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LovelyMe
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Quick question
Did everyone plan their pregnancy or whas it just a unexpected surprise?
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mikeswife06
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Re: Quick question
Mine was a surprise!!!! Best ever!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:33 PM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: Quick question
Mine was planned. 
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:34 PM |
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LovelyMe
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Re: Quick question
When planning how do you know it's the right time? I am Married only a few months and my Hubby would love to have babies right now but i am scared of being someone's mommy
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:38 PM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Quick question
Posted by LovelyMe
When planning how do you know it's the right time? I am Married only a few months and my Hubby would love to have babies right now but i am scared of being someone's mommy
I don't think people can ever be fully "ready". I just think some can't possibly wait any longer and they feel ready. It is totally scary but amazing. I knew my DH would never feel ready to TTC so I am thankful it was a surprise for us 
Are you ready for the lack of sleep? for making the hardest decisions you've ever had to make? for being responsible for another life? No? Join the club.
But are you ready for the most love you will ever feel for anything or anyone? for your heart to melt when your baby looks you in the eyes? and to fall inlove with your SO all over again? Yes? Then go for it!
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:43 PM |
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LovelyMe
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Re: Quick question
thank you so much for explaining that to me ..im glad im not alone in my feelings
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:49 PM |
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babydeelila
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Re: Quick question
reading this makes me more excited than nervous about TTC'ing... TY
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:53 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: Quick question
there is never going to be a 'perfect' time to have a baby....just as there is never a perfect time to do ANYTHING in life.
a good suggestion may be to sit down with DH & discuss your thoughts on this topic...you may truly be surprised at what is in his head.
Shortly - after we were married, dave knew i wanted to start trying. He wanted to wait. I did some research and sat down with him honestly and told him my feelings and showed him all the things I had found.
He was one of those men who thought - i 'finish' in you and you get pregnant. It is simply not that easy for everyone. In fact, for most women - it's not that easy.
Once i laid all of this info out to him, he asked for a few days to think about what he learned and he called me the next day....to tell me he was ready. He said he really appreciated that i didn't freak out (like other people's wives he knows have)..that i just gave him the facts and asked that he think about what i said.
It wound up taking us 6 months to get pregnant and every month AF showed, he would hug me and say - i'm so glad we didn't wait....i'm sorry i ever doubted you.
It may seem silly - but that conversation 7 months ago was so crucial for our relationship - we both learned a lot about each other...we really did.
Are we not 'in debt?' no....but are we okay financially? yes... Are we ready to have a baby? Without a doubt - YES...
i'm sorry for rambling - but i would sit down and talk to DH.. 
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:54 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
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Re: Quick question
Our  was EXTREMELY planned. Unfortunately I have ovulatory issues so that's the way all of our pregnancies will have to happen...
But in regard to that "urge" that you're talking about...I got it a good 2 years before we started TTC--we held off because I wanted to make sure we were in a better place, physically and financially.
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:55 PM |
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Mine was somewhat of a surprise as we were not really trying and did not think it would happen that quick.
I do think it's very important to be financially-prepared as well as having a good support network in place before bringing a child into the world.
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| Posted 10/26/08 6:57 PM |
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LovelyMe
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Re: Quick question
Posted by davenjess
there is never going to be a 'perfect' time to have a baby....just as there is never a perfect time to do ANYTHING in life.
a good suggestion may be to sit down with DH & discuss your thoughts on this topic...you may truly be surprised at what is in his head.
Shortly - after we were married, dave knew i wanted to start trying. He wanted to wait. I did some research and sat down with him honestly and told him my feelings and showed him all the things I had found.
He was one of those men who thought - i 'finish' in you and you get pregnant. It is simply not that easy for everyone. In fact, for most women - it's not that easy.
Once i laid all of this info out to him, he asked for a few days to think about what he learned and he called me the next day....to tell me he was ready. He said he really appreciated that i didn't freak out (like other people's wives he knows have)..that i just gave him the facts and asked that he think about what i said.
It wound up taking us 6 months to get pregnant and every month AF showed, he would hug me and say - i'm so glad we didn't wait....i'm sorry i ever doubted you.
It may seem silly - but that conversation 7 months ago was so crucial for our relationship - we both learned a lot about each other...we really did.
Are we not 'in debt?' no....but are we okay financially? yes... Are we ready to have a baby? Without a doubt - YES...
i'm sorry for rambling - but i would sit down and talk to DH..
Thank you , DH and I have spoke about it and I think he is feeling left out of the mix so many ppl in his family and friends of ours are having babies and he loves children....I love kids too but sometimes i feel like we just got married and I want to enjoy our time alone and focusing on each other for now, we dont have a house and lately there has been some "woops" moments and i get really scared that what if "it" happens and I not ready.
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LovelyMe
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Re: Quick question
And financially we are so so right now , so thats scary too
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| Posted 10/26/08 7:02 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: Quick question
Posted by LovelyMe
Posted by davenjess
there is never going to be a 'perfect' time to have a baby....just as there is never a perfect time to do ANYTHING in life.
a good suggestion may be to sit down with DH & discuss your thoughts on this topic...you may truly be surprised at what is in his head.
Shortly - after we were married, dave knew i wanted to start trying. He wanted to wait. I did some research and sat down with him honestly and told him my feelings and showed him all the things I had found.
He was one of those men who thought - i 'finish' in you and you get pregnant. It is simply not that easy for everyone. In fact, for most women - it's not that easy.
Once i laid all of this info out to him, he asked for a few days to think about what he learned and he called me the next day....to tell me he was ready. He said he really appreciated that i didn't freak out (like other people's wives he knows have)..that i just gave him the facts and asked that he think about what i said.
It wound up taking us 6 months to get pregnant and every month AF showed, he would hug me and say - i'm so glad we didn't wait....i'm sorry i ever doubted you.
It may seem silly - but that conversation 7 months ago was so crucial for our relationship - we both learned a lot about each other...we really did.
Are we not 'in debt?' no....but are we okay financially? yes... Are we ready to have a baby? Without a doubt - YES...
i'm sorry for rambling - but i would sit down and talk to DH..
Thank you , DH and I have spoke about it and I think he is feeling left out of the mix so many ppl in his family and friends of ours are having babies and he loves children....I love kids too but sometimes i feel like we just got married and I want to enjoy our time alone and focusing on each other for now, we dont have a house and lately there has been some "woops" moments and i get really scared that what if "it" happens and I not ready.
then i think you just answered your own question... If you are getting scared....then maybe you need more time yourself... it's not wrong or even inappropriate to feel that way at all!!!
I'm sure if i didn't live with dave for 5 1/2 years before we were married - i'd feel differently...i'd want 'our time'......but we're both more than happy with the time we have together...and wanted to add to that joy with a baby.
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LovelyMe
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Re: Quick question
congrats , im very happy for you DH and I are only together from dating till now 5 yrs..so I need more time...thank you again
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Angel321
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Re: Quick question
Posted by LovelyMe
congrats , im very happy for you DH and I are only together from dating till now 5 yrs..so I need more time...thank you again
just wanted to make sure that again, you know that there is NOTHING wrong with that!!! Enjoy your time together - you will know when you are ready
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Also keep in mind that once it actually happens, you are going to have lots of moments of being scared and freaked out. I was like this probably until the middle of my 2nd trimester. Now that I am 30-weeks in, I can honestly start to say that I am starting to feel pretty confident that I can handle whatever unknowns are about to be thrown our way. I'm not a religious person at all, but kind of believe that we are not given anything in life we are not able to handle (cheesy as that sounds!).
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| Posted 10/26/08 7:15 PM |
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mamallama
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Re: Quick question
a very happy and double surprise!
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| Posted 10/26/08 7:18 PM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Quick question
Posted by mzsocialworker1
Also keep in mind that once it actually happens, you are going to have lots of moments of being scared and freaked out. I was like this probably until the middle of my 2nd trimester.
TOTALLY!!!!!!!
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| Posted 10/26/08 7:26 PM |
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Mere09
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Re: Quick question
Completely unexpected. Never thought I'd be this happy though...
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| Posted 10/26/08 8:09 PM |
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Arieschick29
aries+cancer= pisces&gemini
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Re: Quick question
a planned suprise....we werent using any protection but werent really trying with ovulation predictors and such.
We have been together 10 years ( married almost 3) so once we bought our house we felt more ready.
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