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ddunne2
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
You need to be honest but in terms of what a three year old will understand. I very unfortuanately had to deal with this when my dad passed away last year. Jack, now 4, understands what it means, but doesn't understand the finality of it...he sometimes still asks "when will pop be back?". Anyway, I actually spoke with a child grief counselor while my Dad was in hospice and they told me to tell my son that Pop's body was getting old got sick and stopped working, so he went to heaven to live with God. You have to put the abstract concept of death in tangible terms if that makes sense? BUT make sure to tell your DD that this cannot happen to Mommy or Daddy...mommy and daddy and anyone else in your life are safe.
You need to be honest, but reassure her that you and your DH are FINE and will not leave her. But don't be surpirsed if she continues to ask when the dog will come home..
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
Posted by ddunne2
You need to be honest but in terms of what a three year old will understand. I very unfortuanately had to deal with this when my dad passed away last year. Jack, now 4, understands what it means, but doesn't understand the finality of it...he sometimes still asks "when will pop be back?". Anyway, I actually spoke with a child grief counselor while my Dad was in hospice and they told me to tell my son that Pop's body was getting old got sick and stopped working, so he went to heaven to live with God. You have to put the abstract concept of death in tangible terms if that makes sense? BUT make sure to tell your DD that this cannot happen to Mommy or Daddy...mommy and daddy and anyone else in your life are safe.
You need to be honest, but reassure her that you and your DH are FINE and will not leave her. But don't be surpirsed if she continues to ask when the dog will come home..
Thank you for those excellent points. I probably would not have thought of that.
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tiki03
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I am really sorry 
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twinkletoes807
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I am so very sorry for your loss.  I have no experience telling a 3 year old about death. I hope it goes well for you. Lots of hugs to you, your hubby and DD!
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DmarieK
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I'm so sorry about your dog!! I would be as honest as you can be with a 3 year old. There's no easy way to go about it.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I have no advice, I just wanted to say I'm so sorry!
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
First of all, I'm so sorry. When my grandmother passed away, we had to explain it to Ava, so we told her that Grandma now lives in heaven, and even though we can't see her anymore, we can still talk to her and think about her. Every now and then, she says out of nowhere, "Grandma is in heaven, Mommy. She's not sick anymore." or she'll say about my sister's dog, "Charlie lives with Grandma in heaven now, Mommy." So, it was enough for her at this point in time.
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LSP2005
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I am so sorry about your Dog. I think all the other girls who posted and said to tell the truth are right. I would also add something about that it is ok to be sad. Perhaps she could draw a picture of the dog to remember him. Many hugs.
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Goobster
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
OMG, I have no idea but I just wanted to say I am very sorry.
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pmpkn087
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I don't have any advice, but wanted to give
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
I'm so sorry to hear about your dog...
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Stacey1403
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
First off I am so very sorry
There is a terrific book called The tenth good thing about Barney it is about a cat but it is a nice story to deal with the death of a beloved pet.
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CkGm
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
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I was told he went to the farm to have a bigger place to run and lot of animal friends, its hard for a 3 yearold, they dont undertand death...i know its lying but its a white lie...
I don't agree, no offense. Then she'd want to GO to the farm, etc.
I'd tell her that Lily got very sick and she passed away and that means she went to heaven and is in a better place with treats and everything that she loves.
I'm sorry for your loss
ITA- even if she doesn't truly understand death yet, be honest and let her know that Lily is no longer going to be there.
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Our dog died tonight-How do I explain this to Miranda?
i don't have any words of advice. i just wanted to say how sorry i am about your dog. i can't even imagine how you feel
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