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Charly
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Need advice....sorry kinda long
I have a great work schedule with my job. I work FT - 2 days from home and 3 days in the office.
A little background: I am a finance manager with a staff of 2. We support a team of buyers. This summer we were asked to rotate to new teams. I was hesitant because the director of my former team was very supportive of my schedule, whereas the new one was not fond of any type of flex schedule. However, she agreed to let me continue my schedule because she wanted me to work on her team.
Now 6 months later she's fighting to have my flex schedule revoked. There are NO performance issues - she just doesn't like it. She did not even attend her son's high school graduation because "business comes first." She has elevated it pretty high and because of her they are considering taking away all flex schedules (so this affects more than just me, but mostly me.)
She is a well respected senior VP and is a huge money saver/maker for the company so she has influence. Currently the response has been, no performance issues, no change. SOOOO she is doing everything she can to bury me. Admitted to my face she will make me cry until things change. She is moving up all my deadlines to unrealistic time frames, dumping more work on me that anyone could possibly handle even if I stayed all day and all night.
I'm due to have my 2nd DC in June, I don't need the stress but can't afford to just quit (I make a very good salary), but I'm so not motivated to work for this woman and I just can't deal with the stress.
I would look for another job, but who's going to take on a 5 month preggo and then I lose my maternity pay.
Why are people so mean I guess the ONLY solution is to return to the office 5 days a week, but I feel it isn't fair since I've been getting my work done. I personally can not put my DD in daycare 50 hours a week. I would be devastated....
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
What a witch! It's so nice to see woman supporting woman, isnt it?  What about looking for another job within the company? Is that possible? Do you have any mentors that you can maybe go to about her trying to sabotage you? Or maybe even HR since they have to keep it confidential? If the higher-ups said no change for now, she shouldnt be able to just do this and get away with it.
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:24 AM |
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nbc188
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
 What a miserable soul she is
What a very difficult situation for you. I agree, it's not great to be stressed ever, much less during your pregnancy. Is there anyone else 'high up' that you could talk to about it, or are they all influenced by her?
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:25 AM |
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xiomyflor23
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
The nerve of some people!!
I am so sorry you have to be going through this, hopefully everything will get better.
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:34 AM |
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Charly
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Posted by Salason
What a witch! It's so nice to see woman supporting woman, isnt it? What about looking for another job within the company? Is that possible? Do you have any mentors that you can maybe go to about her trying to sabotage you? Or maybe even HR since they have to keep it confidential? If the higher-ups said no change for now, she shouldnt be able to just do this and get away with it.
I know it's awful. This company is full of Type A aggressive women. I was one, until I had a baby. Now I don't fit in anymore I guess. Actually the entire finance team is women and we have all had or about to have children within the last 2 years. So everyone has some kind of flex schedule. They will lose the entire team if they change anything.
I can't go internally for 2 reasons - first, since I just moved in June I can't move again for 18 - 24 months. Second the only other place to move is to the other office which is over an hour away
HR in my company is useless!! I have the utmost respect for HR individuals, but not here. They don't do anything for us. They support senior management.
Message edited 1/31/2008 8:37:28 AM.
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:35 AM |
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Since she is trying to *bury* you, I would keep record of every email voicemail and IM. Keep your a$$ covered. If you are well prepared with a rebuttal anytime she attempts to show poor performance, the higher ups will see her game no matter how much money she saves.
In addition, I would calculate how many people would be affected and/or quit if the flex time is revoked. Take that number and determine how much it would cost the company to advertise the positions, time to interview rather than work (by the managers/VPs) and then the cost to train. Suddenly her money-saving does not seem so efficient anymore.
I hate when women try to undermine other women. It is hard enough for us to find decent jobs and then to have some tiger-lady try and take it away...just plain sad.
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:36 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Ugggggghhhhh - what a witch!
It's a major blow to see another woman be so cruel and nasty - especially around a working mom issue.
Start documenting all of these comments (save any and all e-mails). If you do have to stay...just ride out the time and see if your doctor can maybe get you on bedrest.
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:40 AM |
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leighla
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
I still say go to HR. This is harassment. Even if they don't help there is still a record created.
Keep detailed records of your conversations and see if you can stick it out until June and look while on leave.
Can you talk to your old director to get advice?
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| Posted 1/31/08 8:42 AM |
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bayla
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
OMG that is horrible, what a *****! I am so sorry your going through this. Def document everything, in case you need to defend yourself later on. Maybe consider looking for something else for later on so you dont have to go back their after you have your 2nd DC (this way you get the maternity leave still)
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:03 AM |
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Sweets13
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Keep doing your job the way you have been, GO to HR and continue to go to HR and have every complaint documented. Keep a personal log for yourself as well~
Sorry your going through this
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:12 AM |
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karacg
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Can you speak with HR about switching you to a different team??
NM just saw your additional comments.
Message edited 1/31/2008 9:21:05 AM.
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:19 AM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
I'd keep getting buried by her and keep unburying myself for my own satisifaction. Honestly, you know you need to get to June so I would keep working at it. As stressful as it is...it will be more stressful working 5 days and leaving Hannah. She cant get ya back in 5 days until you "F" up so dont. Once June comes, you are out for 2-3 months and 18-24 months for a change seems a little closer. Cry??? Get the hell out of here! What is she kidding...I wouldnt cry for her just for satisfaction...Misery loves company!
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:20 AM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Posted by leighla
I still say go to HR. This is harassment. Even if they don't help there is still a record created.
Keep detailed records of your conversations and see if you can stick it out until June and look while on leave.
Can you talk to your old director to get advice?
ITA. How awful. What a nasty woman. I'm sorry you have to deal with her.
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:38 AM |
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CouponKT
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
NO way!  
I would talk to HR if she has admitted to try to bury you. You need to have protection against this b!itch - that is sooo not right!
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:44 AM |
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
I would maybe look and see where the law stands on these types of issues.
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:51 AM |
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Charly
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
I will definitely talk to HR to protect myself, but honestly she doesn't write anything so it's all my word against hers and subject to "interpetation" blah blah blah.
HR does not support work life balance arrangements, they leave up to each individual manager. So they can not do anything to help me in that arena.
I think I'm heading up a creek without a paddle
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| Posted 1/31/08 9:56 AM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Posted by Charly
I will definitely talk to HR to protect myself, but honestly she doesn't write anything so it's all my word against hers and subject to "interpetation" blah blah blah.
HR does not support work life balance arrangements, they leave up to each individual manager. So they can not do anything to help me in that arena.
I think I'm heading up a creek without a paddle
MMMMM....I dont think that you should go to HR bc then you are putting your situation on display and they will have to evaluate if you should stay home. Right now...its not in question. If you want to buy yourself more time staying home ...I wouldnt be the one to adress it and put yourself out there.
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| Posted 1/31/08 10:25 AM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
Could you write a heartfelt letter to HR? I'd keep it simple and address the fact that you perform well and are very happy with the support they currently provide with the flexible schedule. ETA: I don't think I would even bring your boss into at this time, just address the issue of the pending change in flex schedule policy. I might bring examples of top companies and how they support employees with flex time. They just had an article on CCN with the top 50 companies to work for and all of them have policies that make it easier on working moms and dads.
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| Posted 1/31/08 10:36 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Need advice....sorry kinda long
honestly, my thought is to talk to the other women who this will affect. Maybe you can go to HR together, and if that doesn't work, I woudl go to the media (especially if this is a big or well known company). Maybe contact some working woman's organization to see what, if anything your can do.
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| Posted 1/31/08 11:48 AM |
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Sorry, no advice. But she must really be a great mom and wife. I'm sure her son really appreciated her putting work before his graduation....
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