Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

so both of parents are asked us not to do anything in the house, like moving furnitures or hammer in nails, until the baby comes.

i read in baby bargins that the baby furnitures and mattress should be air out for about 2-4 weeks.

is this true? my EDD is in jan. there's no way we can open the windows and doors during that time. anyone have any suggestions?

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Do you feel the same way your parents do? If not, I would thank them for their input and then go ahead and set up the nursery beforehand.

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Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

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I am not doing a lot before the baby comes mostly because we arent finding out the sex so I would rather make the room gender specific than neutral. I will however do as much preparation as I can. Im going to buy my furniture and the glider..and even pick out paint colors. Just not have the room painted or buy the bedding until the baby arrives.

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We moved when DS was 3 weeks old, so we didn't really do anything until we moved into our new house. It was fine.

If you are going to have baby sleep in a pack and play or bassinett, then just set up the crib when he/she comes home and you won't be using it anyway. DS just went into his crib at 3+ months.

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It is really hard to do anything after the baby is born...BTDT mommies suggest to have EVERYTHING ready when you bring your little one home...you and your husband will be sleep deprived and not wanting to do ANYTHING!

I would explain this to your parents and have them look past their superstitions.

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is this a religous thing? or are your parents just asking you dont do anything?

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Honestly, this is your child, not theirs. This might be a good time for you to mark the boundaries with them. If you and your DH want to get settled before the baby comes, that is totally your business and not theirs.

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Posted by MsG

Honestly, this is your child, not theirs. This might be a good time for you to mark the boundaries with them. If you and your DH want to get settled before the baby comes, that is totally your business and not theirs.

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by jerseypanda

Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

they're superstitious..

we already know it's a

i really don't want to disrespect their request but also really don't want to do the room during january and have the windows closed.

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Posted by jerseypanda

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by jerseypanda

Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

they're superstitious..

we already know it's a

i really don't want to disrespect their request but also really don't want to do the room during january and have the windows closed.

I totally get the superstitious thing. My mother is CONVINCED that I am not supposed to reach for anything above my head because it will cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby's head. (I have read that this is an old wives tale)

If it's your parents that are superstitious, and you and DH are not, I would set up the nursery as it is your baby. I am sure they got to do what they wanted when they had you, despite what other people said. I don't think it's disrespectful, I think you want to be prepared.

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Posted by jerseypanda

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by jerseypanda

Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

they're superstitious..

we already know it's a

i really don't want to disrespect their request but also really don't want to do the room during january and have the windows closed.

I totally get the superstitious thing. My mother is CONVINCED that I am not supposed to reach for anything above my head because it will cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby's head. (I have read that this is an old wives tale)

If it's your parents that are superstitious, and you and DH are not, I would set up the nursery as it is your baby. I am sure they got to do what they wanted when they had you, despite what other people said. I don't think it's disrespectful, I think you want to be prepared.

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Posted by alexlynn7

Posted by jerseypanda

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by jerseypanda

Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

they're superstitious..

we already know it's a

i really don't want to disrespect their request but also really don't want to do the room during january and have the windows closed.

I totally get the superstitious thing. My mother is CONVINCED that I am not supposed to reach for anything above my head because it will cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby's head. (I have read that this is an old wives tale)

If it's your parents that are superstitious, and you and DH are not, I would set up the nursery as it is your baby. I am sure they got to do what they wanted when they had you, despite what other people said. I don't think it's disrespectful, I think you want to be prepared.

about the lifting over the head wives tale, because my mother has been obsessing over this as well. finally i had to tell her to get over it, in much nicer words.

i also totally agree that you need to do what's best for you in this situation.

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by alexlynn7

Posted by jerseypanda

Posted by julybride0706

Posted by jerseypanda

Is there a reason that the parents are asking you not to get things ready in the house until after the baby comes?
Is it because they want to get furniture for you?

IMHO, I would rather have everything done before the baby arrives so that you don't have to worry about it with a newborn.

they're superstitious..

we already know it's a

i really don't want to disrespect their request but also really don't want to do the room during january and have the windows closed.

I totally get the superstitious thing. My mother is CONVINCED that I am not supposed to reach for anything above my head because it will cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby's head. (I have read that this is an old wives tale)

If it's your parents that are superstitious, and you and DH are not, I would set up the nursery as it is your baby. I am sure they got to do what they wanted when they had you, despite what other people said. I don't think it's disrespectful, I think you want to be prepared.

about the lifting over the head wives tale, because my mother has been obsessing over this as well. finally i had to tell her to get over it, in much nicer words.

i also totally agree that you need to do what's best for you in this situation.

i guess also that my cousin when she was born, she have to stay in the hospital a few extra days because her mom inhaled some kind of dust when they were renovating their place.

argh! don't know what to do!!

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

I am so glad my crib and changing table and clothes were set up when i came home. You have no idea how tired you will be and having these things done really helped/

Re: Setting the nursery after the baby comes?

My husband and I are very superstitious but we are trying very hard to figure out how to make things convenient. We will be setting up most of what we need for the first 3-4 weeks or so. Things like a high chair can wait. Anything that can wait, will wait but we hope to have our basic needs ready when we get home. Our layette will be waiting at the store for after baby is born and my MIL will get it for us and wash some of it (it is a gift from her family). We are painting the nursery and doing some of the decorating (anything with the baby's name on it will wait).

I know a lot of people, mostly Jewish, who buy things and store them at someone else's house until they are ready. I have some personal reasons why I did not want to do that.