PLEASE GIVE ADVICE- Very agressive/defiant 2 1/2 year old boy

and he woudl be MY SON! MY son is 2 1/2 he does have speech delay and i only mention that bc i smetimes think its out of frustration but other times i don. He knows everything and to me he knows exactly what he is doing. He will hit his sister he has even gone to hit me. If I grab both his arms he will look at me like "what do you think your doing?" and then go to kick. If I stop that he will go to head butt. he is famous for head butting his sister.

Mys istter also said and I agree he can be soo defiant. We went to a brthday party a few weeks ago and he spent more timein time out than anywhere else. Any suggesistions!!? PLEASE!

Re: PLEASE GIVE ADVICE- Very agressive/defiant 2 1/2 year old boy

bump. anyone

Re: PLEASE GIVE ADVICE- Very agressive/defiant 2 1/2 year old boy

DD#2 generally is a very good kid, but does have fits of anger from time to time. She too will hit and bite(mostly her sister) She will scream at me and her sister. I am a yeller and I am trying very hard to stay calm with this. I usually will take her out of the situation and quietly speak to her. I usually send her to her room with the baby gate on the door and ignore the meltdown. It works better when I ignore her after she has been addressed.

This is not a constant thing with us, so I know it is different. Good Luck to you

Message edited 12/3/2010 12:12:31 PM.

Re: PLEASE GIVE ADVICE- Very agressive/defiant 2 1/2 year old boy

Dr. Phil had an episode on this yesterday!

he had a guest - who wrote a book - you're not the boss of me.

I don't think the show really helped the people - they needed supernanny.

Per author (my understanding of what she said thru): Basically, when kids get frusterated they act out - and you should get down on their level and let them know you understand how they feel and try to resolve it. If they get too out of hand, you just ignore it so they know the behavior won't be tollerated. After things calm down you can talk to them about what happened.

She said that kids need a cheer leader.
They also said that kids need their own time w/ each parent - the mothers on the show were completely overwhelmed w/ their kids. One had 3 and one had 4.

The other thing that doc phil said was that the most influental role model for a child is the same sex parent.

Message edited 12/3/2010 12:50:03 PM.