Pregnant 1st time, need advice :)

Message edited 10/20/2010 11:32:00 PM.

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I would wait to tell her until you know the exact due date.

ETA: Congrats and Welcome!

Message edited 10/2/2009 11:44:44 PM.

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I wouldn't wait until your engaged to tell your sister... truthfully-what if it doesn't happened until later than you anticipated. When is your dr appt? Would you tell your sister now?

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Wow your situation is def similar to mines. I was engaged...planning a big wedding and everything when I found out I was pregnate (unexpected and was told I would have difficulty because of pcos and was on birth control!!!)

But since I've found out I can say I am totally happy and I've learned that pregnancy is a blessing and you will need a good support system. I would not worry about taking the focus off of your sister because that is sooo not what it is all about. Instead, explain your concerns to her and your family and allow everyone to be happy for the both of you. I would probably wait until your 1st dr's apptmt anyways, but I wouldnt play down your miracle for anything. Your sister should understand and love you regardless, if your due date is close to her wedding, oh well...two blessings in one! Most women dont deliver on their exact dates and especially with pcos you may not even be sure when you lmp was...so just take it easy and try not to overthink your situation...Congratulations and God bless you & your family to be!

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Wow that is a similar situation! It was definitely a surprise b/c I was on BC as well. I was always told it would be harder for me to conceive due to PCOS. I always anticipated having to try and maybe get help in order to get pregnant so it is crazy that it happened like this. Also you are right, I don't know my LMP exactly since even on BC I didn't always get it, so it is an estimate.

I agree, I am going to go to my first Dr's appt next week and then tell her. I am sure it will be fine, it is just a crazy coincidence.

I know my sister will be happy and understand,but also no matter what I will be taking away attention...

I am dying to know the due date, and hope that I will get a sonogram the first appt?

I just went out and got a few books and some pre-natal vitamins.

Thanks for responding so quick, its always good to know other people are in similar situations

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Yeah I am 99% sure it will be soon, but you are right. I want to tell her! I need to tell someone. I am gonna wait for first doc appt next week...thanks :)

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Don't worry about your sister or her wedding.

You have a miracle growing inside you!

Once you have your sono, let her know. You need to decide WITH HER if you still want to be a part of the wedding. (Am I shooting too far? Did you say you were in the wedding?) Well, if you are in the wedding, let her know once you are comfy. And decide on what you both want. If you are still able to be there, and she wants that, order a big dress. Or if you feel comfortable stepping down, say you will help plan the shower and stuff and hope to pass out programs at the wedding.

If she is all pi$$y that you may 'steal her thunder', then fully step down and show up to the wedding as a guest, if you can. Never add to the stress of a bride.

BTW: My BF's sister was having a problem getting PG. He decided to marry a girl and get married in her hometown, about 6 hours from home. His sister got PG (miracle) about 9 months away from the wedding. (Which was glorious!) Of course she couldn't make the 6 hour trip or be part of the wedding. But the morning of the wedding, there were notes everywhere in the hotel that she gave birth! She had a girl the morning of the wedding! It was a miraculous day for the both of them!!!!!

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I would just tell her, things happen, and im sure that she will be happy for you!


Congratulations!!!!!!

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First and foremost, CONGRATS! Secondly, I would wait until you have an exact due date. This way you can be sure when telling her. Also, highlight what a blessing it is because you thought you would have a hard time getting pregnant. I know it's a little different, but my sister and I got married two months apart, and you'd think that we would have "stolen" each other's spotlights, but honestly, more reasons to celebrate!!!

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First off, congrats!

I would wait to get the official EDD, which you will probably get either at your first sono or first appointment (I got mine at 6 wks 3 days and it was off by 5 days!)

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Congrats

I would wait to tell her until you have a due date.

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Message edited 12/13/2011 3:00:30 PM.

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Whatever your relationship with your sister, I am sure she will probably be over the moon. My sister and I are 7 years apart and not super close relationship wise, but she loves her nephew like he's her own. While I was preggers with him and now that he's here, he is often all she talks about.

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Congratulations what a wonderful surprise if it were my sister she would kill me I would tell her as soon as you possibly can, I think I would tell her now. she'll be so excited for you

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Message edited 12/13/2011 3:01:15 PM.

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