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OMGBFP
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Question regarding OOT wedding...
I am supposed to be a bridesmaid in my friend's OOT wedding in October about 3.5 weeks after my due date.
The wedding is about 8 hours away and is the bride's 2nd wedding although it will still be a big affair. We haven't told our families yet, so I haven't said anything to my friend.
I can't decide if I want to back out. I mean, what if I go late? WWYD? Has anyone else been in this predicament? Thanks!!!
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Posted 2/18/08 10:56 AM  |
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julz33
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
I would probably back out. It is better to give her more notice to ask someone else. You could be 2 weeks late... then what? You would only be 1.5 weeks post partum.
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:03 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
For one, there is a chance you may go a little later than your due date. But also, you have to consider the fact that there is a VERY good chance you are not going to feel up to traveling 8hrs. and taking part in an all day affair so soon after giving birth. You are going to be exhausted and you never know, if you have to have a C-section you're going to be recovering. And who wants the stress of having to worry about fitting into a bridesmaid dress 3 wks. after having a baby???
My best friend got married last summer and 2 of the bridesmaids backed out early on because they knew they were due around the time of the wedding and it would not be practical to try take part in the day. I think you need to tell your friend that it will be hard for you to be in the wedding party but maybe you will try and make the wedding as a guest but let her know that your RSVP will be "up in the air" until the last minute because you don't know how those last few weeks are going to play out. Good luck with your decision!! 
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:03 AM |
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Preguntas
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
eek- even if you go one week early, that's too soon.
My cousin is getting married 4 weeks after my due date, 30 minutes east of my house. I'm not going.
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:19 AM |
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OMGBFP
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Okay - you have all made me feel a lot better! I was worried that she might think I was selfish for backing out.
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:22 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by OMGBFP
Okay - you have all made me feel a lot better! I was worried that she might think I was selfish for backing out.
You are not selfish at all!! I am sure she would TOTALLY understand and I think she would be more shocked and surprised if you didn't back out!!
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:26 AM |
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Tonia
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by julz33
I would probably back out. It is better to give her more notice to ask someone else. You could be 2 weeks late... then what? You would only be 1.5 weeks post partum.
I agree...plus you may still achy and uncomfortable.
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:32 AM |
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Preguntas
it's pretty precious
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by OMGBFP
Okay - you have all made me feel a lot better! I was worried that she might think I was selfish for backing out.
If you're close enough to this girl that you are her choice for BM, then she will be elated for you.
Message edited 2/18/2008 11:59:17 AM.
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| Posted 2/18/08 11:58 AM |
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mcl916
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
I would definately back out of the wedding party and then play it by ear if you want to go to the wedding when the time comes (tell her not to count you, but if you do end up going she can add you at last minute so she doesn't loose out on the $$ for your plate). My cousins wedding is 2 weeks before my due date which would be fins, except now I am expecting twins which I expect to come early. I have no idea what to do, but she already told me I was excused and not to stress over it But I still really want to go so it's going to be a game day decision!!
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| Posted 2/18/08 12:03 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
I am in a similar situation, except that it is my sister's first wedding 2 weeks after my due date and I am her MOH! I have already tried to back out, but she insists on playing it by ear and even went out and bought a choclate brown (the bridesmaid color) onsie "in case" I have to bring the baby... there is no talking to her but i dont think you can even take a 2 week old out that early around so many people. She just doesnt want to think of it yet
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| Posted 2/18/08 2:06 PM |
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OMGBFP
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by 1stimemom
I am in a similar situation, except that it is my sister's first wedding 2 weeks after my due date and I am her MOH! I have already tried to back out, but she insists on playing it by ear and even went out and bought a choclate brown (the bridesmaid color) onsie "in case" I have to bring the baby... there is no talking to her but i dont think you can even take a 2 week old out that early around so many people. She just doesnt want to think of it yet
OMG - I cannot believe she bought you a chocolate brown onesie!  There is no way you can be the MOH so soon after your due date! Isn't there someone else she can ask and then you can promise to *try* to attend?
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| Posted 2/18/08 2:54 PM |
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CherylWoops
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by OMGBFP
Okay - you have all made me feel a lot better! I was worried that she might think I was selfish for backing out.
OMG, no WAY could anyone think you are being selfish for backing out. I definitely would if it was me. It's too difficult to predict at this point when you would deliver, and being a BM 5 minutes after you give ***** sounds like much unneeded stress. Any friend would understand. 
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| Posted 2/18/08 3:38 PM |
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CherylWoops
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by 1stimemom
I am in a similar situation, except that it is my sister's first wedding 2 weeks after my due date and I am her MOH! I have already tried to back out, but she insists on playing it by ear and even went out and bought a choclate brown (the bridesmaid color) onsie "in case" I have to bring the baby... there is no talking to her but i dont think you can even take a 2 week old out that early around so many people. She just doesnt want to think of it yet
Wow!!!!
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| Posted 2/18/08 3:39 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
Posted by 1stimemom
I am in a similar situation, except that it is my sister's first wedding 2 weeks after my due date and I am her MOH! I have already tried to back out, but she insists on playing it by ear and even went out and bought a choclate brown (the bridesmaid color) onsie "in case" I have to bring the baby... there is no talking to her but i dont think you can even take a 2 week old out that early around so many people. She just doesnt want to think of it yet
she obviously doesn't know much about babies
of course a 2 week old can't come to a wedding..... and of course, the mom will still be exhausted and out of sorts....
sure, play it by ear  but tell her she needs a serious back-up plan... becuase it likely will be enacted.
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| Posted 2/18/08 3:57 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Question regarding OOT wedding...
"OMG - I cannot believe she bought you a chocolate brown onesie!"
oh yes she did! actually, it's a kimono ... sorry lol -here's proof....
I know one person praying I'll go early! Image Attachment(s):
Message edited 2/18/2008 4:43:41 PM.
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