Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

I have probably posted a similar thread but I need help.

My son will be 10 months old in a week. He generally goes to bed bw 7-8pm, lately he has been putting up a fight with falling asleep which was never a problem.

He wakes up twice, usually @ 1 and then anywhere from 3-5 am.

I give him a bottle (not always a full one enough to get him back to sleep)

Sometimes I just leave him in bed with us bc I am so tired.

I tried letting him cry but he is very willful and will cry for an hour straight hysterically, going in to "soothe" makes it worse I really don't think it is healthy to let him scream any longer than that...

I am going back to work in Sept and I really am not going to able to function without some sleep.

Any advice or suggestions? I know I am enabling the situation..you can be brutal on me... Thanks girls

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

IMO, you should probably stop giving him the bottle in the middle of the night. I really don't think he needs the nourishment at this point, he's old enough to STTN - it's just that he's gotten so used to it. If you're not willing to let him CIO for an extended period have you tried like ferberizing or something? i think that's a little different?

(don't hate on me )

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

We went through that for about a month around the same age. And we did the same thing, bottle and in bed with us. Eventually one night he just didn't wake up and it's been relatively smooth sailing from there. I think it was teeth and/or a growth spurt.

Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

I am right there with you.....DS is 8 months and started doing this about 2 months ago. I know to stop feeding him, but hearing him scream is just torture and it wakes my toddler. I'm interested in ideas also

What is ferberizing?

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

Posted by Bearcat

IMO, you should probably stop giving him the bottle in the middle of the night. I really don't think he needs the nourishment at this point, he's old enough to STTN - it's just that he's gotten so used to it. If you're not willing to let him CIO for an extended period have you tried like ferberizing or something? i think that's a little different?

(don't hate on me )

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

My 15 month old has always done this... with the exception of a few weeks around 4 mos old... and except that I BF, so no bottle. She often gets up 2x during the night to BF & then goes back to bed, usu in our bed so I can just get some darn sleep. Like you, I know it's not the best thing, but it isn't worth the fight or CIO to me.... just easier to let her BF & sleep with us, as I know that this will not last forever. My frustration is that since she has teeth, I have to brush her teeth after each feeding, and THAT is tiring.

Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

We've had a lot of trouble with my DS getting up during the night--sometimes once, sometimes 8x's--he's been getting teeth since 4 months so that's part of it, and we think his stomach (he's allergic to milk and soy and with solid foods sometimes we've tried things we shouldn't have). We've tried CIO and Ferber and bringing him into our bed (he still wakes and cries in our bed!) but nothing has produced consistent results. But now at 13 months he's sleeping 12 hours through at least 4 nights a week in his crib. So it seems we are turning a corner. It will happen.

Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

Thanks ladies...I ordered "Solve Your Childs sleep problems" the new edition by Richard Ferber....anyone else have any suggestions?

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

Posted by DiamondGirl

Posted by Bearcat

IMO, you should probably stop giving him the bottle in the middle of the night. I really don't think he needs the nourishment at this point, he's old enough to STTN - it's just that he's gotten so used to it. If you're not willing to let him CIO for an extended period have you tried like ferberizing or something? i think that's a little different?

(don't hate on me )

no hate I know he doesn't need the bottle, he is just used to having it. I guess I have to just soothe him (while he screams bloody murder at me) and not give the bottle...giving the bottle is so much easier though bc there is an end in sight

Re: Really bad sleeping habits, 10 month old, please help

My son was still getting a bottle in the middle of the night at 6 months. There was just no need for it, but as long as I kept giving it, he was still waking up. I was a walking zombie so I decided to let him cry it out.

.Going in there and soothing didn't work for either one of my kids. They would just end up screaming again the second I walked out. Both my kids had to cry it out and once they learned to self soothe, bedtime and naps were so much easier. If you decide to let him CIO , then you have to be consistent and commited to letting him cry. If you go in sometimes and no other times, its just going to confuse him.

Also, the key to a good sleeper is making sure they are getting enough naps during the day. DS is 9 months and still takes 3 naps a day. He sleeps from about 7:30 until 6AM. (I followed the Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby book with both my kids and it really helped a lot)

Good luck!!

Message edited 7/31/2012 11:13:13 AM.