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mrswask
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Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Not being morbid - but they're talking about this on Curb Your Enthusiasm right now and I know I've thought about it before...
If you and your spouse are different religions, have you thought about how or where you'll be buried?
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dm24angel
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
What if we are SAME religion? We are still having that problem!!
I want to be buried and DH wants to be cremated.
I know that for me, visitng my loved ones grave is special for me, its a place I can go and feel closer to them ...DH doesnt want this and Im trying to "convince " him of it...
Message edited 4/7/2006 11:20:14 PM.
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:20 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Posted by dm24angel
What if we are SAME religion? We are still having that problem!!
I want to be buried and DH wants to be cremated.
I know that for me, visitng my loved ones grave is special for me, its a place I can go and feel closer to them ...DH doesnt want this and Im trying to "convince " him of it...
I am Catholic and DH is Protestant. He wants to be cremated too, and I just don't sit well with it... So we're in the same situation!
Message edited 4/7/2006 11:21:52 PM.
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mrswask
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
I am Jewish and DH is Christian and I'm just hoping that by the time we all get old, there will actually be interfaith cemetaries - since interfaith marriage is so prevalent now!
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:24 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Posted by mrswask
I am Jewish and DH is Christian and I'm just hoping that by the time we all get old, there will actually be interfaith cemetaries - since interfaith marriage is so prevalent now!
I didnt even realzie this until you just posted it. Wow, thats gotta be rough. What about a private cemetary? Or is that against both religions?
I know I had a Catholic friend bury her son in a private cemetray and a priest blessed the ground? But it wasnt considered as "holy " a land as say a tradtional catholic cemetary. But to ME..how holy really is the land?
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:25 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Never heard of a private cemetary - what is that - just a cemetary not connected to anyone's religion?
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| Posted 4/7/06 11:27 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
We both want to be creamated so no issues here. We're not really interfaith per se though. DH is atheist and I'm kind of nothing although I was raised Christian.
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dm24angel
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
yeah. I dont know the technically term..Im sure there is one, I doubt its called a private cemetary..Im just a dope.... There is one in Lindenhurst ( the one Im thinking of) ...there is like only maybe 300 plots there. Takes up like a half block.
OH and wait isisnt there a non denominational (sp? ) one in Riverhead or somewhere out east somewhere....
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oakslady
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
we have the same problem my dh wants to be buried at sea ( i was like what???!! )
since i will probabaly be the last one in my family line i figured i would get cremated and have my ashes put in a series of lockets for my friends. if i bought a plot i would be all alone (there wont be space in my family's plot  )
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MissJones
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
I want to be cremated and DH is Jewish, so he'll be buried. So we've talked aobut it. If I go first, he'll be buried with my ashes. If he goes first, my ashes will be buried next to him (or above him).
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
If I am not mistaken, I recall hearing this many moons ago, but Pinelawn Cemetary is non-denominational.
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TheInfamousOTG
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
We're both Catholic, so we both have to be buried in a cemetary. It's against the catholic religion to be cremated.
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Snozberry
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
He wants to be buried (he's Jewish); I want to be cremated (I was raised Catholic).
We've already started to talk about it and I would be okay with him being buried in his family plot and me having my ashes scattered. I don't think he's okay with that, but we discuss every so often and hope that we'll come to a decision sooner rather than later.
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Jacquie
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Posted by dm24angel
yeah. I dont know the technically term..Im sure there is one, I doubt its called a private cemetary..Im just a dope.... There is one in Lindenhurst ( the one Im thinking of) ...there is like only maybe 300 plots there. Takes up like a half block.
OH and wait isisnt there a non denominational (sp? ) one in Riverhead or somewhere out east somewhere....
Are you thinking of Calverton? There are all different religions there, but you had to serve in the military to be buried there (or your spouse did).
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BobBsWife
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Nope I haven't thought of it, but I know we should!!
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| Posted 4/8/06 11:12 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
There are many non-denominational cemeteries out there, also it may be possible that you don't have to be catholic to be buried in a catholic cemetery, etc, if your spouse is.
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
I just did some research, cause it was bugging me that I heard this and couldn't remember when, but Pinelawn accepts people of all faiths. I just searched their website.
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juju
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
The thought has crossed my mind but we never talked about it. I don't know what I want. I don't like the idea of bugs crawling all around me and being confined to a box. As for the masoleum, I like the airconditioned part but not the confinement. And I don't like the idea of cremation. So I am clueless. LOL
As for DH, he has not given me a clue because he hates to talk about death. But, I know we might also have a problem about the Location. Im a native Texan and he is a native New Yorker. But, if God willing, if we die in our old age, I would like to be somewhere near our children. Of course, an interfaith place.
ETA: If I am buried, I would like a closed casket please.
Gosh, this does sound morbid. LOL
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dpli
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Posted by TheInfamousOTG
We're both Catholic, so we both have to be buried in a cemetary. It's against the catholic religion to be cremated.
I'm not sure this is still true - I have been to memorial masses in Catholic churches where the urn of ashes was on the altar.
DH has a family plot, but as for me, it doesn't really matter. I feel like once I am gone, my spirit is elsewhere and it doesn't really matter where my body is - so I would be buried with him to make him happy. We are different religions, but both Christian, so I think this is less of a problem for us.
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dooodles
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Re: Question for those of you in interfaith marriages...
Posted by dpli
Posted by TheInfamousOTG
We're both Catholic, so we both have to be buried in a cemetary. It's against the catholic religion to be cremated.
I'm not sure this is still true - I have been to memorial masses in Catholic churches where the urn of ashes was on the altar.
DH has a family plot, but as for me, it doesn't really matter. I feel like once I am gone, my spirit is elsewhere and it doesn't really matter where my body is - so I would be buried with him to make him happy. We are different religions, but both Christian, so I think this is less of a problem for us.
Actually the Catholic religion does now recognize cremation. DH and I baptized our son and had him cremated. We almost buried his ashed in the Holy Rood cemetary in Westbury where they have a Babies garden, but we decided to keep him at home with us in an urn until one of us goes and his ashes can be scattered with ours.
I believe the priest also spoke to Janet about how the church is okay with cremation. I think her IL's did not realize this.
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