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sometimesmommy
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Need advice-CAnt CIO
DD was a 32wk preemie now 38 wks old. She likes to be held and rocked to sleep-problem is as soon as you put her down she was up and cries. I have to go back to work in 2 months and will be using in home family daycare where there will be a 2yr old and a 3 yr old-she will be the only newborn. I am worried that she will need to be held constantly I cant let her CIO-it burns calories and her goal as a preemie is to gain. What can I do.
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
You can't CIO b/c she is too young, she needs to be held and cared for at this point.
Honestly, with any newborn, you can't plan ahead two months in advance.
As for now, get a Baby Bjorn, worked wonders when DS was tiny, she will most likely fall asleep in there and you can get some things done.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:05 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
You are going to have to hold her - she will most like grow out of being held by the time you go back to work - not guaranteed though
Right now she needs all of the comfort she can get from you.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:07 AM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Do exactly what you are doing now. She needs to be held and rocked and she will eventually change her patterns. She is way too young to even think about CIO, imo. Daycare professionals are used to dealing with these situations and should make accomodations for your dd.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:07 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
She is definately too young for CIO. I would hold her as much as possible.
Have you tried swaddling her? Or the swing?
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:07 AM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Posted by pmpkn087
She is definately too young for CIO. I would hold her as much as possible.
Have you tried swaddling her? Or the swing?
Tried swaddling-sometimes it works but mostly she hates it-she was one of the babies who slept on her stomach in NICU-which I cant do. Swing-have it (papasan)but someones DH hasnt assembled yet.
I dont mind holding-shes my life and I love bonding. Just want her to transition well to her caregiver.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:13 AM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Posted by Marcie
You are going to have to hold her - she will most like grow out of being held by the time you go back to work - not guaranteed though
Right now she needs all of the comfort she can get from you.
Agreed. And just wait - two months makes a HUGE difference. But for now, hold that little munchkin as much as you can!
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:13 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by pmpkn087
She is definately too young for CIO. I would hold her as much as possible.
Have you tried swaddling her? Or the swing?
Tried swaddling-sometimes it works but mostly she hates it-she was one of the babies who slept on her stomach in NICU-which I cant do. Swing-have it (papasan)but someones DH hasnt assembled yet.
I dont mind holding-shes my life and I love bonding. Just want her to transition well to her caregiver.
A lot happens for little babies in two months. I really think she will transition out of being held constantly. But, if she doesn't, I'm sure the caregiver is experienced and knows what to do If she has to be held, the caregiver will hold her.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:21 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
well you definatly cannot CIO. Thats for older Babies, not her age at all, even in 2 months .
Swaddling works, Babies DONT like it..well mien does, but hes weird.
Its not for them to like. You have to combine it with the swaying/rocking, a pacifier or soemthing they DO like to get the effect.
I say Read " the Happiest baby on the block and or Get the DVD" . The techniques are AWESOME. They truly work.
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| Posted 9/14/07 10:22 AM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
I dont think you should CIO at this point she is way too young. Also at this point babies are usually still inside warm and safe and secure...maybe she still wants that. I think you should get one of those baby carriers to keep her close but you will still be able to get things done. I think by the time you are ready to go back to work she will be a little more independent.
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| Posted 9/14/07 12:06 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Do you want my honest opinion? Cross that bridge in two months when you have to. Don't even think about what will need to be done two months from now when you go back to work because you will be in a whole new world with her at that point. Do whatever works right now. If that means holding her all day, then just do it. I'd suggest a sling if you need some hands-free time during the day. And in two months, if you still have a baby that needs to be held all the time, so be it. Whoever is caring for her will figure it out, as well. She's a teeny baby and needs to be held, I'm sure whomever will be watching her knows that
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| Posted 9/14/07 12:20 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
I agree with what everyone else is saying.
I also suggest getting that papasan swing together ASAP!!! It was a lifesaver for us - it gently rocks Lily to sleep so that we have a chance to do other things.
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| Posted 9/14/07 12:41 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
Posted by Palebride
I agree with what everyone else is saying.
I also suggest getting that papasan swing together ASAP!!! It was a lifesaver for us - it gently rocks Lily to sleep so that we have a chance to do other things.
I second this swing-our daughter loves it (she's 1 month old)
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| Posted 9/14/07 7:47 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
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I dont think you should CIO at this point she is way too young. Also at this point babies are usually still inside warm and safe and secure...maybe she still wants that. I think you should get one of those baby carriers to keep her close but you will still be able to get things done. I think by the time you are ready to go back to work she will be a little more independent.
I agree with getting a baby carrier. You should think of getting a wrap style like a moby. I don't know if they had you do kangaroo care in the hospital. There is a way of wrapping it that does that. Since she is a premie, she might really like being wrapped up close to your body.
kanga care
(Edited because I forgot to include the link.)
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| Posted 9/14/07 7:51 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
I was confused there for a sec..I thought the baby was almost a year old when you said 38 weeks. I'm losing it these days!
Anyway, I agree, she is way too young for CIO. Hold her, rock her, try the swing and enjoy her  Once she starts daycare, she will adapt to her surroundings, even if that means not being held all day
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| Posted 9/14/07 7:52 PM |
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Re: Need advice-CAnt CIO
I had to hold DS everyday from the time he was 2.5 weeks old to the time he was 6.5 weeks old. None stop from 9am to 9pm everyday. I was totally exhausted. He was also BF every hour. It was so demanding. It does get better. I can now put him in his boppy pillow next to me on the sofa, PNP or bouncy seats for a while. He is still clingy but he is doing so much better. I did not think this is how I would spend my maternity leave. I could not do ANYTHING in the house. Not ever take a shower until DH came home.
As hard as it is she does need to be held. It's comfort/ reassurance that you are here for her. Especially since she was a premie. There is no spoiling at that age. She just needs to know you are here for her.
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| Posted 9/14/07 7:55 PM |
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