Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

I have this image of my DD floating in the pool also and it NEVER HAPPENED... I am having the SAME EXACT anxietyi as you are.. I think many Moms do .. I have no advice Just . And to let you know you are not alone..

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

I think we have ALL made mistakes.

Are you sleep deprived a bit and overwhelmed? I found that was a huge factor for me when I was a working mom. DS was about 3.5-4 month just like you. I forgot to strap him in his infant seat. Then another day I realized I had not snapped the carseat completely in the base. Then another morning with so little sleep I went through a red light. Luckily it was a very small intersection and the other car was still stopped. I got scared of the potential goofs I was making. I felt horrible!

What is done.... is done!

Just take a deep breath. She did not get hurt. But you will know in the future how to be more careful.

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

Mothers are still PEOPLE -
None of us are the second coming of Jesus Christ - (even though some might like to think they are
)

We're all human, we all make mistakes - you are NOT a bad mother and she would absolutely NOT be 'better off w/out you!!"

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

Posted by Palebride

Don't feel stupid, and don't feel guilty. You're new at this, and nothing terrible has happened as a result of your mistakes. The only reason you should ever feel guilty would be if you intentionally tried to hurt her!!!

New moms and dads ALL make mistakes!!

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

Hmmm..lets see whats happened in my DS 9 months of life:

he was 6 weeks old i think when he rolled off the couch. I laid him there for a nap and he was out..i ran into the bathroom to get dressed and was gone literally 3 seconds when i hear him fussing. I come in and there he was face down on the floor. He was fine, but holy crap did i freak!!

We've bumped his head in and out of the car getting him into the new convertible seat.

memorial day weekend he fell off the changing station b/c i turned my back for a second. Had to take him to the PEdiatric ER.

Last week he was sitting in between DH and I on the couch and we were eating at our coffee table (which has a pull up table top) and bopped his head right into it..had a big lump on his forehead.

I can go on and on. Its happened to all of us and it doesn't make us bad parents. We are learning every minute of the day with them.

Kids are much more resillient than we think they are. Its us who cant get over it.

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

I don't even want to share our mistakes. My DH doesn't even know about the time I left him propped up in the corner of the couch (for 2 seconds)& he rolled off. You just have to keep these things in mind for the future & not repeat the same mistake.

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

Intention is everything. You didn't mean to do it, so let it go.

Re: Please don't flame- How do you get past the guilt of your mistakes?

Keri we all make mistakes...I know i've made some blunders with DS. We're all new at this...and they won't remember .

I always beat myself after I feel like I do something stupid related to Ds...but my mom and MIl re-assure me that these things happen with kids.