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allIwant
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Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
So I had a playdate today with my close girlfriends from elementary school/middle school and their kids.
My friend lives OOT so I don't see her DC often but IMO he is out of control. He is 4 and he was constantly grabing toys from my kids (19 months), yelling, jumping on the couch, jumping all over my neighbor and hitting her (in her 50s) etc and he even broke a wooden toy that we have.
My friend does nothing to discipline him. So I know this is why he is this way because he gets away with it.
They are staying here and he was just running around like a maniac and woke my kids up. I finally said something to him.
Do you say something? Tell him he needs to follow the rules of your house ie no standing on the couch?
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
I would just explain to him you have house rules and you expect him to adhere to them as your guest. I have told other children the house rules when they are acting up in my house. I.e. No jumping on furniture, sharing, taking turns, hands are not for hitting, no spitting.
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| Posted 8/29/12 9:41 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
I say something.
I have a friend whose DD is rough and she doesn't always listen. My friend does correct her but when she is here without her or if she is in another part of the house when her DD acts up I address it. I'm more gentle when addressing it than I would be with my own kid but none the less I say something. For example, I tell the kids not to go in my bedroom. I don't think kids belong in a grown ups bedroom when the grown up is not there. She always goes in out room. So I address it when I see her in there.
In thinking back-I've even said something if the parent is there but they don't address it. If the kid took a toy, and my friend didn't address it I've said something like, "Gabrielle, could you please give that back to the baby she wasn't done with it yet". I don't do it to be a jerk I just don't want another kid hurting mine or taking things from the weak I would be fine with a friend saying something to my kid too.
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| Posted 8/29/12 9:48 PM |
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Explain the house rules. If he doesn't listen after that I'd ask my friend to please tell her son not to jump on the couch, etc.
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| Posted 8/29/12 9:51 PM |
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Arieschick29
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Heck yeah I say something.
I'm not gonna let anyone act like that to my kids or in front of my kids.
I usually start out saying nicely " We don't do that in this house" but if it continues, I use my teacher voice and issue a consequence warning. Then I would have to turn to my friend and ask them to leave.
I would not want bad behavior being shown as ok in front of my 3 year old.
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| Posted 8/29/12 10:15 PM |
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Did the mom apologize to you? My son had one bad day at a friend's house and I am still apolgozing for it, because I am embarrassed!!!! Although he used to jump on the couch at home I made him stop b/c that was the only way he would know not to at other homes. That day at my friend's house all the kids were wild b/c it was raining out but they got along well. Still, I feel terrible and I was the one who told my son that this cannot be done in another home!!!!
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| Posted 8/29/12 11:33 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Did the mom apologize to you? My son had one bad day at a friend's house and I am still apolgozing for it, because I am embarrassed!!!! Although he used to jump on the couch at home I made him stop b/c that was the only way he would know not to at other homes. That day at my friend's house all the kids were wild b/c it was raining out but they got along well. Still, I feel terrible and I was the one who told my son that this cannot be done in another home!!!!
No she didn't Apologize not even when he broke the toy. And in your example I would just like you. But the fact that you apologized would make it fine. Every kid can have a bad day.
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| Posted 8/30/12 6:06 AM |
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allIwant
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Thanks for your replies. Next time I will be more vocal if my friend gets upset with me too bad! I don't want anyone to get hurt in my house.
It was a very long day and I'm sure being pregnant didn't help my tolerance but I can tell you this they will probably not be invites to stay over again. My kids go to bed early and he was still running wild at 10 pm... No thank you!
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| Posted 8/30/12 6:10 AM |
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Re: Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
Posted by allIwant
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Did the mom apologize to you? My son had one bad day at a friend's house and I am still apolgozing for it, because I am embarrassed!!!! Although he used to jump on the couch at home I made him stop b/c that was the only way he would know not to at other homes. That day at my friend's house all the kids were wild b/c it was raining out but they got along well. Still, I feel terrible and I was the one who told my son that this cannot be done in another home!!!!
No she didn't Apologize not even when he broke the toy. And in your example I would just like you. But the fact that you apologized would make it fine. Every kid can have a bad day.
Apple trees don't grow oranges! Since Mom won't apologize, he won't learn to. Try to correct him as gently as you can but don't accept that behavior.
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| Posted 8/30/12 6:25 AM |
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Other peoples kids not listening/out of control at your house
I have a friend whose ds is like this. It is sad but the friendship suffers and no one invites her and her kids to their home. Playdates are at the park or if she invites us over. I will say things like "be careful" or "no hitting" but only when my dd is in direct harm.
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| Posted 8/30/12 8:16 AM |
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