Please tell me someone knows something about someone suing for Grandparental rights?

Most of you know I was raised by my grandmother, who in nice terms did terrible things to my brother and I..!!!! Well she sent me a message telling me she is seeing an attorney today and seeking rights for visitation of my sons!!!! Please tell me someone can help me? What do I do? Should I go see an attorney? Is there anyway I can get her to stay away from us and to not contact me, or make these threats. I know most of her threats are baseless, but she managed to get and keep my brother and I for 18 years...And please pray that this doesn't happen, because I would die if they had to be exposed to even a second of what I did when I was younger!!

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Unless I am misreading, she is the GREATgrandmother of your children. legally she has less rights than a grandmother.

Secondly, change your phone number or email address, facebook account so that she can't contact you. It boggles my mind (from your past posts) why you would give her your phone number or email address.

You seem to be a very caring and loving person (based on my internet assessment of you) and that is probably why you continually allow these people to make you crazy.


My guess is that she is making empty threats to make you crazy.

Good Luck.

Message edited 3/28/2011 9:14:43 AM.

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I would speak to an attorney. If the. Situation is severe I would file for an order of protection covering you, DH, & DC. Make sure you violate her everytime she's breaks the order...just so you'll have a papertrail.

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I know of someone who sued for grandparent's rights after her daughter passed away and was basically kept away from her grandchild. only got to see her 1x a month for an hour. She was a great person.

So i dont see how they would let someone who mistreated you have rights to your child. KWIM. while NY state does allow peoople to sue for grandparents rights, i dont think she would get too far in your situation.

Hopefully it's just an empty threat, i would change my number and if she calls again make a police report about her threatening you, this way if she does try, you have proof to back up that she's been harrassing you.

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You need to consult with an attorney asap..

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I would consult with a fmaily atorney but most of the time when grandparents ar allowed vistation is when a parent has died or after a divorce

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I'm sorry this is happening! I am not sure how she got you and your brother away from your parents, but as long as you and your husband are fit parents, I don't see any way that she can get visitation. Especially because she is the GREAT grandmother. As someone else suggested, I would change all your methods of contact, phone number and email. I personally would also wait to see if a lawyer even contacts you. Seeing lawyers can become very expensive, so I would probably wait to see if her threats hold and weight, and then proceed from there. I know there are some lawyers on this board or the FHF board, so maybe they can offer some free advice. I am not sure what she did to you and your brother growing up, but this just seems to be her own sick way of trying to torture/control you. I hope it all works out!

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Message edited 3/28/2011 9:50:22 AM.

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The only person I know who successfully sued for grandparents rights was a woman whose son divorced his wife and moved to Florida so he only saw his daughter occassionally. The grandmother lived in New York, so she took her ex-DIL to court for visitation and won.

It was HARD and it was a long battle.. a case like yours is more unusual and I don't think your grandmother would get very far to be honest, just based on what little I know about you and your family life. Contact a lawyer and be totally honest... don't twist facts or do anything that you 'think' may help in the long run (not saying that you would but doing things like that, even with the best of intentions, usually makes everything worse). I'm pretty sure you'll win in the end IF she even has a case at all.

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I would def get a lawyer asap, but it does sound like an empty threat

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Print all of that out and keep everything! you'll need this to nip it in the bud..

while I think filing for an order of protection is in order, I feel you need to reach out to an atty because doing that may subject you and your family to alot of uneccessary drama (social workers, legal guardian, etc.)

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I am not an attorney, however, it has been my experience that unless one or more parent is deceased, it is very difficult for a a grandparentn to successfully get court ordered visitation. Most successful cases involve instances where a grandparent has developed and maintained a relationship with the grandparent and through no fault of their own is suddenly cut out of their grandchild' life (which is where some courts feel is a detriment to the grandparent/grandchild relationship). Most courts take the stance that there needs to be an extraordinary circumstance to override parental judgment and force the visitation of a grandparent. I hope this gives you some peace of mind right now.

That is not to say that she cant "try" to get visitation and make your life a miserable hell while doing so (because she is not going to tell her attorney that she is an unbalanced "piece of work"). However, most reputable attorneys would advise her against pursuing this as it doesnt sound to me that she has had continuous contact with your children

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My aunt went had filed for grandparents visitation for her grandchild. But her circumstances were different. She was a great mom and her EX DIL was a B!tch. Anyway the attorney and the court told her that grandparent’s visitation only allows for 1 visitation a month. You can also request that it be supervised, by someone you guys mutually agree on. Also she isn’t in NY, so I am assuming the rule from state to state vary.


I would contact your family attorney and see what the rules are and what you can do to protect your babies.

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You have FM

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where does she live? close? i would get an order of protection for her threats. im so sorry you're going through this. let me know if i can do anything!

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I don't know about great grandparents rights, but my cousins was sued me his mother for visitation to his 4 kids and she won. She gets them for 4 hrs every other Saturday. It was a horrible process got very ugly. I think you should hire an attorney.

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Thanks ladies, I have spoken with an attorney and we have a plan of action.

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