Please allow this new mommy to vent.....

Okay, Ladies -- I think I need some just to make it thru this life with my MIL.

My DS is 15 weeks old...Lets just start out saying that he's quite content eating 4-6oz every 3hr or so and sleeping 10-12hrs at night.

My MIL says to me today "you need to feed this boy. He's starving. I was going to give him Applesauce yesterday, but I thought you might be mad at me if I did..."

UMMMM.....YEAH. First of all, he's TOO young! Second, don't you think that as a mom of her 1st DC, I might want to start that next developmental "milestone" MYSELF???? Like I want to miss that.

UGHGHGHGH

Why oh why do we inherit a 2nd set of parents?????

(Thanks for listening)

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I would be annoyed too. Stand your ground, YOU are the mother

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oh man...i would have been SO PO'd. You definately should be the absolute FIRST person to feed him solids. AND, it should be on your schedule that you've decided on for your child. Not her.

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at least she has the sense to stop herself... not like SOME people we know! lol
like the PP said, stand your ground. let her know that she had her time raising HER kids and now its time for you to enjoy raising yours.. don't let her take any of the joy away from you... and have your DH step in sometimes to so you don't become "that " daughter in law!

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STAND YOUR GROUND!!!!!!! Also, have DH say stuff. My baby was born at over 11 pounds, so my MIL said he needed REAL food ASAP!! We kept saying, in many conversations, that the doctor said he's doing great in weight gain, etc. She got the hint!

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Ugh, how annoying. I hope she shuts up soon.

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How annoying. My friends mil actually cut her son's hair the first time! HE had these cute little curls that never grew back. People can just be such PITAS. I would keep a close eye on that mil

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It's 15 weeks in. She obviously hasn't adjusted to the power shift yet.

She doesn't get to make those decisions. Her telling you that was to "feel you out"
(1) she thinks he needs more food.

(2) she knew enough NOT to feed him because you'd be mad.

If you can't want to be direct with her, feel free to invoke the pediatrician's name at any point.

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Talk to your pediatrician, but he is too young. I know ours did not want DS eating until 6 months unless it becomes clear that he's too hungry, but so far at 5.5 months, he's fine.

I would cite your pediatricians views, and also tell her there is a lot of research out now indicating that 4 months might be too young, some think it contributes to food allergies. That should scare her I would think (don't mention that this is under debate). Since there are a lot of allergies in both of our families, we are waiting to feed DS solids.

It's funny how things shift--some of my aunts said they didn't feed their babies solids until a year, that used to be the norm.

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Ugh, how annoying! Tell her that you're doing a great job feeding your son. You're listening to your pediatrician and doing what's best for him.
You're the mother...she is overstepping her boundries if she thinks she is going to feed him applesauce.


MIL'S!!!

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Sounds like my mother. I finally got her off the solid foods kick when I told her studies link obesity to starting solids too early. (she is scared to death that her granddaughters will wind up overweight like her). It of course helped that my niece is not yet 3 years old and weighs 40 pounds, , and that my sister stopped breastfeeding at 3 months and started solids at 4 months.

Fine a fear of MIL and prey on it!!

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The easiest thing to do in those situations is to blame the pediatrician. "Dr. John recommends we dont do this....blah blah...and we are going to follow the doctor's instructions." Hopefully that will help!