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munchkinbugs
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Need advice. Kinda long.
Ok, DH has a history of being difficult when it comes to my family. He often misses family parties (ie graduation parties) and we really don't spend all that much time with them. I sometimes go there by myself. He says "I didnt marry your family, I married you". Whatever, I accept it and try to be the better person by continuing to have a strong relationship with his family, even though sometimes I wish I could just give him a taste of his own medicine. But I just don't have the heart because I really care about his family.
So, I was planning on going out to my parents tomorrow night to have dinner and spend the night. DH has to work on Saturday and then we would meet at HIS parents house later on Saturday.
So his mom's bosses aunt died. Granted, DH's family is very close to bosses family. And the wake is tomorrow in the afternoon and at night. I would like to go to the afternoon wake so that I can still go out to LI and see my family. DH wants to go at night because that's when HIS family is going. So I told him that I would go in the afternoon, otherwise I'm not going.
Am I wrong???
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
No, you are not wrong at all. Your DH is a bit selfish and needs to meet you half way where your family is concerned.
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LaurenExp
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Are you close to the boss' family, too? Would you know anyone at the wake if you went in the afternoon alone? Why can't DH go to the wake in the afternoon AND at night, as much as that would suck (since he's not coming to your parents house with you AGAIN).
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:54 PM |
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by BellaPaige
No, you are not wrong at all. Your DH is a bit selfish and needs to meet you half way where your family is concerned.
I agree completely. Yes your DH married you, not your family... but your family is a part of you
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:55 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
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Posted by BellaPaige
No, you are not wrong at all. Your DH is a bit selfish and needs to meet you half way where your family is concerned.
I agree completely. Yes your DH married you, not your family... but your family is a part of you
Exactly.
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:56 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
skip the wake and go see your family.
you dont know this in laws bosses aunt-
it seems a little ridiculous that you are expected to go to a wake of that sort.
if he wants to go tel lhim to go with his family without you.
if he wants YOU to go with him, he should accommodate you a little
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:56 PM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by LaurenExp
Are you close to the boss' family, too? Would you know anyone at the wake if you went in the afternoon alone? Why can't DH go to the wake in the afternoon AND at night, as much as that would suck (since he's not coming to your parents house with you AGAIN).
I only know the boss, wife, and kids. I don't even know if they'll be there in the afternoon.
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:57 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
no you are not wrong. You are paying your respects and thats the main thing.
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:58 PM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by babybug631
Posted by LaurenExp
Are you close to the boss' family, too? Would you know anyone at the wake if you went in the afternoon alone? Why can't DH go to the wake in the afternoon AND at night, as much as that would suck (since he's not coming to your parents house with you AGAIN).
I only know the boss, wife, and kids. I don't even know if they'll be there in the afternoon.
Well, I'd skip it then. Send them a card or something and go see your family. DH can go alone in the evening. JMO 
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by BellaPaige
No, you are not wrong at all. Your DH is a bit selfish and needs to meet you half way where your family is concerned.
Totally agree. I think that's a good compromise for you to go in the afternoon, if you feel you should go at all and then go on with your plans with your parents.
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| Posted 10/5/06 3:58 PM |
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chikita315
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
I don't think you are wrong at all. IMO you are the only one compromising here.
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by spooks
Posted by BellaPaige
No, you are not wrong at all. Your DH is a bit selfish and needs to meet you half way where your family is concerned.
Totally agree. I think that's a good compromise for you to go in the afternoon, if you feel you should go at all and then go on with your plans with your parents.
I completely agree.
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| Posted 10/5/06 4:04 PM |
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
If you feel you should go to the wake - go in the afternoon
no way go at night to give up plans with your family
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| Posted 10/5/06 4:05 PM |
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Re: Need advice. Kinda long.
Posted by sirk1020
If you feel you should go to the wake - go in the afternoon
no way go at night to give up plans with your family
I agree!
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