Need office related advice, HELP!!!

my old boss just moved to our office out of state, and new boss took over within the last month.

Last week i miscarried. Sunday I started having symptoms. Monday I called up the office, told them what was happening that i was going to the doctor that day and was hoping it wasnt. I spoke to the ONLY female in the office which happens to be MY bosses wife. Later that day when the doctors appt was over(painful & confirmed i was losing the baby) I called up the girl again. First to check that a quote went out on my desk, then to say i would be home to try and pass it naturally so hopefully i wouldnt have to have the operation. She said take as long as i need. Wednesday she(not my boss) calls up to check if i will be in and says she willl tell her boss that I wont be in the rest of the week(keep in mind shes the only female and we are only 7 people in our office)......

FAST FORWARD TO TODAY... I get an email from my old boss to me, and the other guy who we share a boss, and he says that we are to report in to our new boss, if we are out ill we must call our new boss. These are the rules, calling into a coworker is not ok in the past, and will not be acceptable int he future either.

This p*ssed me off as my body is still physically recovering outside of the emotional loss.... I'll be writing a letter to hime tomorrow in response, and cc: the hr lady in atlanta.....
Is there something he did wrong outside of the complete insensitivity??? Obviously if I was sick with a cold I would call my boss....

Message edited 2/26/2007 9:43:42 PM.

Re: Need office related advice, HELP!!!

any rights violated???

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I have never worked in an office where it was acceptable to "call in sick" to a co-worker rather than a manager...no matter what the problem was.

I do not think any "rights" were violated. I think your boss has every right to ask that one of the bosses get the sick call

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I am very sorry about your miscarraige.


As for work, I think you were wrong to not speak to your boss personally at some point on Monday or Tuesday. It was not up to the co-worker to say take as long as you need. I am sure your boss would permit the same thing.

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Normally I would say you should talk to the boss- but in this case, the "coworker" is the bosses wife... this makes it a little different to me... but I don't think any rights were violated, he was just completely insensitive. I am so sorry for your loss

Re: Need office related advice, HELP!!!

Posted by Christine

I am very sorry about your miscarraige.


As for work, I think you were wrong to not speak to your boss personally at some point on Monday or Tuesday. It was not up to the co-worker to say take as long as you need. I am sure your boss would permit the same thing.

Message edited 2/26/2007 10:04:27 PM.

Re: Need office related advice, HELP!!!

Posted by Christine

I am very sorry about your miscarraige.


As for work, I think you were wrong to not speak to your boss personally at some point on Monday or Tuesday. It was not up to the co-worker to say take as long as you need. I am sure your boss would permit the same thing.