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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
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Not welcome on other boards...
Eh.
I needed some opinions from parents, and have posted questions, only to get no replies.
Very annoying. Definitely makes me feel very unwelcome.
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Posted 11/22/10 2:44 PM  |
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Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Maybe someone here can help? 
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| Posted 11/22/10 2:45 PM |
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dfw343
LIF Infant
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
we might be able to help!
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| Posted 11/22/10 2:54 PM |
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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
I wasn't sure if I should get my nephews big presents or small presents since they are in a small rental while the new house is being built, and my SIL can sometimes be passive aggressive...a small gift and she thinks I'm cheap, a big gift and she complains about how much space it takes up, etc.
Thanks 
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| Posted 11/22/10 2:56 PM |
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dfw343
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
what about GC and write in card something about new place new things...
This way she can get big when they have more space.
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:01 PM |
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Nifheim
allo
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
i have been ignored on that board, complete PIA.
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:06 PM |
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Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
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Professional Aunts No Kids
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Yes I have...but yet they insist that all are welcome....
Im "glad" to see Im not alone...(Im not glad that you are being ignored but now I know its not just me...KWIM?)
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:10 PM |
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Christine
2nd verse same as the 1st
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by dfw343
what about GC and write in card something about new place new things...
This way she can get big when they have more space.
I would do something like this then. If the house is being built, they must be planning to move soon. This way there's less to pack but your SIL will still think you're being generous. Not that it should matter how much you spend (sorry I couldn't not throw that in there.  )
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:13 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Get your newphews what you want to get them, don't worry that SIL has to make a comment about the size of the gift.
Something about looking a gift horse in the mouth......
Oh, yeah, about the other board. Sometimes I feel others are too wrapped up in their own thing to offer up advice, or come up with advice with a dose of superiority complex.
We might not have kids of our own, but lots of us have access to children, either the children of friends or of siblings.
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:20 PM |
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MissRadiant
Happily Ever After
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Ask us, although we're not parents at least we'll respond to you
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:23 PM |
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greenfreak
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by SusiBee
Get your nephews what you want to get them, don't worry that SIL has to make a comment about the size of the gift.
Something about looking a gift horse in the mouth.
Agreed. I dealt with an unappreciative person in my family for a while and finally told them how materialistic they looked. It got a little better. I told her if she kept making comments, I was going to get the kids the most annoying, noisy toys on the planet. 
Since the presents are not for her, if the kids are happy, that's all that should matter. You could ask her too, but she may still be vague so she can complain about it later.
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| Posted 11/22/10 3:47 PM |
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jilliibabii
Mrs. O'Connor
Member since 6/10 12821 total posts
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by greenfreak
Posted by SusiBee
Get your nephews what you want to get them, don't worry that SIL has to make a comment about the size of the gift.
Something about looking a gift horse in the mouth.
Agreed. I dealt with an unappreciative person in my family for a while and finally told them how materialistic they looked. It got a little better. I told her if she kept making comments, I was going to get the kids the most annoying, noisy toys on the planet.
Since the presents are not for her, if the kids are happy, that's all that should matter. You could ask her too, but she may still be vague so she can complain about it later.
ITA. You just cannot please some people no matter what you do. Get the kids a nice drum set. 
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| Posted 11/22/10 4:04 PM |
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WhatNow
Say Cheese!
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Crashing... Jeez, I hope I am welcomed
As a parent of 2 living a tiny 2 bedroom a can very much appreciate your concern for the lack of space for larger gift. Very thoughtful of you, actually.
When you use words "big" or "small" do you mean the actualy size or the monetary value? If it's the latter, perhaps the best approach would be to get him something small in size but BIG in value... There a plenty of toys that are NOT cheap by any means but do not take up a lot of room.
How old are your nephews? I have a boy and would be happy to help with ideas...
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| Posted 11/22/10 5:17 PM |
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MeNBobs
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Your thread on parenting had 2 replies. I don't think you were ignored. Some parents right now have posts with zero replies. It just depends. I think the best thing to do would be to call your SIL and ask her what she would prefer you do.
As for some other posters I'm really not surprised parents don't respond to you. At times parents have come to this board to offer the other side and they are told this board is not for them and in not so nice terms to go away. I have never seen anything like that on the parenting board.
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| Posted 11/22/10 5:20 PM |
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MrsRbk
<3 <3 <3 <3
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by MeNBobs
Your thread on parenting had 2 replies. I don't think you were ignored. Some parents right now have posts with zero replies. It just depends. I think the best thing to do would be to call your SIL and ask her what she would prefer you do.
As for some other posters I'm really not surprised parents don't respond to you. At times parents have come to this board to offer the other side and they are told this board is not for them and in not so nice terms to go away. I have never seen anything like that on the parenting board.
I agree.
heck, I'm a parent of 2, and have stopped starting posts on parenting because I rarely get replies. I'm sure nobody says to themselves... "hmmm, they don't have a kid(s) so I'm not going to reply"
As for your question, maybe a GC to Toys R Us and let the kids pick something or multiple things they want. We've done that, and have made it a special "aunt/uncle/neice/nephew" day out, and the kids love it.
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| Posted 11/22/10 5:34 PM |
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Karma
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by Lisa
Yes I have...but yet they insist that all are welcome....
Im "glad" to see Im not alone...(Im not glad that you are being ignored but now I know its not just me...KWIM?)
Love it. You are the first to tell parents to get the hell off "your" board but then are pisssed off when they ignore you on "their" board.
heathergirl I am sorry you were ignored. I hope you get some good help on this board, I know there are stepparents who post here and they may have some experience.
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| Posted 11/22/10 5:49 PM |
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Jenn627
Laaaaaaaambert!
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
I would do a GC - but if they're young, something small as well. Like an action figure - Bakugan or something, just so they could play with it immediately. What are their ages?
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| Posted 11/22/10 5:51 PM |
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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
Member since 10/08 4978 total posts
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American mouth
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by WhatNow
Crashing... Jeez, I hope I am welcomed
As a parent of 2 living a tiny 2 bedroom a can very much appreciate your concern for the lack of space for larger gift. Very thoughtful of you, actually.
When you use words "big" or "small" do you mean the actualy size or the monetary value? If it's the latter, perhaps the best approach would be to get him something small in size but BIG in value... There a plenty of toys that are NOT cheap by any means but do not take up a lot of room.
How old are your nephews? I have a boy and would be happy to help with ideas...
Thanks! I was thinking in terms of the size of the gift...my SIL can be a little materialistic, but I also know that sometimes kids just get too much stuff, and I want my gifts to be something they could actually use, be it clothes, books or toys. I don't want to get them things that will sit unused or take up space or clutter.
They are 6 and 3 (almost) and I feel like I tend to stick with the same things.
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| Posted 11/22/10 6:16 PM |
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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
Member since 10/08 4978 total posts
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American mouth
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by MeNBobs
Your thread on parenting had 2 replies. I don't think you were ignored. Some parents right now have posts with zero replies. It just depends. I think the best thing to do would be to call your SIL and ask her what she would prefer you do.
As for some other posters I'm really not surprised parents don't respond to you. At times parents have come to this board to offer the other side and they are told this board is not for them and in not so nice terms to go away. I have never seen anything like that on the parenting board.
Yeah you're right, but this definitely isn't the first post that its happened to me to. I am letting it bother me slightly because I am PMSing
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| Posted 11/22/10 6:17 PM |
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LSP2005
Bunny kisses are so cute!
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
I did not see your post on parenting, but I lurk here so I will reply as a parent of a 3 year old DS. I would get a leapster or a mobigo. Neither are inexpensive gifts and they are small in size. As for the 6 year old, a Nintendo DS - it is a little more expensive but also a compact present. If you go to the toys r us website, they offer recommendations based on age and $ amount. Perhaps the kids or your SIL might have suggestions for you. Good luck!
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| Posted 11/23/10 12:03 AM |
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Nifheim
allo
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Jennifer
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
there is a difference when your opinion is being asked and when it is not being asked. But this is me and how i feel. I feel if your asking for opinions then your welcoming anyone to respond if your asking for specific people to comment (hey parents what do you think) then they are asking for particular opinions so i don't respond.
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| Posted 11/23/10 9:38 AM |
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WhatNow
Say Cheese!
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Posted by heathergirl
Posted by WhatNow
Crashing... Jeez, I hope I am welcomed
As a parent of 2 living a tiny 2 bedroom a can very much appreciate your concern for the lack of space for larger gift. Very thoughtful of you, actually.
When you use words "big" or "small" do you mean the actualy size or the monetary value? If it's the latter, perhaps the best approach would be to get him something small in size but BIG in value... There a plenty of toys that are NOT cheap by any means but do not take up a lot of room.
How old are your nephews? I have a boy and would be happy to help with ideas...
Thanks! I was thinking in terms of the size of the gift...my SIL can be a little materialistic, but I also know that sometimes kids just get too much stuff, and I want my gifts to be something they could actually use, be it clothes, books or toys. I don't want to get them things that will sit unused or take up space or clutter.
They are 6 and 3 (almost) and I feel like I tend to stick with the same things.
I love this site: http://fatbraintoys.com/
It has a bunch of very good toys, with lots of higher end options, and you can sort it out by age and gender.
My kids are 3 and 5 and they both love puzzles and books, so I think those are always a good idea and it doesn't take much room. I also like the suggestion of a GC and a token gift for each boy, just to have something in their hands on that special day. For boys, you CAN'T go wrong with a small car, tank or bus that fits in their pockets, or a little larger! They sell them all over and they are always a hit.
HTH
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| Posted 11/23/10 2:26 PM |
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MikesBride
LIF Adult
Member since 12/09 1245 total posts
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Ilana
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
Don't worry, I am a parent and they ignore me too
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| Posted 11/23/10 4:32 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Not welcome on other boards...
I would have answered if I saw your posts, if I knew the answer that is.
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| Posted 11/23/10 11:35 PM |
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I saw your post on parenting. To be honest I didn't know you didnt have kids. I didn't reply because I didn't have an answer to your question.
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