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Angel321
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Not sure what to title this post...
okay - so i got some really nice news tonight. was at my parents' house in Long Island and my brother told me that he and his wife are expecting.
i'm VERY happy for them because i believe that they have been trying for quite some time. she's not an overly sharey person....so i can't be sure...
they're going to be WONDERFUL parents & i'm really & truly happy for them - really...but then there's that part of me asking, 'why not us?'....and then i get really upset and feel badly for feeling this way - but i can't help it...
sorry - i just had to share and maybe find out that i'm not the only one who ever feels this way!
or am i?
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Posted 7/9/08 1:01 AM  |
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
Hi Jess - you are SO not the only one that feels this way!!!  I think that it's a VERY normal part of the process...especially for those of us who have been trying for a while w/o success and/or who have suffered through a MC. I know that I've been there...and I still am...almost every day when I talk to my PG cousin and/or hear about this one or that one that's also PG. It's not that I'm not happy for them or wish that they weren't - it's not that at all. It gets to be about me though - "why are they so lucky & why am I not?" I don't know how to make it go away (or even lessen), but I just wanted to let you know that it's normal and lots of us are right with you
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| Posted 7/9/08 4:38 AM |
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Kissy331
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
You definately are not the only one to feel this way! Since starting to TTC, I have found out so many family members & friends are expecting. I am overjoyed for them but at the same time so envious. I go home & cry sometimes to DH, but he doesn't get it  It is only natural to have these feelings, especially when you are trying & it is not working.....There are times I say to DH that I don't understand why we are being "punished" by the man upstairs? It is not fair sometimes, then again, life is not...Hang in there, your time will come
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| Posted 7/9/08 6:49 AM |
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LemonHead
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
You are NOT the only one to feel that way! When you've been trying so hard for something, it's only natural to want it, and to feel bummed when it seems everyone else is having luck around you!
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| Posted 7/9/08 8:19 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
Message edited 1/21/2011 1:54:21 PM.
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| Posted 7/9/08 8:36 AM |
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QueSeraSera
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
I think it's totally normal to feel that way. We haven't even been trying for the past year, but everytime I would hear that someone I know is pregnant I would feel kind of sad.
It's kind of like when you were just dating your DH and would hear about friends/family getting engaged. You can be happy for them and a little sad or jealous at the same time.
Stay strong- It will happen for you, too!
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| Posted 7/9/08 8:58 AM |
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KrisT
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Posted by Kissy331
You definately are not the only one to feel this way! Since starting to TTC, I have found out so many family members & friends are expecting. I am overjoyed for them but at the same time so envious. I go home & cry sometimes to DH, but he doesn't get it It is only natural to have these feelings, especially when you are trying & it is not working.....There are times I say to DH that I don't understand why we are being "punished" by the man upstairs? It is not fair sometimes, then again, life is not...Hang in there, your time will come
I completely agree!
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| Posted 7/9/08 9:17 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
its totally normal to feel this way...
all of us who have family members or close friends that are pregnant are truly happy for them.. but at the same time you cant help but be sad.. its life, and you cant help your feelings
i hope you are ok,, we love you!!
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| Posted 7/9/08 9:18 AM |
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Teachergal
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You are absolutely not the only one! You are only human and humans have complex feelings. I think it is normal to sometimes feel more than one emotion at the same time. You can be happy for your brother and sad for yourself and that's ok! I am currently TTC at the same time as 3 of our couple friends. I am paranoid that they are all going to get pregnant before me. That doesn't mean that I won't be extremely happy for them when they do get pregnant -I will- it just means that I know myself and part of me will be sad for "us" if we are not. I don't think it makes us bad people...just TTCers!
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| Posted 7/9/08 9:30 AM |
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diva7531
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It's totaly normal to feel this way. It WILL happen to you!
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| Posted 7/9/08 9:37 AM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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I know how you feel. I felt a little twinge of jealousy when my sister told me she was having her 5th. I was thinking... "where is my 2nd?"
It's okay to feel that way, it's normal and the feeling will pass.
Tell your brother and DW I said congrats!
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| Posted 7/9/08 9:49 AM |
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Angel321
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just reading what everyone wrote has me in tears again. I cried most of the way home from LI last night. Dave TRIED to understand - he really did, but he just didn't get it.
I went through this when my best friend of 20 years got pregnant last year, but I was 100% jealous of her. She tried for maybe a month and blammo - there they were - pregnant as can be.
thank you ladies - it means the world to me, and i mean that, that you all understand where i'm coming from.
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| Posted 7/9/08 10:26 AM |
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Lizzy
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I think you would be soul-less not to feel that way! Of course you are happy for them, but it's human nature to be jealous when someone else gets something you really really want.
Even better, when you guys get preggo soon, your babies will be the same age!! 
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| Posted 7/9/08 12:48 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
oh & i forgot to mention that this is my parent's first grandchild.....i wanted to badly to be able to give them that...
okay, getting upset again...sorry...
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| Posted 7/9/08 1:47 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Posted by davenjess
oh & i forgot to mention that this is my parent's first grandchild.....i wanted to badly to be able to give them that...
okay, getting upset again...sorry...
I know this feeling very well.
I am older than my sister by MANY years. She was the first to get married. When I got married I really wanted to give my parents their first grandbaby. We started trying in August of 2006 - 9 months after we got married. My sister was married 4.5 years at this point. My sister started TTC in Nov 2006, in Dec 2006 she announced she was pregnant. I had literally just found out we were going to have problems conceiving when she told us. Of course, I was THRILLED for my sister, but it was extreamly painful for me at the same time. I wouldn't have even minded us being pregnant together, I thought it would be fun, but that didn't happen either.
It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. It's hard not to feel jealous when you've been trying for something so long and it seems to come so easily for others.
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| Posted 7/9/08 2:00 PM |
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Nikkibean
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If I had a dollar for everytime I wanted to curse someone who told me they were pregnant...i'd be rich!! It's totally normal. Of course you are happy for them- your going to be an AUNT!!! Congrats!! That's great news!! And when your done feeling upset i'm sure you will be just as happy for them as you want to be. Don't beat yourself up. Your time will come soon!
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| Posted 7/9/08 4:32 PM |
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Lizzy
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
this is my parent's first grandchild.....i wanted to badly to be able to give them that...
I am so sorry. I want this really badly too so I know what you are feeling.
Your baby will be MUCH better looking! 
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| Posted 7/9/08 4:41 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
I think we all know a little bit about how you're feeling.
It's such a bittersweet thing.
We're here for you 
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| Posted 7/9/08 4:51 PM |
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Angel321
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Posted by Lizzy
this is my parent's first grandchild.....i wanted to badly to be able to give them that...
I am so sorry. I want this really badly too so I know what you are feeling.
Your baby will be MUCH better looking!
You are too funny!!!! 
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| Posted 7/10/08 11:03 AM |
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
It is completely normal for you to feel that way... although you are happy for them you are sad for yourself.. they are two completely different emotions that get tangled into one... dont feel bad about it.
good luck for next month 
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| Posted 7/10/08 12:02 PM |
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carlowlou
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Re: Not sure what to title this post...
I know the feeling. you're not alone in feeling this way...
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