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browneyedgirl
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people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
ugh. no one ever came near DS when he was an infant and in his infant carrier. no one tried to touch or kiss him. they'd talk to him and talk to me about him, but i never had a single incident where a stranger tried to touch him.
now that he's walking, everyone and their mother is trying to touch and kiss him! i'm not a germophobe by any means, but if i don't know you, don't touch my kid!
i have so many little kids come and pat his head and try to kiss his face! some have succeeded because i wasn't quick enough, but most i can tell "don't touch!". they think he's so cute and tell him that while they're trying to touch him.
and so many parents LET them--that's the worst part!
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Alot of people talk to my toddler, but no ones ever tried to kiss her.. whats up with that?? who would go up to a strange child and kiss them? thats weird. I would probable bust a move on them if they tried
eta: reread your post.. kids.. oh yes other kids have come up to her and tried to hug and kiss her. My dd puts on her mad face and makes some screech sound that is her way of saying get away. My dd doesnt like.
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| Posted 8/13/09 8:29 AM |
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ChrisDee
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
I have this too Why do people feel the need to touch their hands too??? UGH I never touch peoples kids that I do not know. My kids are also told that if they want to touch a FRIENDS baby, ask 1st and then touch the feet or legs only!
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| Posted 8/13/09 8:30 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
yes! oh man i thought it was just me no one ever came up to him as a newborn/infant but now that he is older (and of course so cute  ) people come up to him ALL the time, rub his head, touch his cheek, or his arm/leg... even when i am holding him!!!
people are so rude.
and the worst is when you are in the children's place and a random 2 year old comes running up to him to touch him and you have to yell at her because her mother, who is standing 3 feet away, doesn't say a word and just stands there staring.
this happened yesterday and i am still fuming.
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| Posted 8/13/09 8:33 AM |
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dpli
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
I guess I am the exception. I don't really mind if other kids touch or kiss DS, as long as they don't hurt him. I figure he's in daycare anyway, so what are they going to give him, germwise, that he isn't already exposed to there.
I haven't seen this with adults, but my DS is shy and usually won't let an adult get that close to him anyway.
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| Posted 8/13/09 9:41 AM |
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jerseypanda
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by dpli
I guess I am the exception. I don't really mind if other kids touch or kiss DS, as long as they don't hurt him. I figure he's in daycare anyway, so what are they going to give him, germwise, that he isn't already exposed to there.
I haven't seen this with adults, but my DS is shy and usually won't let an adult get that close to him anyway.
I agree with this. I think kids are just trying to be nice and it doesn't bother me.
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| Posted 8/13/09 10:11 AM |
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XcalystaX
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by jerseypanda
Posted by dpli
I guess I am the exception. I don't really mind if other kids touch or kiss DS, as long as they don't hurt him. I figure he's in daycare anyway, so what are they going to give him, germwise, that he isn't already exposed to there.
I haven't seen this with adults, but my DS is shy and usually won't let an adult get that close to him anyway.
I agree with this. I think kids are just trying to be nice and it doesn't bother me.
I agree, if they are being gentle and my DD is ok with it, then I'm OK with it too. In terms of adults though, my DD will freak if a stranger tries to touch her, LOL.
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| Posted 8/13/09 10:22 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by XcalystaX
Posted by jerseypanda
Posted by dpli
I guess I am the exception. I don't really mind if other kids touch or kiss DS, as long as they don't hurt him. I figure he's in daycare anyway, so what are they going to give him, germwise, that he isn't already exposed to there.
I haven't seen this with adults, but my DS is shy and usually won't let an adult get that close to him anyway.
I agree with this. I think kids are just trying to be nice and it doesn't bother me.
I agree, if they are being gentle and my DD is ok with it, then I'm OK with it too. In terms of adults though, my DD will freak if a stranger tries to touch her, LOL.
really? wow. maybe it's because DS is not in day care, but i take big issue with strangers touching him!
of course there are germs everywhere but in a day care, the teachers and staff know the kids - they are not total and complete strangers, and you know that they have all seen a pediatrician fairly recently (i HAVE to assume that's a requirement, that in order to be in day care a child has to have seen a ped for a physical!)
i was in smithaven mall yesterday, when the little girl was trying to touch DS - not only did she get right in his face and refuse to move but the mother didn't see anything wrong with it. i have a BIG BIG problem with this. obviously the child meant no harm but what the eff was the mother doing? nothing!
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| Posted 8/13/09 10:57 AM |
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by XcalystaX
Posted by jerseypanda
Posted by dpli
I guess I am the exception. I don't really mind if other kids touch or kiss DS, as long as they don't hurt him. I figure he's in daycare anyway, so what are they going to give him, germwise, that he isn't already exposed to there.
I haven't seen this with adults, but my DS is shy and usually won't let an adult get that close to him anyway.
I agree with this. I think kids are just trying to be nice and it doesn't bother me.
I agree, if they are being gentle and my DD is ok with it, then I'm OK with it too. In terms of adults though, my DD will freak if a stranger tries to touch her, LOL.
DS isn't in daycare but I don't really mind the coming up to touch his hands, or feet or anything like that as long as they aren't hurting him and he doesn't mind. I admit, I do wipe him down with baby wipes though once we leave 
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| Posted 8/13/09 11:05 AM |
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
I don't really see a problem with it. Adults don't really try to touch Kaydyn, but Kaydyn is a touchy feely kid. Whenever she sees other kids she tries to hug them. I never saw it as a problem cause she's not hurting the other child....I never even really thought about it. So I prob would be the mom that you are annoyed at b/c I let her give kids hugs and stuff as long as she's being gentle.
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| Posted 8/13/09 11:15 AM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by Mkr09
I don't really see a problem with it. Adults don't really try to touch Kaydyn, but Kaydyn is a touchy feely kid. Whenever she sees other kids she tries to hug them. I never saw it as a problem cause she's not hurting the other child....I never even really thought about it. So I prob would be the mom that you are annoyed at b/c I let her give kids hugs and stuff as long as she's being gentle.
it's not a hug that's the problem. it's touching him all over his face and trying to give him lots of kisses.
this bothers me to no end.
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by Mkr09
I don't really see a problem with it. Adults don't really try to touch Kaydyn, but Kaydyn is a touchy feely kid. Whenever she sees other kids she tries to hug them. I never saw it as a problem cause she's not hurting the other child....I never even really thought about it. So I prob would be the mom that you are annoyed at b/c I let her give kids hugs and stuff as long as she's being gentle.
yeah, I'm guilty of that too.
DS likes to give hugs to other kids, and sometimes he likes to give wet sloppy kisses, but it's usually kids we know and play with often. But there are times he sees kids in the playground or street and he wants to play with them and he goes up to them and tries to hug/kiss them.
I don't want to yell at him or tell him no at this age because he is too young to understand that what he is doing may be inappropriate in other people's eyes. He means no harm and he is not mauling other kids or hurting them.
I would totally understand if it was an adult stranger but young kids don't know any better.
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| Posted 8/13/09 12:14 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by jambalady
Posted by Mkr09
I don't really see a problem with it. Adults don't really try to touch Kaydyn, but Kaydyn is a touchy feely kid. Whenever she sees other kids she tries to hug them. I never saw it as a problem cause she's not hurting the other child....I never even really thought about it. So I prob would be the mom that you are annoyed at b/c I let her give kids hugs and stuff as long as she's being gentle.
yeah, I'm guilty of that too.
DS likes to give hugs to other kids, and sometimes he likes to give wet sloppy kisses, but it's usually kids we know and play with often. But there are times he sees kids in the playground or street and he wants to play with them and he goes up to them and tries to hug/kiss them.
I don't want to yell at him or tell him no at this age because he is too young to understand that what he is doing may be inappropriate in other people's eyes. He means no harm and he is not mauling other kids or hurting them.
I would totally understand if it was an adult stranger but young kids don't know any better.
kids don't know but the parents do. i totally understand that kids are friendly and just being nice. it's very sweet of them. but kids are also always sick. sickness can be spread through wet sloppy kisses.
it's one thing if it's a kid i know. my neighbor's grandson always kisses DS and i don't mind at all. grandma actually stopped him one day because he was getting over a cold--i appreciated that. my son shouldn't get sick because of this.
i'd almost prefer it was adults since they aren't as sick. and believe me, i'm no germophobe! my kid can play in the dirt, drop food and pick it up, etc and i have no problem with it. but wet sloppy kisses from strangers should never be okay.
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| Posted 8/13/09 12:35 PM |
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jerseypanda
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by browneyedgirl
it's one thing if it's a kid i know.
I would think if you are so bothered by this that you wouldn't want ANY child coming up and kissing DS, no matter if you know them or not. You don't know where they have been just as much as you don't know where a child unfamiliar to you has been.
I will say, however, that as a mom who does not mind when my son hugs and kisses other children or gets hugged or kissed... that I will be a bit more aware of it after hearing your opinion.
I guess this is just another case of differing viewpoints.
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| Posted 8/13/09 1:06 PM |
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
honestly this doesn't bother me at all. Kids love hugging and kissing other kids. I mean, since your DC isn't a newborn, I don't see the issue. I'm laid back, but I know I find it absolutely adorable when other kids fawn over my DS who is 6 mos old. The girls at his baby sitter treat him like their own baby. I don't mind (and even if they were strangers, wouldn't bother me a bit).
Now after reading this, I truely never thought anybody was bother by kids hugging other kids. Interesting. Not sure if I would say no to my son if he did it though. Sorry, JMO though
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| Posted 8/13/09 1:11 PM |
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
This happened a lot more when he was a baby, and I really didn't care for it when it was a stranger and an adult (usually the case). Especially when they would give him their fingers to grab, then he'd stick his hands in his mouth. It also seemed to be breaking some boundary, I realize that's my issue, but I just didn't care for adult strangers kissing DS. But that doesn't really happen now he is a toddler.
Other kids, I don't mind. I feel like this is normal for kids to do, so I guess the issue is more one of boundaries than germs for me. Kids I understand don't know boundaries, and it always seems cute. And they can be germy, but adults certainly are too.
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
In the past two weeks I've had two random strangers come up and give DD a kiss, they were ADULTS and caught me by surprise and I think I froze..honestly I know some ppl say eh, but I really don't think it's appropriate to just go up and kiss an infant, toddler, etc if you're someone I don't know
DD is almost 8 months!
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| Posted 8/13/09 2:04 PM |
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by pickles16
In the past two weeks I've had two random strangers come up and give DD a kiss, they were ADULTS and caught me by surprise and I think I froze..honestly I know some ppl say eh, but I really don't think it's appropriate to just go up and kiss an infant, toddler, etc if you're someone I don't know
DD is almost 8 months!
What?!?!? Ugh! I swear people are crazy. Adults SHOULD know better. I would never ever think of kissing a baby I don't know. OMG sorry you had to go through that.
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by XcalystaX
Posted by pickles16
In the past two weeks I've had two random strangers come up and give DD a kiss, they were ADULTS and caught me by surprise and I think I froze..honestly I know some ppl say eh, but I really don't think it's appropriate to just go up and kiss an infant, toddler, etc if you're someone I don't know
DD is almost 8 months!
What?!?!? Ugh! I swear people are crazy. Adults SHOULD know better. I would never ever think of kissing a baby I don't know. OMG sorry you had to go through that.
OMG, where did they kiss her? Face, hands, etc??
That's why I love my stroller, that I can face towards me. I can always see who is looming in towards DD. I have yet to put her in a shopping cart seat b/c that's where they get ya...you turn your head for one sec. I also always angle DD towards me or if I am using my Mclaren I stand in front of her pn line, etc, to block her from grabbing hands.
To the OP, I am sorry this is happening, I would be very disturbed too. One lady grabbed my DDs hands (my aunt was holding her) while we were at a festival. Who does that to a baby they dont know??? Thanks for the warning about it getting worse as they get older.
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by XcalystaX
Posted by pickles16
In the past two weeks I've had two random strangers come up and give DD a kiss, they were ADULTS and caught me by surprise and I think I froze..honestly I know some ppl say eh, but I really don't think it's appropriate to just go up and kiss an infant, toddler, etc if you're someone I don't know
DD is almost 8 months!
What?!?!? Ugh! I swear people are crazy. Adults SHOULD know better. I would never ever think of kissing a baby I don't know. OMG sorry you had to go through that.
OMG, where did they kiss her? Face, hands, etc??
That's why I love my stroller, that I can face towards me. I can always see who is looming in towards DD. I have yet to put her in a shopping cart seat b/c that's where they get ya...you turn your head for one sec. I also always angle DD towards me or if I am using my Mclaren I stand in front of her pn line, etc, to block her from grabbing hands.
To the OP, I am sorry this is happening, I would be very disturbed too. One lady grabbed my DDs hands (my aunt was holding her) while we were at a festival. Who does that to a baby they dont know??? Thanks for the warning about it getting worse as they get older.
I have the bug which faces me but today I was food shopping and she was in the shopping cart and a woman came up and kissed her forehead the past few times she's been in a high chair at restaurants and someone kissed her hands once, I held it until she left and I could wipe it down One time I had her in the infant carrier with the canopy down and someone came up opened the canopy and started playing with her..I think I've been sooo taken a back bc I would NEVER that I don't act quick enough bc I'm in a state of shock!
to the OP! I completely agree with you kids are one thing, adults should know better!!
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
Posted by pickles16
I have the bug which faces me but today I was food shopping and she was in the shopping cart and a woman came up and kissed her forehead the past few times she's been in a high chair at restaurants and someone kissed her hands once, I held it until she left and I could wipe it down One time I had her in the infant carrier with the canopy down and someone came up opened the canopy and started playing with her..I think I've been sooo taken a back bc I would NEVER that I don't act quick enough bc I'm in a state of shock!
to the OP! I completely agree with you kids are one thing, adults should know better!!
That is disgusting, for a total stranger to put their lips on a child they don't know. I would be horrorfied.
Thanks for the warning. I would NOT be happy at all, be totally skeeved in fact if someone did this to my DD. I have started warning strangers ahead of time, please don't touch. So far so good, other than when that strange lady got her hands (b/c my aunt was holding her).
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
OH I hate when people touch DD without asking. Just today at stop&shop some middle aged man touched her face saying how cute she is. agh , I wanted to throw a jar of pasta sauce at him. no need to touch her face, especially at the grocery store, where people touch all kinds of things, like meat.
AND yesterday I took DD out for a walk and a little girl came up to her (she was sitting on the stoop down the street with her mom) , she came over and said hi . I noticed that her nose was running and the skin around her nose was very red(like when you wipe it too much) and she kept wiping her nose with her arm , also when she started talking to me I could hear that she was congested. AND THEN she started touching DD's face and trying to hold her hand and kiss her face omg I was so annoyed I felt sooooo bad for feeling so annoyed about the whole thing (maybe she just has allergies, how do I know). But I can't help it, I just worry about DD getting sick. I grabbed DD's hand, said bye to a little girl, came home and washed DD's hands asap.
I don't even like when family members kiss her on the lips
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Re: people are just NOW starting to touch DS and trying to kiss him--anyone else find that happening as a toddler as opposed to newborn?
kids don't know but the parents do.
yup
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