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AJsMommy122
Stop 2 smell the roses
Member since 5/05 2048 total posts
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Maxine
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Poll about gifts...
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Posted 8/21/05 7:23 PM  |
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AJsMommy122
Stop 2 smell the roses
Member since 5/05 2048 total posts
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Maxine
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Re: Poll about gifts...
Sorry I don't know why I put a "?" after the first poll choice
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:24 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Poll about gifts...
depends on the person...
But i guess i would give what i could...and if i could give what i was given then that is what i would do
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:26 PM |
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TheInfamousOTG
Waiting for Lil' M....
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Re: Poll about gifts...
Posted by Redhead
depends on the person...
But i guess i would give what i could...and if i could give what i was given then that is what i would do
Same here.
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:29 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: Poll about gifts...
depends. Usually I give the same except for:
1 couple who I knew had NO money. We gave them a much larger gift when they got married.
Another couple was obnoxious at our wedding and cost us money in OT on our limos. We subtracted that amount from what we gave them
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:29 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
Member since 5/05 34581 total posts
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Donna
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Re: Poll about gifts...
we used to give what we could afford, now that we are married, we noticed we received less from more then a few people then we gave, so now we did kinda fall into the give what we got category...But we have only been to 2 weddings since we got married...for both we gave what we got, and it was almost equal to what we could afford...we could have give a little bit more...We also didnt because we knew both weddings cost a lot lot less then ours so we knew we did the "covered our plates and more " bit already
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:36 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: Poll about gifts...
just wanted to throw in:
We also received LESS from one couple than we gave them 3 years earlier. My MIL said they're broke. I guess I'm more upset because the wife no-showed, too.
I was surprised at the people who gave us back THE SAME that we gave them YEARS ago. When we were in college, we always gave $200, despite being broke. I was surprised to see that some successful couples gave us back that $200.
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:55 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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Re: Poll about gifts...
I saved all my cards! I wrote on the back of each one, what our gift was. If a someone came to my wedding alone, and DH and I eventually go to thiers, we double the gift or may add a little more, since weve been married a while now.
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| Posted 8/21/05 9:09 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
Kisses
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Re: Poll about gifts...
Considering I had one cousin and his wife give me $50. and his brother and his wife give me a check for $200, have it bounce so that DH and I were charged $20., then when I called him about it he lied to me and said he was balancing 5 checkbooks and he mailed another one out only a few days before... FUNNY IT'S BEEN THREE WEEKS AND NO F-ING CHECK My cheap a$$ family is getting @#$% from me now. So it cost me the price pp plus $20. to invite my cousin and his wife.
Oh, and my own brother stiffed us and gave a speech that crossd the line. He's getting a regift for X-mas.
Everyone else usually what they gave me. I was apparently way too generous in the past and it was never appreciated.
Message edited 8/21/2005 9:31:22 PM.
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| Posted 8/21/05 9:29 PM |
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steph4777
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Member since 5/05 11726 total posts
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Re: Poll about gifts...
I give what I can. I think it's petty and ridiculous to give someone a certain amount bc that's what they gave you once upon a time. What's the point in giving gifts if they end up canceling each other out?
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| Posted 8/21/05 10:48 PM |
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AJsMommy122
Stop 2 smell the roses
Member since 5/05 2048 total posts
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Maxine
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Re: Poll about gifts...
Posted by steph4777
I give what I can. I think it's petty and ridiculous to give someone a certain amount bc that's what they gave you once upon a time. What's the point in giving gifts if they end up canceling each other out?
So you would honestly give a well off couple that gave you $100 at your wedding $250 + the next year or so at their wedding???
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| Posted 8/21/05 10:53 PM |
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Kierasmom
I love my kids
Member since 5/05 2885 total posts
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Jenn
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Re: Poll about gifts...
I try to keep it around the same if I can afford to do it.
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| Posted 8/21/05 10:56 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: Poll about gifts...
Posted by AJsMommy122
Posted by steph4777
I give what I can. I think it's petty and ridiculous to give someone a certain amount bc that's what they gave you once upon a time. What's the point in giving gifts if they end up canceling each other out?
So you would honestly give a well off couple that gave you $100 at your wedding $250 + the next year or so at their wedding???
If that's what I could afford to give - Yes. I make it a point never to make assumptions on other people's finances. I don't balance their checkbook nor do I live with them, so I will truly never know what the person has going on in their personal life.
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| Posted 8/21/05 11:51 PM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
Member since 5/05 27530 total posts
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Re: Poll about gifts...
We always give what we can afford, BUT we also never would give less than what was given to us, does that make sense? Like, now that we're married, and I know I have friends' weddings coming up, I will make damn sure to give at least what they gave us. We have some friends who really have no money, and we know they gave us as much as they could possibly afford, however, JT and I will probably give them a lot more for their wedding for two reasons: one, we can afford more, and two, I know they are really just starting out and could use the money more than JT and I needed it after our wedding. Not that it has anything to do with our wedding, but their our friends, and we like to be as generous as possible.
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| Posted 8/22/05 8:49 AM |
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BabyAvocado
Happy New Year
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Re: Poll about gifts...
I would give what they gave me unless I was suddenly in a much better financial situation where I could afford to give more. That is all I would expect (if you can even say expect - because I wouldn't really expect anything) from them.
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| Posted 8/22/05 9:18 AM |
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jozieb0925
Double Trouble!
Member since 5/05 4358 total posts
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Josie
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Re: Poll about gifts...
I usually give what I can give..and try to spend as much as they did on me..
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| Posted 8/22/05 9:58 AM |
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