Need parents opinion

Hi,

Some friends of DH and I just had a baby about 3 weeks ago. They had the baby on a Tuesday, and they told us that next Monday that they had the baby. During labor the mother had an issue where it left her on bedrest after the baby for a couple of days.

They havent yet asked us to come see the baby - I'm not sure what to do here, do we ask to come by, or do we wait for them to ask us to come over?

I dont want to ask and rush them, I know if I had a baby I wouldnt want a million people coming over all the time, but I also wonder if they are thinking "Wow, they havent even asked to come over yet..."

These arent close close friends, we see them maybe 4 or 5 times a year, and talk 1x a month.

Thoughts? Thanks in Advance!

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I would call - on the phone...and just say congrats on the baby etc , you hope they are all doing well..you would love to see them whenever they feel up to guests..that way you have offered your congratulations and they will tell you when you can come visit.

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I would give them a congrats call and just let them know whenever they are ready you would love to see the baby!

Honestly, I despised people coming by in the early weeks, i was very uncomfy, tired, in pain and bf'ing was awful then, plus my hormones were all over the place.

Give them time :)

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Honestly, that's probably the last thing on their mind right now. They are surelly still trying to adjust to the baby, new schedule, etc.

They are probably exhausted of the number of visitors they had already.

I would call to make sure they are fine but I would count on seeing them for a while (weeks or months when they settle a bit!).

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Thanks everyone.

That is what I thought, but I wanted some more opinions.

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I agree - call, offer congratulations & a meal. If there are complications, it's one of those things people are grateful for...eating is usually the last thing on the list with a newborn.

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Let me preface this post by saying I love all my family and friends...but being new at parenting, trying to adjust on a small amount of sleep and being generally worn out...my friends must think I am terrible, I barely have the time or energy to answer the phone or have visitors.
Its been almost 5 weeks now and I am getting better, but at 3 weeks I was still a mess and ignored even my closest friends.
Give them a little time to adjust

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Give them time to adjust, at least 2 weeks. Their family will be entertaining them like crazy right now. and if she is trying to BF, I know for me , everyone was just showing up and I couldnt get into a schedule, it "irked" me.
2 or even 3 weeks when you do call and or visit she will be more adjusted and the time spent on phone or in person will be more meaningfull. Dont feel bad, she doesnt have time to think about who is calling and who isnt.