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zoe282
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pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
What do you think? Do you think we could get a board catered to women who have had some trouble??
I think it would be great...I feel you are in a totally different boat when you get pregnant after you miscarry or after you've had infertility. I feel the emotions would be different...what do you think?
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bride07
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I think it's a great idea! I think the emotions are very different, you have more fears and worries. It's prob hard to be as relax, so it would be great to have each other for comfort.
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| Posted 4/7/10 9:40 PM |
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jerseychick
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I agree that it's a great idea. I think in a lot of ways the emotions are totally different than your "average" pregnancy. And even though this board is ttc & pregnancy, it's hard to talk about pregnancy because so many people on the board are struggling to get pregnant again, kwim?
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| Posted 4/7/10 9:46 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
That is a great idea! If I ever get PG again it is going to be a very scary experience for me and DH which is so unfair!! I can only imagine the feelings we will have the day of our first sono and the fear that the Dr will not see a heartbeat again! I could only imagine what it must be like to have more than 1 MC. Life is so unfair sometimes, so I think that board would be great for everyone to discuss their fears and concerns. It would be nice to one day share these experiences with people who have the same fears.
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| Posted 4/7/10 11:04 PM |
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Exarina
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I think its a great idea
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| Posted 4/8/10 10:00 AM |
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Bean08
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I really like this idea. I've often thought about how I would feel re-joining the pregnancy board after what I have gone through. I look forward sharing my excitement there, but it would also be nice to have somewhere to share my concerns and fears...
Thanks for suggesting this!
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| Posted 4/8/10 10:31 AM |
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Siren77
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I think it would be a great idea!
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| Posted 4/8/10 5:54 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Isn't this board already titled "TTC & Pregnancy after Miscarriage"?
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| Posted 4/8/10 7:05 PM |
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zoe282
We have our miracle!
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by Porrruss
Isn't this board already titled "TTC & Pregnancy after Miscarriage"?
Yes, but a lot of girls don't truly feel comfortable talking about their new pregnancy while others are sad over a loss. I'm not sure the 2 fit on the same board. It's not that people aren't happy for those newly pregnant, but sometimes it hurts to hear...
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| Posted 4/8/10 7:56 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by zoe282
Posted by Porrruss
Isn't this board already titled "TTC & Pregnancy after Miscarriage"?
Yes, but a lot of girls don't truly feel comfortable talking about their new pregnancy while others are sad over a loss. I'm not sure the 2 fit on the same board. It's not that people aren't happy for those newly pregnant, but sometimes it hurts to hear...
Having had 2 early losses- I understand the loss of the "innocence" of pregnancy. That said, I just don't see why yet another board is needed. I totally "get" wanting to be sensitive to those who are still TTC- but not sure why anyone would feel they aren't able to post on Pregnancy either.
M/C is so incredibly common that the "newly pg after m/c" girls would find TONS of ladies on Pregnancy who understand the fear and trepidation of being pregnant following a loss. I feel this should be a community rather than seperating everyone even further/
JMO of course.
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barbara89
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by zoe282
What do you think? Do you think we could get a board catered to women who have had some trouble??
I think it would be great...I feel you are in a totally different boat when you get pregnant after you miscarry or after you've had infertility. I feel the emotions would be different...what do you think?
I often wondered why this board comibined TTC and Pregnancy.
I've dealt with my ectopic and chemicals through the infertility board but I understand that not all miscarriages occur with women struggling to conceive.
Once we do get pregnant - I believe the general forum for pregnancy is welcoming to everyone and I think I'd feel comfortable posting their about any anxiety I may carry from the past.
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Jax430
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I think it would be great if we could have a board like that. I think that for women who have strugged with fertility issues or m/c (and often both) go through a very different experience once they get their BFP than women who have not struggled with these issues. I know that when I am lucky enough to become pregnant again, I will still want to be talking to the ladies from this board about my concerns, but will not necessarily want to post about the details of being PG here when so many continue to struggle with it.
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| Posted 4/9/10 11:32 AM |
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elizabeth78
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I think it's a great idea too! I am almost exactly 1 year after my last m/c at 15 weeks. Though we haven't exactly been trying, we haven't been preventing either... I honestly needed a break because I had a m/c 6 months prior to my last one. I can say, that I am terrified to be pregnant again... I know the outcome will be wonderful.. but it still scares the life out of me....
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| Posted 4/9/10 10:46 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by barbara89
Posted by zoe282
What do you think? Do you think we could get a board catered to women who have had some trouble??
I think it would be great...I feel you are in a totally different boat when you get pregnant after you miscarry or after you've had infertility. I feel the emotions would be different...what do you think?
I often wondered why this board comibined TTC and Pregnancy.
I've dealt with my ectopic and chemicals through the infertility board but I understand that not all miscarriages occur with women struggling to conceive.
Once we do get pregnant - I believe the general forum for pregnancy is welcoming to everyone and I think I'd feel comfortable posting their about any anxiety I may carry from the past.
i asked for this board to be put on LIF simply because either way everyone on it had a loss. and the girls that get PG really gives hope to others. i always loved this board when i was on it going through infertility after 2 losses.. girls that were pregnant really inspired me and shared their stories.. and with that i never gave up.
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| Posted 4/9/10 11:33 PM |
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zoe282
We have our miracle!
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by barbara89
Posted by zoe282
What do you think? Do you think we could get a board catered to women who have had some trouble??
I think it would be great...I feel you are in a totally different boat when you get pregnant after you miscarry or after you've had infertility. I feel the emotions would be different...what do you think?
I often wondered why this board comibined TTC and Pregnancy.
I've dealt with my ectopic and chemicals through the infertility board but I understand that not all miscarriages occur with women struggling to conceive.
Once we do get pregnant - I believe the general forum for pregnancy is welcoming to everyone and I think I'd feel comfortable posting their about any anxiety I may carry from the past.
i asked for this board to be put on LIF simply because either way everyone on it had a loss. and the girls that get PG really gives hope to others. i always loved this board when i was on it going through infertility after 2 losses.. girls that were pregnant really inspired me and shared their stories.. and with that i never gave up.
I agree that i am so happy when people tell me they are pregnant. I get hope too...but no one that has gotten pregnant really talked or asked questions about pregnancy on this board. They would comment on what other people were going through, but since last summer I've never seen much about pregnancy. alot of people who get pregnant never even really check back much...and I know personally I'd love to know how they were feeling and what symptoms they had, and what emotions they were going through.
That's just my opinon though...
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mommy2B3
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I agree with you Jen, and I think it would be a great additional board, because I feel like I'm in la la land over here.
I'm one of those basically, I had my miscarriage, and then got pregnant, and I really don't post anything about it. I post sometimes on parenting, and if there is a question on pregnancy I know the answer to, I post. I don't feel comfortable posting about my pregnancy on the pregnancy board because I feel like sometimes they don't get things. And I still lurk on here checking in on all you girls to see how your doing. But I feel bad for posting about my pregnancy on here, I actually feel awful when I post things on my facebook and some of you girls are my friends on there.
At 29 weeks, I still wake up and move my stomach to make sure she will kick me because I'm just so afraid of losing her again..
I'm also having some problems in my current pregnancy, and don't really know where to talk about it.. like I said I feel like I'm in la la land
And even though I am pregnant, my due date for my loss passed last month, and I didn't know where to talk about it, so I didn't.. and it's just an awful feeling to keep inside..
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zoe282
We have our miracle!
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by mrspalomino148
I agree with you Jen, and I think it would be a great additional board, because I feel like I'm in la la land over here.
I'm one of those basically, I had my miscarriage, and then got pregnant, and I really don't post anything about it. I post sometimes on parenting, and if there is a question on pregnancy I know the answer to, I post. I don't feel comfortable posting about my pregnancy on the pregnancy board because I feel like sometimes they don't get things. And I still lurk on here checking in on all you girls to see how your doing. But I feel bad for posting about my pregnancy on here, I actually feel awful when I post things on my facebook and some of you girls are my friends on there.
At 29 weeks, I still wake up and move my stomach to make sure she will kick me because I'm just so afraid of losing her again..
I'm also having some problems in my current pregnancy, and don't really know where to talk about it.. like I said I feel like I'm in la la land
And even though I am pregnant, my due date for my loss passed last month, and I didn't know where to talk about it, so I didn't.. and it's just an awful feeling to keep inside..
aww I'm sorry you feel like you can't come on here and share! I wish you would! That's why I feel like it's importnat to have both...you said it very well.
We miss you! :) come chat!
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mommy2B3
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by zoe282
Posted by mrspalomino148
I agree with you Jen, and I think it would be a great additional board, because I feel like I'm in la la land over here.
I'm one of those basically, I had my miscarriage, and then got pregnant, and I really don't post anything about it. I post sometimes on parenting, and if there is a question on pregnancy I know the answer to, I post. I don't feel comfortable posting about my pregnancy on the pregnancy board because I feel like sometimes they don't get things. And I still lurk on here checking in on all you girls to see how your doing. But I feel bad for posting about my pregnancy on here, I actually feel awful when I post things on my facebook and some of you girls are my friends on there.
At 29 weeks, I still wake up and move my stomach to make sure she will kick me because I'm just so afraid of losing her again..
I'm also having some problems in my current pregnancy, and don't really know where to talk about it.. like I said I feel like I'm in la la land
And even though I am pregnant, my due date for my loss passed last month, and I didn't know where to talk about it, so I didn't.. and it's just an awful feeling to keep inside..
aww I'm sorry you feel like you can't come on here and share! I wish you would! That's why I feel like it's importnat to have both...you said it very well.
We miss you! :) come chat!
Thanks so much! I know I did post a few things and you girls were so great and it felt so nice to have so many people wishing me well. But then I think that some people may not like reading about other pregnancies when their loss is still so sore, and I also understand that part of it too, so it's just a catch 22. If only things like this didn't happen, so we wouldn't have to worry about it period, that I would like the best lol.
But I miss you girls too, so I'm always here to chat  .. I just wish I was closer so maybe we could even all meet up! If any of you ever head down to the jersey shore, FM me since I'm like 10 min. from pt. pleasant 
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bride07
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autumn
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
Posted by mrspalomino148
I agree with you Jen, and I think it would be a great additional board, because I feel like I'm in la la land over here.
I'm one of those basically, I had my miscarriage, and then got pregnant, and I really don't post anything about it. I post sometimes on parenting, and if there is a question on pregnancy I know the answer to, I post. I don't feel comfortable posting about my pregnancy on the pregnancy board because I feel like sometimes they don't get things. And I still lurk on here checking in on all you girls to see how your doing. But I feel bad for posting about my pregnancy on here, I actually feel awful when I post things on my facebook and some of you girls are my friends on there.
At 29 weeks, I still wake up and move my stomach to make sure she will kick me because I'm just so afraid of losing her again..
I'm also having some problems in my current pregnancy, and don't really know where to talk about it.. like I said I feel like I'm in la la land
And even though I am pregnant, my due date for my loss passed last month, and I didn't know where to talk about it, so I didn't.. and it's just an awful feeling to keep inside..
please do not feel bad one bit. all of us ladies will get pregnant again and I when my time comes around again I will still come on this board to give comfort and support just as you ladies did for me.
In the beginning it was hard for me to see a pregnant woman or hear about someone I know is pregnant.
Truth be told I am okay now.
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Bcubed
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
even though this board is ttc and pregnancy after miscarriage we should seperate the two I agree.
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I'm not sure. There are so many people on LIF who have had a mc and they don't post on this board. I have seen some miscarriage related posts on parenting get more responses. I think that even though someone who has suffered a loss has some different concerns when they get pregnant, a lot of the questions about morning sickness, ultrasounds, nurseries, daycare etc are going to be the same for everyone.
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| Posted 4/16/10 7:32 AM |
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
GREAT IDEA. i was on this board for a very long time, and when I did get pg again I avoided the boards altogether b/c there was NO PLACE for me.
I could not relate to anyone on the pg board b/c instead of bedding and nursery items, and showers, I was focused on worrying and panicking...I really needed support. I didn't want to be on this board b/c everyone on here is still trying to get pg. just as I had been and I didn't want to rub my pregnancy in their face.
I think it is a great idea!
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| Posted 4/16/10 10:18 AM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
I have had my share of IF issues and 3 miscarriages (beween TTC both of my children) after conceiving through IUI. To this day, as I am 18 weeks, I cannot be calm and feel safe 100% even after having had an amniocentesis and knowing that my child is healthy. A loss is a loss no matter when it happens and it changes you forever.
When you deal with IF issues, you know you are PG so early on that it feels as if you have been pregnant longer than anyone else. You are EXTREMELY aware of your body every minute of every day.
There was no such board for me to vent my fears and concerns, but I did know of others who had similar experiences and chose to share my fears with them privately. I recognize that we all handle things differently, I honestly do not think a new board is necessary.
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| Posted 4/17/10 11:00 AM |
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autumn
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Re: pregnancy after miscarriage and/or infertility board
instead of adding a new board what about renaming this original board. So it doesn't pretain to TTC along with miscarriage.
IDK maybe Loss of a Pregnancy
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