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SJSM
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New here- it's long-

Hello everyone- happy new year.
My name is Stephanie and I just found this site. After reading some post, I realized I want to join this group. Everyone is just SO supportive and I feel you ladies are the only ones who truly understand what I (WE) are all going thru-

My story: I have unexplained IF- I thought it was just stress, my period stopped one day, this was due to work ( I thought I was going to be fired, I still don't know, I am a teacher, long story)
I did 3 iui=BFN,then I did one fresh ivf- it was a chemical. Then I did FET=bfn

JUST THIS SUMMER I DID ANOTHER FRESH IVF+ PREGNANT WITH TWINS, I MISCARRIED ONE AT 9 WEEK'S, I WAS SO UPSET. ONLY TO GO ON AND MISCARRY MY OTHER AT 15 WEEK'S, IT WAS THE MOST HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE, I WILL SPARE EVERYONE THE DETAILS, I JUST RECIEVED MY GENETICS REPORT BACK, THE SECOND TWIN WAS A GIRL, WITH DOWN SYNDROME. After GETTING THIS REPORT BACK, CHANGES EVERYTHING FOR ME- IT MAKES ME EVEN MORE SAD- I WISH I NEVER KNEW WHY THIS HAPPENED. I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS , I AM ONLY 37 - I NEVER EXPECTED THIS TO HAPPEN. I DID EVERY TEST POSSIBLE.I HAVE 8 FROZEN EMBROYS LEFT AND I AM NOT SURE WHAT TO DO. I AM AFRAID TO TRY AGAIN.

I GO TO LI-IVF AND Dr.bRENNER IS MY DOCTOR. THANKS FOR LISTENING.. sorry about the caps

Posted 1/5/09 10:08 AM
 
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MrsDrMatt
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Re: New here- it's long-

Welcome, although I do not post on this particular board, I want to wish you the best of luck. I lurk on this board and the support these women give to eachother brings me to tears.

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Posted 1/5/09 10:17 AM
 

Daisy32
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Re: New here- it's long-

Hi Stephanie...welcome Chat Icon Chat Icon I hope you're stay here is short and sweet Chat Icon Chat Icon
I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I also had 2 m/c's so I can relate to how u feel. Its really tough but you'd be surprised how you can dig deep inside and pull out the strength to keep going. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you get your BFP soon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 10:19 AM
 

skinny
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Re: New here- it's long-

Hi Stephanie,

Welcome! Hopefully you'll find this board as helpful and supportive as I have. I'm sorry to hear all that you've been through. Hopefully 2009 will bring better news!

Posted 1/5/09 10:21 AM
 

Donna
1 year already!!

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Donna

Re: New here- it's long-

welcome and I hope your stay on this board is short.

I'm sorry for the year that you've had and I hope 2009 is your year!

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Posted 1/5/09 12:00 PM
 

Domino
Always My Miracle

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Re: New here- it's long-

Stephanie:

Sorry to welcome you to the boardChat Icon You said that you have done all types of testing but you did not mention whether you did PGD on the embreyos you have frozen. My last IVF cycle resulted in a chemical/ectopic? =they dont know. I chose this time to go forward with PGD. It will detect chromosomal defects (including downs). it is a lot of money to spend out of pocket but I feel it will be worth it in the long run especially if it will give me more insight as to what is going on chromosomally with regard to misscarriage and poor implantation, etc.

FM if you need any infoChat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 12:06 PM
 

WNA01
my 2 boys

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Re: New here- it's long-

Hi Stephanie - welcome! I am very sorry for your losses. Chat Icon
This board is wonderful and the women on here are so supportitive.

Posted 1/5/09 12:12 PM
 

Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!

Member since 5/05

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Jen

Re: New here- it's long-

Hi Stepanie. This isn't a place any of us ever wanted to be, but we are in this together and we make the best of it. The women on here are the most amazing, supportive group in the whole world.

I am sorry for what you have been through already and sincerely hope that your stay here is short. I agree with Domino who suggested PGD testing.

Posted 1/5/09 12:19 PM
 

MrsMessina
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Re: New here- it's long-

Posted by Sneezy

Hi Stepanie. This isn't a place any of us ever wanted to be, but we are in this together and we make the best of it. The women on here are the most amazing, supportive group in the whole world.

I am sorry for what you have been through already and sincerely hope that your stay here is short. I agree with Domino who suggested PGD testing.




ITA w/ this. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 1:23 PM
 

KrisT
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Kristin

Re: New here- it's long-

Hi Stephanie! I am so sorry for your losses and everything that you are going through Chat Icon Chat Icon

This board is filled with amazing women and we are all here for you Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 1:35 PM
 

maybeamommy
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Re: New here- it's long-

Posted by MrsMessina

Posted by Sneezy

Hi Stepanie. This isn't a place any of us ever wanted to be, but we are in this together and we make the best of it. The women on here are the most amazing, supportive group in the whole world.

I am sorry for what you have been through already and sincerely hope that your stay here is short. I agree with Domino who suggested PGD testing.




ITA w/ this. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



Me too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 1:48 PM
 

Gertyrae
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Gerty ®

Re: New here- it's long-

First of all, let me say how sorry I am for your losses...and that you have to join this board.

Secondly, I agree with the idea of PGD, although I'm not sure you can do it with the embies that are frozen. I would however, ask to have a recurrent miscarriage panel run. This is a simple blood test that can be done at any time in your cycle. Based on the results from that, I would discuss with Dr. B what your options are - wether it be another IVF cycle with PGD or transferring the embies you have.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 3:20 PM
 

LaurenExp
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L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)

Re: New here- it's long-

Sorry about your losses. How awful Chat Icon

Welcome and we're here to answer all your questions (obviously if we can).

I agree with other posters. PGD could be the answer. Were you tested for clotting disorders? What about immune testing? There are tons of tests that can and should be run before you TTC again.

Lots of luck to you and I hope your stay is short Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 3:25 PM
 

Elise1971
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Re: New here- it's long-

Sorry to hear your story. I also was a pt at LIIVF. If I were you, I would thaw all 8, do PGD and transfer back 2 "normal" ones and refreeze any remaining "normal". This way you would avoid another miscarriage by knowing in advance about any abnormals. Good Luck to you.
Elise :)

Posted 1/5/09 3:38 PM
 

SJSM
LIF Adolescent

Member since 1/09

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Re: New here- it's long-

Thank you everyone for your advice. I have an appt. with Dr. B on the 15th. I have planned on asking him about running more tests. Does anyone know if my frozen embroys can be sent out for pgd testing? Or do I need to stim again? TIA
Stephanie

Posted 1/5/09 3:58 PM
 

MrsMessina
Thankful for our miracles!

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Re: New here- it's long-

Posted by SJSM

Thank you everyone for your advice. I have an appt. with Dr. B on the 15th. I have planned on asking him about running more tests. Does anyone know if my frozen embroys can be sent out for pgd testing? Or do I need to stim again? TIA
Stephanie



I'm not positive about this but I believe there are 2 ppl here who are doing PGD on their embryos and both of them last cycle (stim cycles) needed/wanted to make more embryos so they felt as though doing PGD was worth it... the didn't want to invest all of that $$$ for just a few embryos.
To my knowledge they are both doing a 2nd fresh cycle, with the goal that after their retrievals they will combine both last cycle and this cycle's embryos and do PGD- so hopefully one of them will contact you or could answer your question. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 4:01 PM
 

hoping-wishing
LIF Adolescent

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Re: New here- it's long-

i am so sorry for your losses...this is a wonderful place to be though. the support is incredible.

best of luck to you...Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 4:42 PM
 

IrishLasss334
I'll be there soon!

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Patty

Re: New here- it's long-

You have FM.

Posted 1/5/09 5:06 PM
 

Babe49
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Maria

Re: New here- it's long-

I am so sorry for your losses. I strumbled acriss this site when I has my last mc and the support and knowledge here is just a blessing! Good luck to you!Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 5:09 PM
 

BaseballWidow
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Re: New here- it's long-

Welcome and sorry to hear about your losses and struggles. I hope you find a happy end to your journey very soon!


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Shawnna

Posted 1/5/09 5:14 PM
 

-BabyMiracle-
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Re: New here- it's long-

Welcome! Hope your stay here is short. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 1/5/09 7:29 PM
 

Elise1971
LIF Infant

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Re: New here- it's long-

You can do PGD onthe frozen, my friend did it and they told her she needed at least 6, so if you have 8, that sounds like a good enough #. Or if you want to do a fresh to add to the batch, I would probably do it only if my insurance covered the fresh cycle. Good Luck!
Elise

Posted 1/5/09 7:41 PM
 

IrishLasss334
I'll be there soon!

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Patty

Re: New here- it's long-

I sent an FM, but if your insurance pays for it, I would do another fresh cycle and "batch" the fresh and the frozen together to be PGD tested, so you get more for your money.

Good luck! Chat Icon

Message edited 1/5/2009 8:47:42 PM.

Posted 1/5/09 8:47 PM
 
 

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