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dcl08
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need advice from SAHM
i am 26 week pregnant and DH tells me not to work because im so tired/dizzy etc he tells me just to take care of the family. Right now we are renting and after all bills well be able to save 2000 a month on just his salary...would you stay home? or work? I am going to finish my degree after the baby comes and possibly work pt but would you stress over money?
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dcl08
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Re: need advice from SAHM
anyone?
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Well, I was so tired through most of my pregnancies, and would have given anything to be able to stay home and focus on myself and the baby. With that being said, had we had been in your financial position, I would have stayed home and stopped working.
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dcl08
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Posted by dottiemchugh
Well, I was so tired through most of my pregnancies, and would have given anything to be able to stay home and focus on myself and the baby. With that being said, had we had been in your financial position, I would have stayed home and stopped working.
thank you! i just dont want to stress over money i figured it would be fine but just weary
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Calla
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Re: need advice from SAHM
Whats your job like? If you are sitting at a desk, I'd work up until delivery. Thats a really long time to sit at home without a strong medical reason -- not for the money, just for mental health.
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Posted by dottiemchugh
Well, I was so tired through most of my pregnancies, and would have given anything to be able to stay home and focus on myself and the baby. With that being said, had we had been in your financial position, I would have stayed home and stopped working.
thank you! i just dont want to stress over money i figured it would be fine but just weary
It's hard to make a decision like this and lose one income. But, go with your gut. If you will feel better and can do it financially (which it sounds like you can), then why not? 
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| Posted 11/8/07 2:12 PM |
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dcl08
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Posted by Calla
Whats your job like? If you are sitting at a desk, I'd work up until delivery. Thats a really long time to sit at home without a strong medical reason -- not for the money, just for mental health.
im not at a desk..im constantly on my feet ...i work with kids
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Calla
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Ooh working with kids is a whole different matter! I can't imagine doing that into the third trimester!
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maybebaby
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Without a doubt, stay home!! If you can manage to save that amount on one salary you are doing ok in my book 
-I am a SAHM and we save MAYBE $200/month right now..that is with me working PT from home but it is so worth it to me!
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Posted by Calla
Whats your job like? If you are sitting at a desk, I'd work up until delivery. Thats a really long time to sit at home without a strong medical reason -- not for the money, just for mental health.
I agree.
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Well, its only 3 1/2 months till your baby is here...how much more $$ can you save if you work that?? I would make my decision based on that. Then, I probably wouldn't think about whether or not to go back to work until after the baby was here.
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I also worked with kids. My Due Date was Jan. 26th of this year. My last day of work was December 22nd of 2006.
I was going to go back in Jan. for 2 weeks, but, I decided not to and I don't regret it! I was so tired and so uncomfortable, there was no way I could chase kids around. It worked out perfect. It was the last day before Christmas Break.
It was also meant to be, because DS arrived on Jan.15th..11 days early.
If you can stay home. I would. You will be happy you did, especially even more towards the end of your pregnancy.
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Posted by maybebaby
Without a doubt, stay home!! If you can manage to save that amount on one salary you are doing ok in my book
-I am a SAHM and we save MAYBE $200/month right now..that is with me working PT from home but it is so worth it to me!
thank you! u just made me feel so much better! As much as i would like to work and keep money coming in...physically i feel like its killing me...i know tiredness and dizziness is normal but this is insane i barely have the energy to get out of bed to go to the bathroom no joke. Thats why DH says to stay home and not stress about money cause i dont want to overdue myself and harm the baby in anyway or myself for that matter. I thought 2k is alot to be able to save on one salary and we have alot banked and plus he does side work so its atleast 2k a month sometimes more. So ya it might be tight for now if at all but i rather but babys safety first
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Posted by lvdolphins
I also worked with kids. My Due Date was Jan. 26th of this year. My last day of work was December 22nd of 2006.
I was going to go back in Jan. for 2 weeks, but, I decided not to and I don't regret it! I was so tired and so uncomfortable, there was no way I could chase kids around. It worked out perfect. It was the last day before Christmas Break.
It was also meant to be, because DS arrived on Jan.15th..11 days early.
If you can stay home. I would. You will be happy you did, especially even more towards the end of your pregnancy.
thank you!
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Posted by DanaRenee
Well, its only 3 1/2 months till your baby is here...how much more $$ can you save if you work that?? I would make my decision based on that. Then, I probably wouldn't think about whether or not to go back to work until after the baby was here.
honestly what i make is crap thats why im even considering it...if i was making great $ than i wouldnt even think about leaving but it was just a job while i finish my degree
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LisaI
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Honestly, I would work and save as much as possible, jmpo. you are always going to be tired whether you are working at a company or taking care of your family. jmpo,
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CrankyPants
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I couldn't, but that's just me. I would go crazy. I know how tiring being pregnant can be, but I would just need to do something, have a routine everyday.
However, if you are going to school (from your post, I think you are), then sure. You're working towards something and have something to do with your time.
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Karen
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I stopped working at 35 weeks and delivered at 37w5d. I can tell you - I was starting to go insane!! Personally, I could not be out that long, I would go crazy.
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I was hoping to work up until due date, but i ended up with renal colic a month before. I have a hands on job and physical, i would have to get on knees and climb under mammo machine to get patients in positions that doctors wanted pictures of, so needless to say I just couldnt do it.
Now time to go back in about 2 weeks.
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LuvMy2Girls
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I would say, think deep and really write it out before you do it. Money is just money, but really search inside what will MAKE YOU HAPPY! Even though you are still saving $$$, don't quit unless you know staying home is what will make you happy.
Personally, I am a SAHM not by choice but by necessity(i have 2 under 2 and i would be mostly working to send my kids to daycare since we have NO family here) and while lots would love to be in this position, and don't get me wrong, I LOVE being home with my girls, but if i had the choice, i would choose to work. We make TONS of sacrafices for us to live on one income so we can still save money every month for a bigger home.
MOst of all, I like the feeling of contributing $$$ to our bank account and honestly, I LOVE the work/business environment and the challenges that go with it. I am def out of my element at home.
Just something to think about...
ETA: i was on bedrest with my first and I was TOTALLY BORED being home. THere's no way i would be able to stay home all day without having something to do. My days go fast now since i chase after a toddler and infant all day long :)
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