Negative People

Do you know of anyone who is so consumed with negative thinking? For example: DH buys me flowers and cards alot and this person would make comments such as never trust a man who buys flowers and cards constantly he is gulity of something.
I mention to that person that eventually DH and I will be moving to a much smaller town and the person's response is oh I do not see the big deal about smaller towns.
Do you know of someone that is so negative or no matter what you share with them they always responds with a negative remark?

Message edited 10/26/2006 8:15:54 AM.

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Oh, yes. Actually it's my father and it used to drive me nuts. Now I just ignore him. He is constantly talking about the bad. Here is the best example: When my brother & SIL told us (on Mother's Day) that they were PG with my niece (the first grandchild in our family), he said "You have my condolences." Isn't that AWFUL???? It is just wrong on so many levels. This was many years ago (my niece is almost 10) and I brought it up to my mother recently. She said "oh, he was joking" and blew it off. My brother & SIL have never forgotten it (and neither have I.) I can't stand negative people, but try not to let it bother me. If anything, I feel sorry for them because they are so miserable.

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I do not understand why people can be so negative. Being negative IMO yales too much energy and drains the life out of me. I prefer to be positive and wish everyone the best. I do not see the gain from being negative.

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It's called jealousy. Pay them no mind.

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OMG I have one of those too. She even found something to compare to when I fell and was having contractions She does this all the time.

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yes, I do know someone like that

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Yes, always has to put down everything as well as always thinking she was right. Needless to say I stopped talking to her and she didn't understand why.

I find when you go through major life events you learn whom your real friends are.

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Posted by Stacey1403

OMG I have one of those too. She even found something to compare to when I fell and was having contractions She does this all the time.

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I have a very negative friend- she even went so far as to say someone might be over reacting about his car

for the amount of damage done to it- I would say he is handeling it well

needless to say I haven't called this person since b/c this was not the first incident

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I ended a long friendship just for that reason - it wasn't a temporary thing, it was constant. It's just another way for people to suck the energy right out of you.

DH is a pessimist by nature and I've learned to understand where this comes from, deal with it, and accept it. It's not a big enough issue for me to get upset over it.

But with the ones who are lifetime negative, you can't let it get to you. I've found compassion enough to sympathize with them for their unhappiness, but I distance myself so that it doesn't affect me or my life.

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Yes - a family member and it annoys me to no end though I love the person dearly.

I don't think it's a jealousy thing -- I think it's a habit of focusing on the bad instead of the good. I try hard not to be that way!