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Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
So...due to the fact that my SIL was staying with us on Saturday night and we had such a long day and DH wasn't home, we decided to wait til last night to try it.
So, at 11pm, I went in and gave him a bottle, he only took 4oz. DH and I went to bed and at 2:45am, he woke up, I went in and put his pacifer in his mouth and that just made him madder and madder. So, at 3:15am, I went back into my bedroom and asked DH what I should do (I should add that my SIL was still at our house, but she may be there for a while, so I didn't want to prolong b/c of that) and he said to just give him 2oz. I did that and put him back down. He slept til 6am and then I fed him 6oz and he was still sleeping when I left for work at 8am.
This kind of proves to me that he isn't starving, but the screaming was SO much and he was SO upset. I know that my dr said it would only be about a week then it would be ok, but it is so discerning in th emiddle of the night! We were successful with CIO at bedtime, but this is different to me
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Why arent you giving him bottles anymore?
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| Posted 10/8/07 9:17 AM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Why arent you giving him bottles anymore?
I am giving him bottles, just not between 11pm and 5am. My dr said that since he can go from like, say, 3:30am until 1pm and not have bottles, he should really be sleeping through the night and he has his days and nights mixed up. So between 11pm and 5am I am not allowed to feed him OR pick him up. It blows.
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| Posted 10/8/07 9:18 AM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
Why arent you giving him bottles anymore?
I am giving him bottles, just not between 11pm and 5am. My dr said that since he can go from like, say, 3:30am until 1pm and not have bottles, he should really be sleeping through the night and he has his days and nights mixed up. So between 11pm and 5am I am not allowed to feed him OR pick him up. It blows.
oh god - I dont know what I'd do if I had to stop bottles for him - I think its the same thing - when Cailen does wake up, the bottle is a comfort for him more than hunger. Bottles mean mommy holding him, and then he falls asleep... but I know when he sleeps thruogh the night, he goes 10 hours without a bottle, so he can totally do it....
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| Posted 10/8/07 9:20 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
You took the first step...thats a good start. I dont think realistically its always possible to do exactly what the ped says....you tried and made a good start with the 2 oz bottle.
KEEP IT UP!
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| Posted 10/8/07 10:15 AM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
I need to cut Jayden's midnight bottle also. I'm trying to give him more solid foods during to day to see if that makes the different. I know he's doing it out of habit now bc I gave him 4 oz the other night and he was totally satisfied.
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| Posted 10/8/07 10:34 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Why arent you giving him bottles anymore?
I am giving him bottles, just not between 11pm and 5am. My dr said that since he can go from like, say, 3:30am until 1pm and not have bottles, he should really be sleeping through the night and he has his days and nights mixed up. So between 11pm and 5am I am not allowed to feed him OR pick him up. It blows.
Do you agree with what the doctore is advising? Not to say don't listen to your doctor, that's not what I mean at all. But if you don't mind giving him that little bottle in the middle of the night, you know your baby better than anyone. If you feel comfortable with it, then why stop? He may just need that sucking on the bottle to help him calm down. Have you considered giving him water? I don't know if it will help him, but if you're comfortable with it, it's worth a shot. Maybe then he'll realize it's not worth getting up for.
I was giving Steven a little bottle at around 3:00 until he was about 9 months. He was sleeping through the night until he was about 4 months, then he started waking up and would only go back if I gave him that 2 oz. I didn't mind doing it and I knew he just needed that little bit to help him settle back to sleep, so I did it until he stopped. One night, he just stopped.
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| Posted 10/8/07 10:45 AM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Try giving him a bottle with water.
I read it works- they realize it is not worth it and stop waking up.
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| Posted 10/8/07 10:48 AM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Why arent you giving him bottles anymore?
I am giving him bottles, just not between 11pm and 5am. My dr said that since he can go from like, say, 3:30am until 1pm and not have bottles, he should really be sleeping through the night and he has his days and nights mixed up. So between 11pm and 5am I am not allowed to feed him OR pick him up. It blows.
Do you agree with what the doctore is advising? Not to say don't listen to your doctor, that's not what I mean at all. But if you don't mind giving him that little bottle in the middle of the night, you know your baby better than anyone. If you feel comfortable with it, then why stop? He may just need that sucking on the bottle to help him calm down. Have you considered giving him water? I don't know if it will help him, but if you're comfortable with it, it's worth a shot. Maybe then he'll realize it's not worth getting up for.
I was giving Steven a little bottle at around 3:00 until he was about 9 months. He was sleeping through the night until he was about 4 months, then he started waking up and would only go back if I gave him that 2 oz. I didn't mind doing it and I knew he just needed that little bit to help him settle back to sleep, so I did it until he stopped. One night, he just stopped.
I actually do agree with what my ped is saying, it is just implementing it that is getting me. It wasn't such a problem when I was home (I was tired, but so what) but now that I am working, this days and nights mixed up thing is torture.
The thing is, he is able to go for stretches of time without food, so it isn't necessiarly being hungry, it is habit. I would prefer for him to eat during the day, then to be eating the crux of his formula at night. Plus, it isn't one bottle either. It is a bottle between 11-1am, a bottle between 2-4am and then he doesn't eat again until like 1pm
I think I will try the water. The fact that 2oz pacified him makes me feel a good amount better that I am not starving him.
OH, Steph, my ped told me to start giving a meat at dinner to try to help too, I just got them yesterday, so I will see how that goes
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| Posted 10/8/07 10:53 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Posted by KateDevine
I actually do agree with what my ped is saying, it is just implementing it that is getting me. It wasn't such a problem when I was home (I was tired, but so what) but now that I am working, this days and nights mixed up thing is torture.
The thing is, he is able to go for stretches of time without food, so it isn't necessiarly being hungry, it is habit. I would prefer for him to eat during the day, then to be eating the crux of his formula at night. Plus, it isn't one bottle either. It is a bottle between 11-1am, a bottle between 2-4am and then he doesn't eat again until like 1pm
I think I will try the water. The fact that 2oz pacified him makes me feel a good amount better that I am not starving him.
OH, Steph, my ped told me to start giving a meat at dinner to try to help too, I just got them yesterday, so I will see how that goes
I hear you! I work FT too, so it is torturous getting up twice.
The meat at night sounds like it will definately help. Even if it only helps the first night time bottle, at least that would be an improvement, IMO. Just a tip that I learned the hard way...try not to give it too close to bed time. Because then if it gives him a lot of gas, he won't be able to fall asleep.
The key is consistency. I believe you definately did the right thing by holding off, then giving him the small bottle when he wouldn't take anything else. Now he'll know that the bottle won't come as soon as he cries.
Good luck the rest of the week. Trust me, I know exactly what you are going through. It's frustrating knowing that he doesn't "need" that bottle.
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
I would say try feeding him more during the day and see if he sleeps more at night.
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| Posted 10/8/07 1:51 PM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
Posted by vegalady
I would say try feeding him more during the day and see if he sleeps more at night.
This is the problem, he doesn't want to eat during the day. He wants to eat at night.
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| Posted 10/8/07 1:53 PM |
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Re: Night #1 of no bottles: I am a failure
It sounds like you are doing the right thing. If you keep feeding him in the middle of the night, it will just become a habit that will be even harder to break. You are not a failure, you are doing a good job.
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| Posted 10/8/07 2:24 PM |
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