Regarding IF, are you a negative or positive person?

I am trying my very hardest to have a good balance of both. Normally, besides dealing with IF I am a very negative person. I know that is not a good way to be, especially when going through IVF.
I see some posts and I have to say there are many ladies who truly lift my spirits and steer me toward positivity.
I guess I am just setting myself up to be disappointed just incase. It is so hard to find a balance...

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I was always very positive surprinsingly. I got upset when I heard someone was pregnant, had a baby shower, or walked by baby stuff in a store. I actually LIKED those things because they gave me hope and I knew it would be me one day!!!!!

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I am usually a positive person, I usually look at things in the "glass is half full" kind of way.

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I have always tried to be a very positive person. i know that my miracle is out there, I am just taking a longer route to get there. Don't get me wrong, I do get upset though when I hear someone is pregnant & stuff like that but that is only emotions...

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I'm pretty positive, but realistic as well. I always hope for the best outcome, but I always have the next step in mind in case things don't workout.

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When we first started TTC I was so postive. I was positve I was pregnant the first time we BD Each month I thought I was pregnant and then became more and more disappointed and jaded by this whole process when it just was not happenening and then my periods stopped coming naturally.

Right now I feel very pessimistic about the whole process and the way it is going for us

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Re: Regarding IF, are you a negative or positive person?

In general, I am very optimistic and positive person...I try to give everything the benefit of the doubt and be hopeful. BUT - after my first IVF cycle which was a bust - I was really deflated. It has taken me a lot of time and effort to build my confidence back up again and it has come back but I am just scared of the disappointment for myself and my DH and the wondering of how many cycles it will actually take us. But I will say - many of the girls on here and the graduates give me tons and tons of hope everyday.

Message edited 11/5/2008 9:51:07 PM.

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I was always a positive person. Since my m/c I feel very negative and hate the person I've become. I am trying to get back to the 'old' me- the one who always hoped for the best, while being realistic as well at the chances.

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I am a very positive person... but then there is reality and letting your feelings out... I was upset when I got my BFN but thats only human... but that was last Friday, and now I am just focused on our next cycle... it will work for us... ALL OF US... I know it. We will all be mothers one day.

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I try very hard to be positive but I have a Type A personality and I like to be in control. I hate the fact that this is something that I have absolutely no control over.

I have never had any real issues with pregnancy announcements, showers, etc., but last weekend I had a total breakdown. I had a baby shower where I swear everyone was PG and then I visited a friend who just had a baby. I'm blaming it on the Clomid - but I had a total emotional breakdown when I got home!

I am going to really try to stay positive, but it's hard!!!

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I TRY to stay positive throughout this whole process. I do get upset when medications or treatments do not work, but give me a day to sulk and the next day I will be fine.

Many times I have to talk myself into being okay with things- and that's never easy. If I find myself feeling angry or jealous I just tell myself that I am fine and it WILL happen for me.

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I am completely ambivilant...at this point I have accepted that we may not have children so I just sort of go through the motions with the transfers, etc.
If it happens, I'll be thrilled - but I can no longer get myself worked up one way or the other regarding a cycle working or not.

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For me, it really depended on the day and my mood. Once we made the decision to move towards IVF, I had a more positive outlook, but after m/c after my first attempt, it was really hard to turn the negativity around, but I forced myself to do it, so I could give my full focus on the next cycle.

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Hopeful, but I wouldn't say positive.

More dreading the path than anything.

It took me a long time to get to this point and now I have to wait two more months.

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I'm very positive and hopeful - kind of TOO much in fact.

I put my heart 100% into every cycle and that often leaves me disappointed, but I really don't know any other way to be.

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I've always been a positive person - almost too optimistic and positive, so for IVF, I've had to take it down a notch and add a healthy dose of realism so I'm not totally devastated if it doesn't work out this first time.

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For me, it was both. Like a Rollercoaster. In the beginning, I was positive, middle very bitter and negative, and towards the end, I was neither positive or negative. I was content with what was meant to happen.

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I'm pretty negative and cynical at this point. I've had other "stressors" in addition to IF to deal with the past several years, so mix it all together, you get an angry, bitter me.

I don't think people who know me would say I was that way, though. I smile on the outside and wave my fist on the inside.

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Thank you for sharing ladies