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Gatsbygirl
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
I think some people are in their own world a lot of the time. I zone out in stored and once didn't see Dh when he saw me . Not everyone is a kid person or thinks it's cute to talk to kids. They might not feel comfortable with it. In this day and age, I'm OK with DS not talking to everyone we meet.
BTW, Goldenrod's post was PERFECT
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Posted 8/19/08 2:53 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
I say hi to everyone's dog and baby. It's the polite thing to do.
SO funny, ME TOO and my DD is 16 months and guilty of saying HI to EVERYONE! Some say hi, some dont.
Just the way things are. oh well.
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Posted 8/20/08 3:17 PM |
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geeshna
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by Smileyd17
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
I say hi to everyone's dog and baby. It's the polite thing to do.
SO funny, ME TOO and my DD is 16 months and guilty of saying HI to EVERYONE! Some say hi, some dont.
Just the way things are. oh well.
I always say Hi to the dogs too.. Kids not so much.. I dont think they should talk to strangers.. People who dont like animals are weird!
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Posted 8/21/08 7:44 AM |
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LINewbie
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by geeshna
I always say Hi to the dogs too.. Kids not so much.. I dont think they should talk to strangers.. People who dont like animals are weird!
Yay i'm weird!!! I stay as far away from strange dogs as I can. But I'll say hi to a kid if he or she says hi first.
Message edited 8/21/2008 12:50:54 PM.
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Posted 8/21/08 12:49 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Stranger's dogs can bite and cause me to have a bad allergy attack. Kids don't really have that affect on me. As for the sex offender question. Nope, wouldn't care if a sex offender said hi to my child in the supermarket. Hi is hi and I can't see the stretch from hello to molesting my child. Sorry.
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Posted 8/21/08 11:01 PM |
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ArmyOfBabies
Growing older but not up
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Some jerk did this to DD once. We were walking into NSAL and this guy that worked there was talking to DH and I was holding DD. She waved right to him and said "hi!" and he just flat out ignored her!
How miserable do you have to be to blatantly ignore a cute kid saying hi to you?!?!?!?!?
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Posted 8/23/08 1:00 PM |
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Domino
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Ooops I just went off on my own rant and erased it....
P.S. If a kid says hello to me I am honored that they picked me out and I always say "Hi" back
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Posted 8/24/08 1:08 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by Kellish
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is the person a stranger or a friend?
I wouldnt want a stranger saying hi to my children. A friend is a different story...
When we go to the supermarket he talks to people we pass in the shopping carts.
My DS always does this too. I just tell him some people don't say hi because they didn't hear him or they are in a rush. We also started to talk about strangers
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Posted 8/25/08 8:20 AM |
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SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
My son is disabled and going to be 8 soon. He has little to no language, but he can say HI and understands when to use it appropriately. If we go somewhere, he will say HI to everyone and anyone that crosses his path. He just wants to be friendly. I am amazed at how many people ignore him and how many other people chastize me for allowing him to say HI.
It's a shame in today's world that a child can't just be a child without me having to think about a stranger's ulterior motives.
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Posted 8/26/08 9:26 PM |
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imagin916
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
I will say hi back and wave to the child, but I always engage the parent by saying something like he/she is so cute, or ask how old he/she is. I don't want to make the parent uncomfortable, so I have found that by engaging the parent in some way, I come across as non-threatening and they are going to be less likely to think I am going to steal their child or something.
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Posted 8/28/08 11:37 AM |
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by ArmyOfBabies How miserable do you have to be to blatantly ignore a cute kid saying hi to you?!?!?!?!?
Because maybe they don't think kids are cute. Maybe their mom just died and they don't want to talk to anyone. Maybe they just got laid off from their job and they're mentally calculating every penny they're spending. Maybe they're struggling with infertility and it's a knife in their heart and if they say hi they'll burst into tears.
You never know what is going on in someone else’s life, and the child is intruding on that, so if the person says hi back, great, but if they don’t you shouldn’t judge them.
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Posted 8/28/08 1:09 PM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by KittyTheStray
Posted by ArmyOfBabies How miserable do you have to be to blatantly ignore a cute kid saying hi to you?!?!?!?!?
Because maybe they don't think kids are cute. Maybe their mom just died and they don't want to talk to anyone. Maybe they just got laid off from their job and they're mentally calculating every penny they're spending. Maybe they're struggling with infertility and it's a knife in their heart and if they say hi they'll burst into tears.
You never know what is going on in someone else’s life, and the child is intruding on that, so if the person says hi back, great, but if they don’t you shouldn’t judge them.
Wow. Thanks for attacking me there! I think if this is the way you feel, it should have been directed at the ENTIRE thread and not my comment I made about a CERTAIN person.
I was talking about THIS particular man, not the general public. He was a self-righteous a-hole. He could not have been more of an abrasive jerk to my entire family INCLUDING a 1-year-old. My MIL dealt with this same individual 5 years ago and he was the same way.
So before YOU judge ME for something I wrote, maybe you should read it a little more carefully. I was talking with this person long enough to form an opinion about him.
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Posted 8/29/08 8:45 AM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by ArmyOfBabies
Posted by KittyTheStray
Posted by ArmyOfBabies How miserable do you have to be to blatantly ignore a cute kid saying hi to you?!?!?!?!?
Because maybe they don't think kids are cute. Maybe their mom just died and they don't want to talk to anyone. Maybe they just got laid off from their job and they're mentally calculating every penny they're spending. Maybe they're struggling with infertility and it's a knife in their heart and if they say hi they'll burst into tears.
You never know what is going on in someone else’s life, and the child is intruding on that, so if the person says hi back, great, but if they don’t you shouldn’t judge them.
Wow. Thanks for attacking me there! I think if this is the way you feel, it should have been directed at the ENTIRE thread and not my comment I made about a CERTAIN person.
I was talking about THIS particular man, not the general public. He was a self-righteous a-hole. He could not have been more of an abrasive jerk to my entire family INCLUDING a 1-year-old. My MIL dealt with this same individual 5 years ago and he was the same way.
So before YOU judge ME for something I wrote, maybe you should read it a little more carefully. I was talking with this person long enough to form an opinion about him.
You know what. I've had 3 people in my family pass away in the past year (one right before my wedding), not to mention my pet that suddenly died. I have had 5 friends die in car accidents and only one of them was older than 21. DH and I don't have a lot of money, I have to watch what I spend. We've been trying to get pregnant for a year now. With all this and all the other things that went on in my life that were horrible for me it never once caused me to be rude or nasty to someone who didn't deserve it. That's not a good excuse. So now YOU know what's going on in MY life and now you know why your comments were unappreciated.
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Posted 8/29/08 9:09 AM |
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: People who don't to children when they say "hi"
Posted by ArmyOfBabies
Posted by ArmyOfBabies
Posted by KittyTheStray
Posted by ArmyOfBabies How miserable do you have to be to blatantly ignore a cute kid saying hi to you?!?!?!?!?
Because maybe they don't think kids are cute. Maybe their mom just died and they don't want to talk to anyone. Maybe they just got laid off from their job and they're mentally calculating every penny they're spending. Maybe they're struggling with infertility and it's a knife in their heart and if they say hi they'll burst into tears.
You never know what is going on in someone else’s life, and the child is intruding on that, so if the person says hi back, great, but if they don’t you shouldn’t judge them.
Wow. Thanks for attacking me there! I think if this is the way you feel, it should have been directed at the ENTIRE thread and not my comment I made about a CERTAIN person.
I was talking about THIS particular man, not the general public. He was a self-righteous a-hole. He could not have been more of an abrasive jerk to my entire family INCLUDING a 1-year-old. My MIL dealt with this same individual 5 years ago and he was the same way.
So before YOU judge ME for something I wrote, maybe you should read it a little more carefully. I was talking with this person long enough to form an opinion about him.
You know what. I've had 3 people in my family pass away in the past year (one right before my wedding), not to mention my pet that suddenly died. I have had 5 friends die in car accidents and only one of them was older than 21. DH and I don't have a lot of money, I have to watch what I spend. We've been trying to get pregnant for a year now. With all this and all the other things that went on in my life that were horrible for me it never once caused me to be rude or nasty to someone who didn't deserve it. That's not a good excuse. So now YOU know what's going on in MY life and now you know why your comments were unappreciated.
I didn't feel I was attacking you, I was addressing your comment that seemed to be a common sentiment among others in the thread. From your post you just mentioned a worker at a place ignored your DD, so I just took your comment at face value.
I didn’t say how I would react as the person being said hello to by a child, nor as the parent of that child. I didn’t judge your parenting on allowing or not allowing your child to say hello, all I said was that we never know what is going on in other people’s lives to make them react as they do. I always try to see the ’good’ in people I guess, so if someone is being rude or whatever I try to think of what could be behind it. I always try to be ‘devils advocate’. It’s commendable that you are able to put aside personal struggles and be cheerful (or whatever the ‘proper’ word would be) and I applaud you for it. I don’t know that I could be upbeat with so many things going on in my life, but others may not be able to set their struggles aside.
Again, I am sorry you saw my comment as a personal attack, it certainly wasn’t meant to be.
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Posted 8/29/08 1:25 PM |
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