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M514
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People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
I really wish there was a way to disable the "share" feature on FB. Any time I post a pic of DD, my MIL will share the pic on her page and it bothers me. I have my page set with every single privacy setting possible so I don't want her posting my pics on her public page (she has no privacy settings set up). I took a hiatus from FB because it always bothered me... and I finally came back and posted a pic from NYE. Well, MIL just posted it on her page and now I'm getting all these notifications of her friends that I don't even know commenting on it.
How do you feel about this? Should I say something to her or let it go? How would I even say something without sounding confrontational?
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Karen
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
My SIL does the same thing and I just let it go.
If you feel that strongly about it, your best bet would be to just stop posting pics. She's grandma and she is proud, so I don't think there is any nice way to say it.
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| Posted 1/4/12 9:23 PM |
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Domino
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
I dont even like MIL and I would not have a problem is DS' grandma shared pictures of him. My mom does it all the time.
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| Posted 1/4/12 9:31 PM |
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jdbaby
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
A great aunt does this all the time...it does bother me a bit. I guess she means well, but I wish she would just ask first.
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| Posted 1/4/12 9:34 PM |
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Gatsbygirl
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
I would hate that. You can customize settings so she can't see certain posts, pics, or albums.
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| Posted 1/4/12 9:50 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
I do not like anyone posting pictures of my DD. She is my child and as such, I should be the only one posting her picture. I would rather her face not be plastered and tagged all over the Internet by somebody else.
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Xelindrya
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Do it once and I'll warn you
Do it again and you are taken off the list of people able to see my child.
I don't play with that. Like it or leave it, I don't care. Hate me for it? fine. I don't care. WWIII still hasn't broke out over a few hurt feelings in my household.
Id rather raise my child alone in a world without relatives than to waste my breathe arguing about something I feel passionate about. I compromise a lot but this I won't.
I banned all my mother's family from seeing her (minus one) and my brother has already received his warning because he 'friends' EVERYONE under the sun - random ppl etc.
My sister posts AJ photos only by asking me first.
Yep.. I'm a B!tch but as they say.... my kid, my rules. Don't like it? STFU and GTFO
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| Posted 1/4/12 10:19 PM |
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brassmunky
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by Xelindrya
Do it once and I'll warn you
Do it again and you are taken off the list of people able to see my child.
I don't play with that. Like it or leave it, I don't care. Hate me for it? fine. I don't care. WWIII still hasn't broke out over a few hurt feelings in my household.
Id rather raise my child alone in a world without relatives than to waste my breathe arguing about something I feel passionate about. I compromise a lot but this I won't.
I banned all my mother's family from seeing her (minus one) and my brother has already received his warning because he 'friends' EVERYONE under the sun - random ppl etc.
My sister posts AJ photos only by asking me first.
Yep.. I'm a B!tch but as they say.... my kid, my rules. Don't like it? STFU and GTFO
same here. 'cept it's all my IL's 
i'm not cool with that.
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| Posted 1/5/12 12:26 AM |
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jamiemarie12
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
I would say something. For a while I was texting pictures to my sister and then she would post them on Facebook. It drove me insane. I felt bad but I had to say something to her. She was a little annoyed but she no longer does it. She will ask me before hand now.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by Karen
My SIL does the same thing and I just let it go.
If you feel that strongly about it, your best bet would be to just stop posting pics. She's grandma and she is proud, so I don't think there is any nice way to say it.
I agree . If I didn't like it I'd stop posting pics, not worth fighting or hard feelings imo
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BriBri2u
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
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| Posted 1/5/12 9:23 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by BriBri2u
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
I don't get this though...........why shouldn't I be able to post pics of my OWN child? Just because I post them doesn't mean I want everyone else sharing them with everyone else they know. I know people love my child and are proud but I still prefer to be the one deciding who gets to see what pictures and how. KWIM?
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| Posted 1/5/12 9:36 AM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BriBri2u
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
I don't get this though...........why shouldn't I be able to post pics of my OWN child? Just because I post them doesn't mean I want everyone else sharing them with everyone else they know. I know people love my child and are proud but I still prefer to be the one deciding who gets to see what pictures and how. KWIM?
Because its the internet...there is nothing private about it. If you don't want your child's picture shared don't post.
It's her MIL not some friend of a friend.
Is it really worth the hurt feelings and animosity that would come out of it if she said something?
I have a great relationship with my MIL and think it great that she loves my DS enough to want to share his pictures with her friends. I thought most grandparents do this.
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pinkiegirl
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BriBri2u
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
I don't get this though...........why shouldn't I be able to post pics of my OWN child? Just because I post them doesn't mean I want everyone else sharing them with everyone else they know. I know people love my child and are proud but I still prefer to be the one deciding who gets to see what pictures and how. KWIM?
Because its the internet...there is nothing private about it. If you don't want your child's picture shared don't post.
It's her MIL not some friend of a friend.
Is it really worth the hurt feelings and animosity that would come out of it if she said something?
I have a great relationship with my MIL and think it great that she loves my DS enough to want to share his pictures with her friends. I thought most grandparents do this.
ITA
If you don't want people to see pics of your DC then don't post them on facebook.
Plenty of people post pics of my DS.. my friends when we have playdates, other family members from parties or holidays, etc. I have no problem with it because I post pics of DS all the time.
So, I don't think your MIL is doing anything wrong by sharing pics of her grandchild with her friends on facebook.. it's her grandchild, not just your child.
JMHO
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BargainMama
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Just block her from seeing the pics in the settings. That way she can't share them, but your friends can still see them. Easy as pie solution!
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| Posted 1/5/12 10:33 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by pinkiegirl
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BriBri2u
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
I don't get this though...........why shouldn't I be able to post pics of my OWN child? Just because I post them doesn't mean I want everyone else sharing them with everyone else they know. I know people love my child and are proud but I still prefer to be the one deciding who gets to see what pictures and how. KWIM?
Because its the internet...there is nothing private about it. If you don't want your child's picture shared don't post.
It's her MIL not some friend of a friend.
Is it really worth the hurt feelings and animosity that would come out of it if she said something?
I have a great relationship with my MIL and think it great that she loves my DS enough to want to share his pictures with her friends. I thought most grandparents do this.
ITA
If you don't want people to see pics of your DC then don't post them on facebook.
Plenty of people post pics of my DS.. my friends when we have playdates, other family members from parties or holidays, etc. I have no problem with it because I post pics of DS all the time.
So, I don't think your MIL is doing anything wrong by sharing pics of her grandchild with her friends on facebook.. it's her grandchild, not just your child.
JMHO
She isn't sharing them with just her friends, she is sharing them with the PUBLIC. That is wrong in my book, regardless if it's her grandkid or not.
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TwinDani
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
My MIL does this too. She shares them on my SIL's facebook page. Meanwhile SIL has not even called us once since my twin girls were born November 9th! She writes things under MY photos like "Look how cute OUR babies are"
Really our babies? This girl hasnt even bothered to pick up the phone or email.
I wish I could block this feature.
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| Posted 1/5/12 10:40 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by pinkiegirl
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BriBri2u
My MIL does this and it doesn't bother me, she's a proud grandparent and has a right to share her grandchildren's pictures with her friends whether she uploads them herself or shares them from you.
Not worth fighting about IMO. If it bothers you I would stop posting pictures.
I don't get this though...........why shouldn't I be able to post pics of my OWN child? Just because I post them doesn't mean I want everyone else sharing them with everyone else they know. I know people love my child and are proud but I still prefer to be the one deciding who gets to see what pictures and how. KWIM?
Because its the internet...there is nothing private about it. If you don't want your child's picture shared don't post.
It's her MIL not some friend of a friend.
Is it really worth the hurt feelings and animosity that would come out of it if she said something?
I have a great relationship with my MIL and think it great that she loves my DS enough to want to share his pictures with her friends. I thought most grandparents do this.
ITA
If you don't want people to see pics of your DC then don't post them on facebook.
Plenty of people post pics of my DS.. my friends when we have playdates, other family members from parties or holidays, etc. I have no problem with it because I post pics of DS all the time.
So, I don't think your MIL is doing anything wrong by sharing pics of her grandchild with her friends on facebook.. it's her grandchild, not just your child.
JMHO
I understand what you're saying but I respectfully disagree. Ultimately, she is MY child...........I gave birth to her, I raise her, I support her, and I am the FINAL say on anything relating to her. When I post pics on FB I have chosen my friend list, I have set my privacy settings, and I just don't feel comfortable with other people (family or not) posting her pictures. I just don't like it. On the flip side, I NEVER post pics of anyone else's child.
I think that when it comes to someone's child you need to respect the choices parents make, even if you don't agree with it or you think it's silly. I know plenty of people don't have a problem with it but for me, I'm just not a fan.
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lvdolphins
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by BargainMama
Just block her from seeing the pics in the settings. That way she can't share them, but your friends can still see them. Easy as pie solution!
Exactly this! You can customize to block your MIL from seeing pics. At the same time, your friends can see them!
It wouldn't annoy me if MIL had everything on her page private. If your MIL has everything public, then, heck yea, I'd say something. She's sharing your kids pic with the world! Maybe when you see her next time, show her how to set her page to private.
If she doesn't want to be private, then, she's blocked from your pics and that is that!
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| Posted 1/5/12 10:52 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
p.s.....some people don't realize their pages are public. I would tell her that you noticed hers is, and wasn't sure if she knew that. Then maybe she will change it to friends only!
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lynnd126
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Why don't u help her with the settings? My mom has no idea about privacy settings- she'll just do what I say once I explain it and help her.
I personally don't care though bc the chances of something crazy happening bc someone posted pics of my kids are so remote. I'd rather expend efforts on more real/probable dangers.
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BargainMama
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by lynnd126
I personally don't care though bc the chances of something crazy happening bc someone posted pics of my kids are so remote. I'd rather expend efforts on more real/probable dangers.
I don't think it's about safety/danger, it's about someone being in possession of the pictures, or them being used for something/by someone without your permission. If you don't care, then you don't care. But other people do, so no need to belittle their concern 
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lynnd126
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Re: People "sharing" your pics of your DC on facebook
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by lynnd126
I personally don't care though bc the chances of something crazy happening bc someone posted pics of my kids are so remote. I'd rather expend efforts on more real/probable dangers.
I don't think it's about safety/danger, it's about someone being in possession of the pictures, or them being used for something/by someone without your permission. If you don't care, then you don't care. But other people do, so no need to belittle their concern
My response was so benign that this was just unnecessary. You're really just saying something to say something
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