more? Will you regret passing up the new opportunity and wonder what might have been, or will you regret leaving the benefits of your current job? For me, I usually regret what I don't do more than what I do!

I would just add -- are you sure there is no room for advancement where you are? It sounds like you were a great candidate for the promotion you didn't get. Did you ask your supervisor (and if not, can you) why you didn't get the job? And ask if there is something you can do going forward to be chosen for future advancement opportunities? I think as women, we sometimes think that if we just work hard enough, our good work will be rewarded. But sometimes you really need to ask and be more aggressive and vocal about what you want.

Also, if you really think it's time to move on, have you explored what the culture in the new position/department would be like? Do you think you could grow to be happy and comfortable there as you are in your current job, or is the benefit solely monetary and moving up in terms of title/responsibilities?

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Message edited 4/24/2014 8:36:17 AM.

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Based on what you wrote - I would take the new position. Although you're comfortable in your current job, you'll get that way at a new place soon enough as well - and it sounds like it's a great opportunity. Goodluck!

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Take the new job. I wouldnt stick around if they promoted someone after 6 months and looked over all the people who were there longer.

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Also when you begin to resent other people and morale is low.....that's a sure fire sign that it's time to move on. Once you get in that negative place.....or if it's all around you....it's wildfire and you can't really get out of it.

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need advice

Thank you everyone for the advice!!!!

Message edited 4/24/2014 8:36:42 AM.