OK BTDT Mommies I need help-- I have totally realized that no matter what my daughter says

She is having real issues with the baby coming soon.

She has been a beast the last couple of days. Today a infants pampers swaddlers arrived in the mail I made the mistake of showing that to her. We are now in the middle of a full blown, almost made herself puke, temper tantrum. She is not happy suddenly about the baby coming. I know that she is going through a lot of changes, moved to a new room and such, but she is acting like a caged animal.

We have all these special things plans for over the next couple of weeks so that she continues to feel special, like her birthday party on Sunday. I just don't know what else to do. She won't let me talk to her. She is bad for my dh but once he leaves for work at noon its like hell has broken lose around here.

Any advice on how to help her transitiation? I don't want my little girl to feel like she isn't important anymore.

Re: OK BTDT Mommies I need help-- I have totally realized that no matter what my daughter says

Just leave it be. She will come around soon enough. Give her the time she needs to get adjusted. Make no reference to "baby." That's a big thing too. She is your baby too. Refer to her younger sibling either by name or "your little brother/sister."

Don't show her the baby's stuff or any of that stuff.

When my DD was born, I didn't even put her into DS's face. I gave him time to come around and warm up to her on his own.

Try not to mention the baby from now until the baby comes. I know that's hard, but it will work. Make every day a special day for her.

Good luck. This is a very big step for them as well. They have been the (only) center of your universe for so long that it's hard for them to grasp that someone new's in town. lol

Re: OK BTDT Mommies I need help-- I have totally realized that no matter what my daughter says

Posted by bicosi

Just leave it be. She will come around soon enough. Give her the time she needs to get adjusted. Make no reference to "baby." That's a big thing too. She is your baby too. Refer to her younger sibling either by name or "your little brother/sister."

Don't show her the baby's stuff or any of that stuff.

When my DD was born, I didn't even put her into DS's face. I gave him time to come around and warm up to her on his own.

Try not to mention the baby from now until the baby comes. I know that's hard, but it will work. Make every day a special day for her.

Good luck. This is a very big step for them as well. They have been the (only) center of your universe for so long that it's hard for them to grasp that someone new's in town. lol

Re: OK BTDT Mommies I need help-- I have totally realized that no matter what my daughter says

Posted by Jamie

Posted by bicosi

Just leave it be. She will come around soon enough. Give her the time she needs to get adjusted. Make no reference to "baby." That's a big thing too. She is your baby too. Refer to her younger sibling either by name or "your little brother/sister."

Don't show her the baby's stuff or any of that stuff.

When my DD was born, I didn't even put her into DS's face. I gave him time to come around and warm up to her on his own.

Try not to mention the baby from now until the baby comes. I know that's hard, but it will work. Make every day a special day for her.

Good luck. This is a very big step for them as well. They have been the (only) center of your universe for so long that it's hard for them to grasp that someone new's in town. lol

Thank you! I know and it's breaking my heart that she is behaving like this. She just cried herself to sleep which is making me cry now too.

My husband and my mother kept refering to the baby as the new baby and I told them both to stop that. I keep telling her that she is mommy's favorite little girl, but the problem is I am having complications again and I am in a lot pain. What I can do is very limited and she knows that is because of the baby. She wanted to ride her bike yesterday. I took her and now I am in so much pain because of it that i can barely move. I know she resents that because we have always been an active mother and daughter.

ugh this is so awful.

I just feel so awful for her. I know that she will come around but it breaks me heart to see her so upset.