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Mom2Be07
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Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
DS is 4 and has 'borrowed' a toy from preschool twice now in the past 2 weeks. I don't realize he has it until we get home and I check his backpack. When I ask him where he got it, he lies to me. I make him take it back and tell his teacher that he took it and he apologizes. He doesn't give me a hard time. Now, yesterday, I was shopping online and he asked if he could play with the gift card I had. I said yes and a couple of minutes later asked him for it back. He just smirks and says 'no'. He hid it and I cannot find it anywhere. He says that he doesn't want to give it back to me. When I ask why he just responds, 'because'. This is the first time he has done this and I have no idea how to handle it. Please tell me this is normal and that he will grow out of it. In the meantime, how do I handle him? Do I put him in time out? I already took tv away from him until he gives it back. I am a SAHM and he gets a lot of attention. This is his first year of preschool and his head teacher left 2 weeks ago. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am so upset over this.
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Posted 12/1/11 10:30 AM  |
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Mom2Be07
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
Anyone have any experience with a similar situation?
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| Posted 12/1/11 1:51 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
IDK, i'd probably bribe it out of him.
Maybe that isn't the best answer, but maybe ask him to trade it for something else? Like a gift card that is maxed out already?
Maybe try reasoning with him? Tell him you just want the number on the card, and you'll let him keep the card itself?
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| Posted 12/1/11 2:03 PM |
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Mom2Be07
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
I tired all of that and nothing is working. I even feel bad because I tried yelling too. Nothing is working. I have absolutely no idea where this is coming from. This is the first time this is happening.
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| Posted 12/1/11 2:10 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
I deal with a 3 year old, and when I use reverse psychology, I get what I want. I'm not sure if that still works with 4 year olds bc I'm not there yet.
If this doesn't work, take something important of his and hide it. (I'm reaching here)
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| Posted 12/1/11 2:17 PM |
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Mom2Be07
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
Posted by neener1211
I deal with a 3 year old, and when I use reverse psychology, I get what I want. I'm not sure if that still works with 4 year olds bc I'm not there yet.
If this doesn't work, take something important of his and hide it. (I'm reaching here)
Thank you so much for your response! I totally tried that too. I took his favorite cars away and he didn't care. I am at a loss. Maybe I should just try ignoring it and see what happens.
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| Posted 12/1/11 2:35 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
Posted by Mom2Be07
Thank you so much for your response! I totally tried that too. I took his favorite cars away and he didn't care. I am at a loss. Maybe I should just try ignoring it and see what happens.
It just might work!
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| Posted 12/1/11 2:56 PM |
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Mom2Be07
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
bump for the evening crowd
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| Posted 12/1/11 6:29 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
I would talk to him about it like an adult but using small words and put it into a perspective he can understand. Something like, how would you feel if I took X, hid it from you, and did not tell you. How would you feel? How do you think you make me feel when you take something that is mine?
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| Posted 12/1/11 8:36 PM |
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Mom2Be07
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Re: Please help. DS is 'borrowing' things and hiding them
Posted by LSP2005
I would talk to him about it like an adult but using small words and put it into a perspective he can understand. Something like, how would you feel if I took X, hid it from you, and did not tell you. How would you feel? How do you think you make me feel when you take something that is mine?
Thank you for the suggestion, but I tried this several times and it didn't work.
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