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GoldenRod
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Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1975371,00.html?hpt=C2
Mothers who outsource the care of their sons to other women may be inadvertently raising adulterers. Or so claims Dr. Dennis Friedman in a book that has kicked up a bit of a ruckus in Britain. A Fellow of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, the doctor argues that men become womanizers because their mothers left them with nannies.
According to Friedman, having two women care for a baby boy may cause his little brain to internalize the idea that there are multiple females to meet his needs. "It introduces him to the concept of the other woman," he said in London's Daily Telegraph. He explicates the relationship in his book The Unsolicited Gift: Why We Do The Things We Do, which explores how a mother's love for her offspring can determine how those children behave as adults.
Girls are affected by nannies too. Not having her mother around creates in the infant female a "vacuum of need," says Friedman, which she might try to fill in later life with substance abuse or promiscuity — presumably with those married men in her social circle who were also raised by nannies.
But it is the thesis concerning boys that has been more controversial. Having two maternal objects, says Friedman, "creates a division in [the boy's] mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has a real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park, and with whom he feels completely at one." This dual-woman life, one for family and one for catering to his every need, might become a set pattern in his mind, so that when he grows up and feels like his needs are not being met, he strays beyond the home.
See, it's not the man's fault.... it's his mom's fault for having to work to pay for food and clothing. Makes perfect sense.... 
I also guess that decades ago, when "it takes a village to raise a child", and the entire family helped to care for children, that most men grew up needing a harem....
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CrankyPants
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
My mom was a SAHM until I went to school. After that, I went to a sitter-I guess that explains why I'm such wh0re
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MrsA714
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Oh well now that there's an excuse, that totally makes it ok now.
I had every intention of monitoring DDs tv and computer usage when she got older but since we are already damned (with my MIL watching her and all) I guess Ill just have to assume Girls Gone Wild may possibly be in her future .
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Complete and utter bs.
I know a guy who cheated on his wife multiple times with more than one woman. His mother was a stay at home mom who was so far up his azz, she'd still be diapering him if it was up to her. His dad, on the other hand, was a cheater.
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| Posted 3/26/10 8:45 AM |
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Wow this is really SUCH good news for me because my MIL was a SAHM and my mom was a SAHM so DH and I will neverrrrrrrrrrrrr have to worry about cheating, drug abuse, or STDs. Awesome I must ring him and tell him now. 
Maybe a for a 1 year old it "may cause his little brain to internalize the idea that there are multiple females to meet his needs." But when he feels the same way at 30 it ain't about his daycare
I'd like to give Dr. Friedman "The Unsolicited Gift" of a thump in the head.
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| Posted 3/26/10 8:53 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
my mom was a SAHM, and i can't seem to stay married...  i guess, i'm the exception to the rule... there must be something my father did to make me such a wh0re
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| Posted 3/26/10 8:55 AM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Posted by CrankyPants
My mom was a SAHM until I went to school. After that, I went to a sitter-I guess that explains why I'm such wh0re
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GioiaMia
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
My grandmother took care of all of us while my mom worked, I wonder what this means for us 
What a wackadoo.
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| Posted 3/26/10 9:03 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Posted by nrthshgrl
Complete and utter bs.
I know a guy who cheated on his wife multiple times with more than one woman. His mother was a stay at home mom who was so far up his azz, she'd still be diapering him if it was up to her. His dad, on the other hand, was a cheater.
hmmm I wonder if that had anything to do with it?
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pinkandblue
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Posted by CrankyPants
My mom was a SAHM until I went to school. After that, I went to a sitter-I guess that explains why I'm such wh0re
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Cheeks24
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Oh I heard about this on Q104 driving to the train yesterday! I wondered where to find it What a whackjob!
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GoldenRod
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
I was a latch-key kid for a few years.... I guess that means I don't need any women now?
I wonder if a certain someone is starting to preemptively come up with excuses for when he eventually gets caught... 
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Shelly
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
And if they have a "manny" (male nanny), will that make them bisexual?
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Posted by Shelly
And if they have a "manny" (male nanny), will that make them bisexual?
I was wondering about that!
Seriously, this stuff is such BS.
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| Posted 3/26/10 10:21 PM |
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MsSissy
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ahhhhh.....now I feel so much better about returning to work in 3 weeks and leaving my 3 month old son with a nanny.
What an idiot that writer is. He is probably a misoginist who got caught cheating on his own wife and is trying to blame his mother.
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Posted by Shelly
And if they have a "manny" (male nanny), will that make them bisexual?
I was wondering if i'm creating a lesbian of DD by having another woman watch HER during the day? I mean, if we follow the same logic....
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waterspout4
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
This thread is killing me!!
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dandr10199
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Re: Oh.... THAT'S the reason men cheat....
Posted by nrthshgrl
His mother was a stay at home mom who was so far up his azz, she'd still be diapering him if it was up to her.
Sorry, but this had me LMAO!
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PrincessP
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CaiDizzle is gonna be one hell of a manwh0re
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