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bayla
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play date for kindergartner?
So my DS would like to have some play dates with kids in his class. I don't really know the parents so would it be weird if I called them up and asked? My concern is since I don't really know the parent's (or kids) I would like for them to come too or for me to go to the house if he's invited there. One mom asked us for a play date and said to send my DS off the bus with the kid. I am not comfortable with that and haven't responded yet. i was thiking of offering to just drop him off after school, so atleast I can see the house, etc. I am not sure if this mom wants me to stay, but I would be more comfortable with that too since I don't really know them. Ughh this play date thing is stressing me out LOL
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InShock
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
I just set up our first kindergarten playdate when I was at DD's Thanksgiving celebration. I said to the mom that I'd never really done a drop-off playdate, and she said I was more than welcome to stay. So, that's what I'm doing.  Do what you're comfortable with!
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| Posted 11/27/12 9:51 AM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
I feel the same way! I am just not comfortable at this point ever leaving my 5yr old in the home of a complete stranger!
As for contacting - I have gotten phone calls and emails from moms saying their DS's were asking for play dates with my DS to set something up. I usually say "why don't you guys come here?" That way I start the trend of having the mom be present at least in the beginning. I would start off with the play dates at your house and make sure the mom knows you are expecting her to come as well that way you can get to know her first!
Also, another idea - we try to arrange "new" playdates at places that have open play, meet for lunch, meet at a park etc. that way again, the mom is there and you get to know them and get to observe how your child and the new friend interact. HTH! It's hard as they grow up I am finding 
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| Posted 11/27/12 10:37 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
Posted by itsbabytime
I feel the same way! I am just not comfortable at this point ever leaving my 5yr old in the home of a complete stranger!
As for contacting - I have gotten phone calls and emails from moms saying their DS's were asking for play dates with my DS to set something up. I usually say "why don't you guys come here?" That way I start the trend of having the mom be present at least in the beginning. I would start off with the play dates at your house and make sure the mom knows you are expecting her to come as well that way you can get to know her first!
Also, another idea - we try to arrange "new" playdates at places that have open play, meet for lunch, meet at a park etc. that way again, the mom is there and you get to know them and get to observe how your child and the new friend interact. HTH! It's hard as they grow up I am finding
All this is such good advice. We always did this too-- offer to host the playdate. Sometimes the mom stayed the whole time, other times just a bit to make sure the kids were settled in nicely and playing, and then would offer to come back in a little while to pick up, and that was fine. Only one time this was a disaster... the mom literally did not even step into my doorway, just dumped the kid off (she didn't even know me!!!!) and proceeded to go to the mall or something, and did not return for FOUR HOURS. Oh, and her kid was only in pre-k, thank goodness he was an easygoing kid.
Meeting at an outside place is a great idea too. We have done playground playdates in nice weather, we are members of LICM so if another family has a membership too that was a great place for us to meet up. We have even gone to a movie with another mom and kid from school.
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| Posted 11/27/12 10:54 AM |
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bayla
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
so I called that mom who asked if I wanted to have my DS come off the buswith hers and she was so understanding about my concerns. We were actually on the phone for an hour just chatting, which was nice. Turns out her husband is going to be my DS's basketball coach too! Anyway, I am going to go over with my DS one day after school and she is going to order pizza for all of us for dinner. So glad I called her instead of just saying no...thank you ladies
I think asking to host the play date initially is a great idea! I think I will do this with some other kids DS likes in his class
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| Posted 11/27/12 11:02 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
I think this happens in baby steps.
I'd suggest inviting her & her kid over for lunch or a weekend playdate at a mutual location. If the parent can't do it for whatever reason - activities, sports, other kids, offer to take them out to a movie & lunch or a bounce house & lunch to ease into getting to the know the kid.
As for the bus, I'm pretty sure the district frowns upon this - even with a note.
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| Posted 11/27/12 1:05 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
I would not do it either, drop off. This is very stressful, I agree.
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| Posted 11/30/12 6:02 PM |
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AimeeE2006
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
Sydney has yet to ask for a playdate with any new friends. I wouldn't know what to do either. You handled it perfectly. BTW...I saw A at lunch the other day. That kid is so damn cute!
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| Posted 12/7/12 10:36 PM |
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bayla
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Re: play date for kindergartner?
Posted by AimeeE2006
Sydney has yet to ask for a playdate with any new friends. I wouldn't know what to do either. You handled it perfectly. BTW...I saw A at lunch the other day. That kid is so damn cute!
aww thanks Aimee S and C are adorable too!!
The one mom we had it with is a SAHM and she said A's teacher told her most of the mommies in A's class work full time so it's going to be hard to do many play dates after school.
BTW I will send you a message to make a plan soon!
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