Ok, help me out here.

I am on a mission. I think I am spoiling my kid! Not with toys but with life. I always justify myself in saying "well I very rarely buy her toys outside of bday and christmas" but the truth is she could care less about all of that stuff. I put so much importance on making sure she is happy and well taken care of that I think I took it to the next level. If she drops something, I pick it up, if she wants a snack, I get it, if she needs to use the bathroom, I help. I'll be honest, some of this is out of laziness. That I know it takes work to get to do it herself. But I have had an epiphany in a sense. I had such a HORRIBLE day today. I have a full plate with her, babysitting and working for DH and I realized that some independence from her will help us both a lot in the long run, no matter how hard it is to get there. And if I don't nip it now, I am going to have an awful teenager on my hands. Now mind you, I do have a VERY strong willed little girl, but I can do it (with some help along the way). Thanks for reading! Just needed to vent and warn for future advise posts

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It sounds like she and my DS would make a very good match

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The funny thing is, we DON'T do stuff for DC, sometimes out of laziness...

DD is 4, and DS is 7. They both know where the water is, they know where most of the snacks are, they know where the art supplies are.

Why should I pause my riveting HGTV show just to get something that they can get....

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Posted by cantbelieveit

I am on a mission. I think I am spoiling my kid! Not with toys but with life. I always justify myself in saying "well I very rarely buy her toys outside of bday and christmas" but the truth is she could care less about all of that stuff. I put so much importance on making sure she is happy and well taken care of that I think I took it to the next level. If she drops something, I pick it up, if she wants a snack, I get it, if she needs to use the bathroom, I help. I'll be honest, some of this is out of laziness. That I know it takes work to get to do it herself. But I have had an epiphany in a sense. I had such a HORRIBLE day today. I have a full plate with her, babysitting and working for DH and I realized that some independence from her will help us both a lot in the long run, no matter how hard it is to get there. And if I don't nip it now, I am going to have an awful teenager on my hands. Now mind you, I do have a VERY strong willed little girl, but I can do it (with some help along the way). Thanks for reading! Just needed to vent and warn for future advise posts

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Well I don't really know what to do, but I have started with her going to the bathroom by herself. I was helping her in, on, off, etc. Rediculous! She has been potty trained since 2 and she just turned 4! She whines and asks me to turn on the light for her but other than that, she is doing it. And the other thing I started is not getting her everything she wants. For instance, last night while watching tv before bed, she wanted to change the channel. So she asked me to get the remote. I told her if she wants the channel changed, she has to get the remote. Then she whined that I need to walk her over to it. It took about 4 minutes but she eventually got it herself. Geez, the more I write about this stuff the more I realize just how bad it is, lol. Baby steps, but we had a much better day yesterday. Good luck to you as well

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Thanks Tammy! Its nice to know I'm not alone. All day its....mommy get my juice please (its on his table 2 feet away) mommy put my blanket on me please, mommy I have to go potty, ok go, nooooo come with me, pull down my pants....heeeelp me. I have already been trying to stop the bathroom help. He doesn't need it. I know its my fault. Up until 3 mos ago he was my only child and I just did whatever he needed me to do and he isn't the overly independent type.

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I have been gently reminding DS that whining is one of the things that gets him a time out. If he wants to be treated like a big boy and not get a time out, he needs to either ask politely or do it himself.
In regards to the bathroom stuff, many times I say I will meet him there. It takes me longer and longer "to get there" and now he just goes by himself. He can reach the light and do everything, he just likes me in there