really generous gift from relative q

got a pretty big check from a relative for a special occasion. i almost fell off my chair.

planning on using it for a special outing, here's my question. if i post photos on fb do i thank the relative? it could be awkward because other relatives may be like HUH why didn't I get ____. but i wouldn't want to not acknowledge it publicly. i am also sending a written thank you.

advice needed thanks

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I nice thank you note and a gift from your trip is appropriate. There's no reason to thank the person publicly on FB, especially because you know it could cause friction.

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Yes, send them a heartfelt note, then maybe get them a little something from your trip. (are you using it for a trip?)
Don't mention it on FB

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Re: really generous gift from relative q

thanks all!

we're deciding between an overnight 1-2 days or a very fancy dinner we'd never pay for ourselves

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Some things are meant to be private. I hate FB for the sole reason that nothing stays private.
I would not thank the relative publically, rather sent them a nice thank you card, maybe adding a note about what you plan to do with the gift.

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really generous gift from relative q

i agree with the crowd. don't post about it on FB.

have fun with however you decide to spend the money

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No I would not thank them on Facebook. It would be seen as gloating. Send a thank you and maybe treat them to dinner

really generous gift from relative q

I def would not mention it on facebook-- that seems like trouble! A personal thank you is the way to go.

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I agree with the crowd. I would not post on FB anything about the trip or the meal or the thank you. Instead, I would just write a really heartfelt letter to the gift giver. If you go on vacation a special souvenir would be appropriate to give them.

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Don't put it on fb! That's just opening up a can of worms for them. Are these older people? Go visit if you can and thank them personally. I'm sure they'd appreciate you making time for them.