new moms currently home on maternity

or SAHM, does DH help you w / the night feedings, or do you get up every time?

I am home on maternity and DH helps me w/ the night feedings. I feel so bad bc he is working but at the same time, I am sooooo tired during the night I appreciate the help

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After I had my son, my husband always got up to do the middle of the night feeding (usually 1-2 am). I felt bad, but he wanted to do it. He said that he loved that time to spend with our son

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I can speak for when DD was first born. DH was very helpful in the beginnin gwhile he was home and when he first went back to work but it caught up with him.

Eventually DD and I started to sleep in the guest room for a while and I really only tried to ask for help when I felt like I was at a breaking point. He never gave me a hard time about it.

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i let him sleep during the week and on the weekends he would take over and let me sleep.

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Well DS is only a week old and DH has been home so he has been doing the first half of the night. However, we had discussed this before the baby was born and he agreed he would do it even when he was working so we'll see how that goes!!

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I am so lucky. We usually feed Anthony @ 12- 1 am and he sleeps until 5-7. So I do all of the feeings and stuff, bt DH does stay up with me until last feeding

ETA - DH sleeps upstairs in the bedroom and I sleep 2 levels down in the den, so he doesn't hear any crying

Message edited 10/3/2008 6:11:13 PM.

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He's been helping but only because he's been on vacation for the past 2 weeks since Emerson has been born. He's going back to work on Monday so I will take over the night feedings exclusively because I am a SAHM and he needs to be on his game at work. On the weekends he will help with those feedings. I don't mind since I'm not working and I can catch naps during the day when I need to.

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we alternate feedings. we are both working during the day--i am working all day with our child. he sits on his patootie at work BSing with his coworkers

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I am on maternity leave. Most of the time I hear him first so I get up. During the weekends, DH helps out more. Dh usually does the 11 pm feeding because he is up until then and I go to bed around 9/10 so I can do the 2/3 feeding. I do the rest of the feedings though. I go back to work in 5 weeks so at that time I will probably have DH do the 11 pm feeding and then I will do the 2/3 feeding and then whoever will do the 5 am feeding since we both will get up at that time.

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Nope, I did them all pretty much. He took 5 weeks off and during that time he would wake up with me. I had a C-section, so he would change any diapers, but after that he went back to bed.

Once he went back to work, he pretty much didn't get up anymore unless DS was really carrying on for a while (he'd come out to make sure everything was OK). I didn't really mind, but I would go out for a while on Saturday mornings to get a break and he would take care of DS during those 5-6 hours. For me, that was a better deal, so that's what worked for us.

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my DH has to get up at 5am for work every other week, so he doesn't help... i am BFing so it's not really a big deal.

the other weeks when he has to get up at 7am for work, he will change DS's diaper, but probably only once during the night.

it really doesn't bother me, i have to be up to feed him anyway, and i am home so i can nap during the day

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on nights that DH has to work - I do the feedings. On the weekends, he does or we switch back and forth

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I'm 4 weeks PP and my DH does help me get up during the night...he will take 1 feeding at night.
At first he wasn't helping at all, but I was becoming a zombie so I asked him to help and he has and its made a world of difference...I sooo appreciate his help.

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I felt bad last night I was up with DS all night, then at 6 am he wanted to eat again! I couldn't deal anymroe so I asked dh to feed him. I felt bad since DH does have work, but I really needed a break!

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