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Goobster
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Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Dh and I were talking about when DC is born, how do we feel about unexpected visits from friends or family. So I was curious what happened after you each had your babies re drop by visits and how you felt about unexpected visits. Or how you feel about it still even now that your child is older. I guess i am trying to sort out how to handle this and how I really feel about it and wanted to see a general consensus.
Message edited 10/17/2008 9:01:49 AM.
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jms100303
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Personally, I hate it!! Especially in the beginning, when there were so many people stopping by. It was overwhelming to me and I felt like I needed to entertain. Honestly it would make me stressed out when people dropped by unannounced because you had to stop whatever you are doing. Now I tolerate it more, but still don't like it.
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:01 AM |
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KristinasMama
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I got lucky in the beginning.... People always called me. I remember telling people towards the end - my hands are going to be full, so I would appreciate it if after DD is born could you call b4 coming over.
Just state it nicely, and USUALLY people will abide by your request.
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:03 AM |
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debsey75
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I made it very clear from the beginning for no one to just pop by. I didnt want to be bothered entertaining anyone or missing out on sleep if the baby was sleeping.
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:11 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I think it is rude for ANYONE to drop by unexpectedly 
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:14 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by Mikismom
I think it is rude for ANYONE to drop by unexpectedly
Even if just for a few mins?
See, that's sort of how I feel but wasn't sure if I was being too anal....
ETA- and you feel ANYONE, including mom or dad?
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MarisaK
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
People have this odd sense of entitlement where pregnant women and babies are concerned -
If you think it's going to be a problem (which I anticipate for my friends/family as well) just ask people ahead of time to call first -
My cousin used to tell people 'oh just call so I can let you know when they'll be awake (she had twins) or something like that, she kind of spun it to seem like she was doing THEM a favor and not wasting their time 
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:18 AM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by Mikismom
I think it is rude for ANYONE to drop by unexpectedly
I agree. Give a call before you come.
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aliwnec10
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
We've always had an open door policy, so it didn't bother me at all. 
Most people called, but those that didn't... we could care less.
For the most part, it was family who came by without calling occassionally and they're always welcome, phone call or not.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by Mikismom
I think it is rude for ANYONE to drop by unexpectedly
Even if just for a few mins?
See, that's sort of how I feel but wasn't sure if I was being too anal....
ETA- and you feel ANYONE, including mom or dad?
anyone, like anyone !!! my parents are oos so they could not come unannounced but, yes, I think it is rude to not call first
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Goobster
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by MarisaK
People have this odd sense of entitlement where pregnant women and babies are concerned -
If you think it's going to be a problem (which I anticipate for my friends/family as well) just ask people ahead of time to call first -
My cousin used to tell people 'oh just call so I can let you know when they'll be awake (she had twins) or something like that, she kind of spun it to seem like she was doing THEM a favor and not wasting their time
I plan to do that. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I like my space...hopefully what I say is respected since a few people have "short term" memories...
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
In general, I NEVER like unplanned visit. Sometimes I am busy going out and doing errands and my house is not as tidy and I will do it the next day or so.
When DS was born I would have had a fit. Taking a shower was a "luxury". Forget about the house. It was such a mess. I would have hated someone unannounced coming those 1st 2-3 months.
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:30 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by aliwnec10
We've always had an open door policy, so it didn't bother me at all.
Most people called, but those that didn't... we could care less.
For the most part, it was family who came by without calling occassionally and they're always welcome, phone call or not.
ITA with this and had the same experience.
Honestly, I didn't really stress out about it and therefore it did not become an issue.
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| Posted 10/17/08 9:31 AM |
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Mkr09
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Most of my family/friends call before they stop by. The only one who doesn't is my sister. Most times I don't mind, but as soon as I come home from work I take my work clothes off and put on just a tshirt. A couple of time she's shown up and I've had to scramble to put clothes on.
I really don't mind people stopping by, but as I said fortunately most of my family/friends call first.
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
It never bothered me but I guess because we never had people drop by unless it was my mom. I wish we had more visitors actually 
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NewlyMrs
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I absolutely hate it. I like to have my house and myself presentable when people come over.
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by NewlyMrs
I absolutely hate it. I like to have my house and myself presentable when people come over.
Yup this is me. Plus I can be antisocial at times and go in my zone and can be a real BEOTCH becuase I need me time so its kinda like come if you dare
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Diana1215
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I don't think I've ever had a visitor who didn't call first - even just to say they were in the neighborhood and wanted to pop by.
I don't like random pop-ins that I have no idea about. Esp. in the beginning - you could be sleeping - the baby could be sleeping - I would never do that to someone - nor would I ever expect anyone to do that to me.
Even a call 5 mins beforehand is better than just a knock on the door.
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jessbaby
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
In never bothered me at all. I love company. DH on the other hand hates drop ins.
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Stefanie
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I hate it. If you want to come over, call me first. Don't just show up. That annoys me to no end.
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Goobster
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by Stefanie
I hate it. If you want to come over, call me first. Don't just show up. That annoys me to no end.
What about if someone calls you when they are literally outside your house? Does that count? My dad is known for doing this and I don't know how to handle it. I have asked him to call first and so now this is what he does. Yet IMO it is pretty much pointless to call if you are already sitting outside my house and I know you drove all the way here. Ugh.
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PrincessP
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
See, keep in mind it goes both ways bc I have experienced it. I dont mind people dropping in at all ....but I know people who do and then you get their friendly "nasty" atitude. OK, well if ya dont want me there dont be upset that I dont come over. If ya want me to come...call me since its apparently very hard to please. In the end...people come bc they want to see the baby in a positive light, they dont come over to pizzzz in someones cereal  If your busy during this time, let it be known. The passive agressive "you are here...but I dont want you here" doesnt work. Like I said...Ive experienced the "other" end and I am not too fond of it.
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
Posted by Mikismom
I think it is rude for ANYONE to drop by unexpectedly
ITA!!!
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| Posted 10/17/08 10:56 AM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Poll- How do you feel about family/friends popping by unexpectedly to visit DC?
I'm the lone other. I didn't have anyone stop by unexpectedly. Every single person called first. I even had people call to see if it was OK to come by the hospital.
I guess the only thing I can say is I hope you are lucky enough to have considerate people in your life that will realize a new baby is a challenge and won't just "pop" in without calling first.
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