Need advice about what happened at DD's daycare..sorry its long

So DD is 3 1/2 months and started daycare this month. She's been there for 2 weeks and this week, one day she came home and totally lost her voice to which I called when I got home and asked what the heck happened. they said she was her normal self and nothing was out of the ordinary. I took her to the doc the following day and the doc said they could hear the horseness in her voice, but no signs of being sick...so i said fine i'll just let it go....

Yesterday I get home and my husband picked her up and said oh by the way she had a cut on her foot and was bleeding...they said she got the cut from the bouncer....so of course I was upset cleaned her foot up but bacitration and let it go again.

Then I'm going through the clothes they sent her back from daycare and there was a onsie and socks totally soaked from urine. It reaked of urine like up to the neck part! I was so upset that I called the daycare and left a message with the director to give me a call back because I was very upset.

After we leave the message my DH goes oh i think they gave me those clothes yesterday and siad she had an "out of diaper." But i'm thinking why is it totally soaked and smelling like uring up to the neck?

Do you think I was wrong for going to the dirctor? This place comes very highly recommended and it seems nice from the few times I've been there (DH usually drops her off and picks her up)

I was thinking of going to work late on monday and speaking with the head teacher in her room...I don't want her ****** at me and in turn ****** at DD! I'm very upset about this and would just like her to better explain the things that happen during the day without discovering it on my own...

What do you think I should say? Could use some advice am I just being overprotective? I dunno this is my first child...

Re: Need advice about what happened at DD's daycare..sorry its long

you have every right to be upset. you pay good $$ and you expect your DD to be taken care of.

the hoarsness..i dont know what that is.My DS is very vocal and he was vocal at that age. so maybe she was starting to learn her voice and experimenting. If she's not sick, then i wouldnt worry.

but the cut on the foot and the soaked clothes would irk me. We keep spare outfits and when DS has gone through or pooped out of his diaper they always bag the dirty clothes in plastic and put in DS's bag we bring every day.

our daycare also has forms we fill out in the morning (with the time they woke up and were last fed) and gets filled out by teachers throughout the day with notes of diaper changes, feedings, activities, etc. Does yours do anything similar? If not,i would mention maybe for the next few weeks having them write things down for you. the cut on the foot should have been mentioned.

There is no harm in speaking up. just go in there with a level head and address your concerns. You have every right to be concerned.

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Not over-protective at all! Go with your instinct and if you are sincerely concerned with them taking your complaint out on your DD, then you should probably change daycares. I had a horrible experience with our very first daycare center and changed him to a different one. Now when I have a concern they take it seriously, but they never would get upset and take it out on DS...they other place would and DID. There is no excuse for urine to be soaked up to the neck. The only other explaination is that when they placed it in a baggie the whole thing got wet from touching the wet part. Was there an incident report when DD got the cut on her foot? Our daycare not only has us sign an incident report, but if it is bad they call me and let me know. Do they give you a sheet that tells you what her mood is and what she has done that day? On rare ocassion DS has had unhappy days, but they usually tell me on his sheet. Sounds like DD may have been crying.

I say go with your hunch/gut feeling. Just because a daycare is highly recommended doesn't mean anything...trust me. Everyone has different experiences and I'm sure the parents who sent their kids to our first daycare would say great things about them...but maybe they didn't watch the streaming video online of their child's day. Is this place licensed? Sorry for so many questions. I would go to the director too if it were me. I may also look into another daycare too if it keeps up. How does DD react when you bring her there? Is she happy? One main thing abou my DS's daycare that I love is that when hes there he is so happy to be there and loves his teachers and friends.

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Something is not right! I would start calling them st lunch every day and see if you hear screaming and crying in the background. You have a right to know anything and everything concerning your dc! Ask them what is going on! See if they are honest or defensive.

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I'd be upset as well. I spoke with the director because DS was sitting in his onesie half wet down the front from drool! I always sent plenty of bibs so there was no reason for him to sit there wet an uncomfortable. My point....if you aren't happy speak up. If the clothes were sitting in a bag or what not for a while the urine could have continued to be soaked up by dry parts of the onesie, but I would still do what I had to to make myself feel comfortable. I'd also suggest making surprise visits. This is the best way to really see whats going on. If there are windows watch thru them, go early to pick her up.

If you can do it take her to daycare and go back a couple hours early with no warning. A day or 2 later send DH an hour early. KWIM?

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When DD was in daycare I called every day on my lunch break. Not to mention, I was given a progress report filled out stating what she ate, how long she napped, how often she was changed, her mood, etc... If DD was hurt at all an incident report was filed and if DD hurt another child (scratched) I was told. I also would show up unannounced at times and early at other times. Am I over protective? Absolutely.

No incident report was filled out about a cut on her foot? I would definitely inquire. When you mentioned about the urine soaked onesie, I started to get upset, but I guess some pp's could be right and it just soaked in the bag, still I would be bothered. A hoarse voice to me, would make me think she was crying an awful lot...not acceptable in my book. Do they give you progress reports every day? If not, I would start looking for another daycare.

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I'd do a surprise "drop by" and go from there. I would be freaking out too! She's too little to not be sure its a good place for her.

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I would ask if DD was hoarse from crying and see what they say. def. ask about why the onsie was all wet. you are paying much money every month you have every right to ask whatever you would like !!

the cut foot would upset me bc it was left as an open wound and not covered

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the cut on the foot would bother me - they should have called/notified you about that and filled out an incident report.

the hoarseness would make me question things... could be from crying, could be that the room is dry...

the wet onesie would bother me least of all. i'd think it was because the diaper leaked and then when they put it in the bad the urine got all over the rest of the outfit.

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The hoarseness wouldn't bother me. Liam gets hoarse from time to time and sometimes it's when he's home with me and hasn't been crying. The peeing and the cut.. that would bother me too. But, Liam has also been cut at day care, he knocked himself in the eye with a drum and got a black eye.. .HOWEVER, I got a call AT work about it and they were sooo upset!!

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If I can take myself back to when my first son started...these things would bother me too Some of it is anger that these things happen and some of it is guilt that they happen and could have been avoided if we were there. But I have to tell you, with 2 now in daycare and having done this for 3 years...I've gotten accustomed to reminding myself that these thigns happen and they are not always avoidable....AND most importantly...no one will care for your child the way you do.




For the cut, you should have received a boo-boo gram (how cute is that?) so that you were immediately aware of what happened. Not having one (or even a comment on the daily gram) does annoy me because it makes me think that they aren't checking my child or responding to incidents. Sometimes we (including daycare) don't see things when they happen but it doesn't take long to notice! Look at how fast you saw it.

The onesie - if your DH picked it up the day before chances are it spread once in the baggie to get it to the condition you found it. I hate to say this because I don't want to minimize the annoyance over finding the clothing this way BUT this really is nothing....wait until there is an explosive poop diaper you get the full picture when you open those baggies Daycares don't typically clean clothing - not even a rinse - so this is something I tend to say whatever too.

The hoarse voice - my heart tugs for you on this one because I *think* that you are afraid that she is left crying for too long It has crossed my mind too when it happens. A surprise visit here and there might help ease your mind. They are not allowed to let them cry for long periods of time but that doesn't mean that she isn't crying...and chance are when she does she is wearing out her voice. DS used to scream his head off in the carseat and ended up with a hoarse voice often But it goes away quickly.


This is why I always say that daycare doesn't raise your child...they watch your child along with a handful of other children. They cannot give one on one attention and they won't do things the way you do...but as long as the kids are happy and have fun while they are there (and learn something too!) it's one of those things where you pick and choose your battles. You have every right to speak up and if you feel that something is wrong and puts your child in danger (I pulled my son from his first daycare so I don't brush this off as easily as it might seem) and in those cases be loud, loud, loud!

Message edited 9/19/2010 8:07:35 AM.

Re: Need advice about what happened at DD's daycare..sorry its long

Thank you everyone for all your advice. DH and I went to DD's daycare this morning and spoke with her teacher as well as the director and voiced our concerns as well as mentioned that on the daily report sheets we received that we want to know the good and the BAD things that happen during the day. I said I realize things will happen but if I am not told I automatically assume the worst. So what we stressed was how I wanted more COMMUNICATION. I also apologized for going to the director first instead of speaking to her but as a mother, the events of the week were very emotional for me.

In terms of the onsie they said it probably got all wet from being in the bag an extra day...and she had peed on the onsie while she was on the changing table. For the cut on her foot, they said she scrapped it on the bouncer, so I brought an extra 3 pairs of socks so this doesn't happen again. For her lost voice....noone really had an answer for that, so as you ladies mentioend we will be doing some surprise drop ins.

Thank you again for all your advice!

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I would absolutely do a few surprise drop ins.

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yeah I'd be freaking out and definitely think its time for a sit down!

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