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EricaAlt
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Preteen boys!
Ugh! My son is almost 12 and I thought girls get so emotional and mood swings!!
I was wrong. My son loves his video games and it's enough how competitive him and his friends get. I tell him if he's not having fun then he needs to get off. With Covid it's been so bad. I let him play more bc that's how they talk. He's also into sports, but fortnite and minecraft and whatever else they play is consuming him.
He has a lot of friends, but now mainly talks to the same kids that play video games a lot. I've had enough and told him no more and took away the phone too. OMG the drama!
I wish he put this much time into soccer or basketball and hebrew studies. He does get very good grades so that's the tough. Math and all that comes easy to him.
Any advise or someone who can relate?
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Preteen boys!
My son plays way too many video games and getting him to do something else (alone) is very difficult. He loves basketball and baseball but he doesn't like doing them alone so will only practice for a little bit. When I make him take breaks, I'm sure I am able ot take a break as well to play a board game or something with him (and my 9 year old too). Forcing the kids to play together always ends up in some sort of battle royale so sometimes that backfires on me.
As much as I hate the video games - they have helped with socialization over the past year when people have been fairly isolated. I keep on reminding myself of that - while we're limiting their socialization in person - this is their best option.
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| Posted 3/29/21 5:56 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by ali120206
My son plays way too many video games and getting him to do something else (alone) is very difficult. He loves basketball and baseball but he doesn't like doing them alone so will only practice for a little bit. When I make him take breaks, I'm sure I am able ot take a break as well to play a board game or something with him (and my 9 year old too). Forcing the kids to play together always ends up in some sort of battle royale so sometimes that backfires on me.
As much as I hate the video games - they have helped with socialization over the past year when people have been fairly isolated. I keep on reminding myself of that - while we're limiting their socialization in person - this is their best option.
This is exactly me!!! My younger son is 9 too and can play with Legos for hours and always wants to play board games with his brother, but they wind up fighting. I know it's the way they socialize, but they are starting to get too competitive. Or maybe I'm just done with the drama with the boys. He also says the same thing... he'll shoot hoops for a bit and come in and say... ok, I practiced for 20 mins can I go play now. LOL
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NervousNell
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Re: Preteen boys!
I have a girl, but it's pretty much the same.
She has lost friends over the goings on on these Roblox games.
And it's such petty nonsense- but I guess at 10 years old, it's not petty to them, lol
And as you know, girls are even worse with the drama than boys, so you can only imagine the goings on. 
She started playing these games and chatting with friends online during the lockdown last year- they weren't in school, and like you, I felt bad that she had no interaction with friends so I let her get the house party app where they can group chat, video chat etc- so also used FB Messenger kids
But yeah, it's really too much now that she's back in school full time and doing her sports again. She comes home from school and wants to get right on these calls. I make her do homework forist, but I feel she rushes through it to get online.
Same with nights and weekends and now during break.
And she used to play with some toys, do crafts, etc- now she doesn't touch anything but the Ipad. It's sad actually.
And then the fights between friends that ensue.
I am NOT looking forward to the teen years, let me tell you!
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Adri
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Re: Preteen boys!
That's my DS, although he is already a teenager, but he has been that way for years. I just let it go. Before I got so stressed out listening how he screamed when playing, and I felt the same, that if it wasn't fun what the idea was of the video games. Also because of the pandemic he has been playing more and that's sometimes how he socializes and talk to friends. I have let it go because he also keeps good grades and he plays baseball; so as long as he is performing well academically, has outdoor activities and exercises, I'm ok with him playing his video games. Now he screams less, and also he knows he can't because DH works from home and he is constant phone calls.
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| Posted 3/29/21 6:03 PM |
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Re: Preteen boys!
Same and you learn this is not a battle to pick unless they are failing in school or a danger in some way.
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| Posted 3/29/21 6:16 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Preteen boys!
although i'm a good 13ish years from this...
this was about the age my son started to show his anger issues. there were a few broken game consoles because he threw them against the wall. oh, the drama and hormones!!
my heart goes out to all mothers of pre-teens and teens. it was not fun or easy.
it does end and things even out... and they become people we like again (not just love them).
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| Posted 3/29/21 6:26 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by ali120206
My son plays way too many video games and getting him to do something else (alone) is very difficult. He loves basketball and baseball but he doesn't like doing them alone so will only practice for a little bit. When I make him take breaks, I'm sure I am able ot take a break as well to play a board game or something with him (and my 9 year old too). Forcing the kids to play together always ends up in some sort of battle royale so sometimes that backfires on me.
As much as I hate the video games - they have helped with socialization over the past year when people have been fairly isolated. I keep on reminding myself of that - while we're limiting their socialization in person - this is their best option.
This is exactly me!!! My younger son is 9 too and can play with Legos for hours and always wants to play board games with his brother, but they wind up fighting. I know it's the way they socialize, but they are starting to get too competitive. Or maybe I'm just done with the drama with the boys. He also says the same thing... he'll shoot hoops for a bit and come in and say... ok, I practiced for 20 mins can I go play now. LOL
My son does too.
Things should hopefully slow down now that the weather is nice and they can do things outside again and he's going back to school full time next month (finally!) But I just know we're going to end up with a quarantine now that there's so many things to do lol so we'll be back to video games and remote school 24/7.
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| Posted 3/29/21 6:44 PM |
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Re: Preteen boys!
Oh I can most definitely relate!!
How am I winning this? Pure luck. My DS had a fit last night because he "died" and spiked his Switch. Now it's garbage. Guess who isn't getting a new one?
I saw a thing on IG today that said to log on under their account and get them banned. LOL
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| Posted 3/29/21 6:46 PM |
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MyBabyG
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by NervousNell
I have a girl, but it's pretty much the same.
She has lost friends over the goings on on these Roblox games.
And it's such petty nonsense- but I guess at 10 years old, it's not petty to them, lol
And as you know, girls are even worse with the drama than boys, so you can only imagine the goings on.
She started playing these games and chatting with friends online during the lockdown last year- they weren't in school, and like you, I felt bad that she had no interaction with friends so I let her get the house party app where they can group chat, video chat etc- so also used FB Messenger kids
But yeah, it's really too much now that she's back in school full time and doing her sports again. She comes home from school and wants to get right on these calls. I make her do homework forist, but I feel she rushes through it to get online.
Same with nights and weekends and now during break.
And she used to play with some toys, do crafts, etc- now she doesn't touch anything but the Ipad. It's sad actually.
And then the fights between friends that ensue.
I am NOT looking forward to the teen years, let me tell you!
Same.exact.thing.here. My DD will be 9 in a few days and I am so over it! She is going to make me have a stoke listening to this nonsense. The fights-oh my goodness! Yesterday it was over a miraculous game in roblox and who was going to be miraculous ladybug. You’d think the world was coming to an end!
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| Posted 3/29/21 7:22 PM |
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by MyBabyG
Posted by NervousNell
I have a girl, but it's pretty much the same.
She has lost friends over the goings on on these Roblox games.
And it's such petty nonsense- but I guess at 10 years old, it's not petty to them, lol
And as you know, girls are even worse with the drama than boys, so you can only imagine the goings on.
She started playing these games and chatting with friends online during the lockdown last year- they weren't in school, and like you, I felt bad that she had no interaction with friends so I let her get the house party app where they can group chat, video chat etc- so also used FB Messenger kids
But yeah, it's really too much now that she's back in school full time and doing her sports again. She comes home from school and wants to get right on these calls. I make her do homework forist, but I feel she rushes through it to get online.
Same with nights and weekends and now during break.
And she used to play with some toys, do crafts, etc- now she doesn't touch anything but the Ipad. It's sad actually.
And then the fights between friends that ensue.
I am NOT looking forward to the teen years, let me tell you!
Same.exact.thing.here. My DD will be 9 in a few days and I am so over it! She is going to make me have a stoke listening to this nonsense. The fights-oh my goodness! Yesterday it was over a miraculous game in roblox and who was going to be miraculous ladybug. You’d think the world was coming to an end!
My daughter lost a friend and went through endless drama from last spring to this day over this one:
Her and her friends wanted to enter a friend's "house" in Roblox but the girl wouldn't let them in.
When they asked her why she said she didn't have enough bedrooms in said house for them and didn't want them sleeping on the floor because it wasn't a "good look".
I shit you not. It's really hilarious....
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| Posted 3/29/21 7:32 PM |
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Funkybutt
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Preteen boys!
It's been crazy here with 5 kids (ages 6-13). The anger isn't just in the pre-teen boys, either. We've had to limit all screen time because we found that if they're on too much, they get angrier toward the end of the day. Don't get me wrong, they get PLENTY of time, but we had to schedule screen free time that they know will occur each day so they don't fight.
The funny one is screen free Saturday morning - no screens at all until noon. They'll be playing all morning (they do competitions and whoever loses has to spin the wheel of punishment - LOL). Around 11:30, they'll ask Alexa every 5 minutes what time it is - even though they've already set an alarm in multiple rooms. They can be in the middle of a game of the floor is lava, and as soon as the alarm goes off - they're racing to their devices and turn into zombies.
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| Posted 3/29/21 8:18 PM |
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Re: Preteen boys!
Oh we have had it here too. I feel you on allowing more screen time for socialization during the pandemic. My kids are both high honor roll kids, and studying for their b'nai mitzvah. (My son's bar mitzvah was postponed for a year). We try to have family game night. Play basketball. And have family walks around the block. Thakfully the weather is getting nicer so I will send them in the backyard again.
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| Posted 3/29/21 9:42 PM |
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MyBabyG
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MyBabyG
Posted by NervousNell
I have a girl, but it's pretty much the same.
She has lost friends over the goings on on these Roblox games.
And it's such petty nonsense- but I guess at 10 years old, it's not petty to them, lol
And as you know, girls are even worse with the drama than boys, so you can only imagine the goings on.
She started playing these games and chatting with friends online during the lockdown last year- they weren't in school, and like you, I felt bad that she had no interaction with friends so I let her get the house party app where they can group chat, video chat etc- so also used FB Messenger kids
But yeah, it's really too much now that she's back in school full time and doing her sports again. She comes home from school and wants to get right on these calls. I make her do homework forist, but I feel she rushes through it to get online.
Same with nights and weekends and now during break.
And she used to play with some toys, do crafts, etc- now she doesn't touch anything but the Ipad. It's sad actually.
And then the fights between friends that ensue.
I am NOT looking forward to the teen years, let me tell you!
Same.exact.thing.here. My DD will be 9 in a few days and I am so over it! She is going to make me have a stoke listening to this nonsense. The fights-oh my goodness! Yesterday it was over a miraculous game in roblox and who was going to be miraculous ladybug. You’d think the world was coming to an end!
My daughter lost a friend and went through endless drama from last spring to this day over this one:
Her and her friends wanted to enter a friend's "house" in Roblox but the girl wouldn't let them in.
When they asked her why she said she didn't have enough bedrooms in said house for them and didn't want them sleeping on the floor because it wasn't a "good look".
I shit you not. It's really hilarious....
Ahah yes... the infamous roblox bedroom fights. Those are the best. I’ve heard crazy reasons why my DD couldn’t enter a friends house and then I am over here scratching my head like “wtf am I listening to??” I feel Ike yelling” can’t you stuff a room with a bunch of bunk beds or something?” Do they even have bunk beds in that game??
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Re: Preteen boys!
Sadly I can totally relate. At least once a day I say "I hate Middle School! He's angry at the world one minute, and the best kid ever the next. It is exhausting. We have gotten into some blow outs that I never in my life saw coming and I have so much guilt when that happens. The video games have been such a blessing and a curse. I feel your pain.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Preteen boys!
So sounds like the age. Fun! LOL!
So I took away video games yesterday and at first it was a fight. But not about video games... everything that bothers him, but really doesn't bc he was in a mood and just was saying random things like... why do we have to do math in school? Or things just to get me started.
I held my ground and finally after lunch he was better and played outside for a while and with neighbors, went for bike rides, etc. Wow, a different kid. I told him... amazing how good you are when you come up from the basement and do some fun activities. LOL!
We'll see how it goes today. I'm sure I'll give in to video games bc the weather looks like rain and he got better.
Love puberty time!!
I do tell him that he does get good grades and to keep up with honors and hebrew school studies bc he has his bar mitzvah next year.
I've told him before... nobody wants the best fortnite player on their sports team. LOL
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Re: Preteen boys!
I am right there with you.
It sucks and I know it's going to get worse before it gets better.
I cannot believe the drama that ensues when they all get online together. Who likes whom, who would date whom, I don't have a crush on her anymore, that was just last week, now it's this one, omg look at this one's minecraft house, etc. etc. Laughing one second, screaming the next.
I'm just glad he plays a sport to get him out of the house.
I figure before we know it they'll be out of the house and we'll be wishing we were hearing their nonsense lol.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by JennP
I am right there with you.
It sucks and I know it's going to get worse before it gets better.
I cannot believe the drama that ensues when they all get online together. Who likes whom, who would date whom, I don't have a crush on her anymore, that was just last week, now it's this one, omg look at this one's minecraft house, etc. etc. Laughing one second, screaming the next.
I'm just glad he plays a sport to get him out of the house.
I figure before we know it they'll be out of the house and we'll be wishing we were hearing their nonsense lol.
Oh, and they always kill each other "by accident"
Yelling... I didn't mean to kill you!
And they get mad at each other.
Yes, and the girl talk too. I don't like her. or telling lies that she's his girlfriend. My son really isn't into the girls yet, but a couple of his best friends are and a few like the same girl so the drama with that. My son just tells me he says he likes this girl Ava who is our family close friends bc they grew up together and it's just easy to say her. LOL
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ali120206
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Re: Preteen boys!
Posted by EricaAlt
So sounds like the age. Fun! LOL!
So I took away video games yesterday and at first it was a fight. But not about video games... everything that bothers him, but really doesn't bc he was in a mood and just was saying random things like... why do we have to do math in school? Or things just to get me started.
I held my ground and finally after lunch he was better and played outside for a while and with neighbors, went for bike rides, etc. Wow, a different kid. I told him... amazing how good you are when you come up from the basement and do some fun activities. LOL!
We'll see how it goes today. I'm sure I'll give in to video games bc the weather looks like rain and he got better.
Love puberty time!!
I do tell him that he does get good grades and to keep up with honors and hebrew school studies bc he has his bar mitzvah next year.
I've told him before... nobody wants the best fortnite player on their sports team. LOL
My son came up upset - two of his friends he feels don't like that he tells them what to do - and he doesn't like that they yell at him when they lose.
I told him to play with his cousin - but he's playing with my son's other friend who's bossy so he doesn't want to play with him.
And the other friends are playing games he doesn't have.
Can't win!
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