sharing the news w/ poll (long)

So this is the big weekend. We are headed to LI tonight. Going to share the good news! I am six weeks. We wanted to wait until after my appt Nov 5th to tell our parents, but don't know when we will be able to visit again. We really wanted to tell them in person. Plus we are bursting at the seams to tell them. My question is should we tell each set of parents separately? We are all going to dinner on Saturday night, and I was thinking of telling both sets of parents then. What did you do? Also I am thinking we might tell my mom tomorrow morning while my dad is at work, and then tell him when he comes home. We would go to DH's parents house to tell them in the afternoon before dinner. Can you tell I am nervous? I feel like I am in hs and going to get yelled at. I don't know why I am so worried. I bought onesies for the grandmas that say "grandma loves me", and I love Grandpa bibs for the dads. We wrapped everything, and got them grandparents to be cards. That is how we plan to share the news. Any advice.

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in your case, i'd tell them together.

we told separately but only because my mom was visiting us at the time that i took my HPT... and then we called my dad in NY... then DH's parents in NY

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Sounds good...

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we told our parents seperately.

DH's mom lives with us so we told her firt after we came back from my first appt. That same day I called my parents and told them.

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We told our parents together. We had told FIL the week before since he was away with us on vaca (DH and he went on a golf trip and then I met them and FIL went home but, it was too obvious not to tell him since we were there together 2 1/2 days).

My parents announced they were coming up to visit the day after we got back so we invited over ILs too and made a nice meal.

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I think in your situation it would be nice to tell them all together since you'll be out to dinner and can celebrate.

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First, I'm so excited for you!! Telling the parents is soo much fun!!

I was going to say- tell them together, but if you all go out to eat and give them all their gifts, they will probably figure it out.

So, then I think you can tell them separately, as long as you tell them all before the dinner.

We told out parents separately. My parents on a Friday night at dinner adn then the next day we went to his dad's and told him & his stepmom.

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Oh Thanks everyone for your opinions. It really helped me figure out what we wanted to do! Still so nervous. Will let you all know how it goes soon!

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both times I told my mom first over the phone as soon as I found out. Inlaws and my dad didn't know until after I had my first sono.

I think in your situation you should tell them together!

Message edited 10/16/2009 2:53:37 PM.

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Posted by getinmybelly18

Oh Thanks everyone for your opinions. It really helped me figure out what we wanted to do! Still so nervous. Will let you all know how it goes soon!

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I like the idea of you all being together and letting everyone know....

I mean I told separately b/c that's how it worked out but in your case, if you will all be together on Sat. then I think it would be nice to do it that way.....

although if you are seeing your Mom by herself first, I would be BURSTING at the seems to tell her too.....but I would def. wait to tell my parents together and not tell them separately

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we told separately because that was what worked.
if you are going to dinner with everyone i would tell them all together
whatever you decide good luck

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in this case, i would tell them together when you are at dinner. it will go great, congrats and enjoy!

We told our families separately, but it just worked out that way that we had plans with one side one day and the other side the next.

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So we ended up telling my mom Sat morning when we were having breakfast, b/c we couldn't keep it a secret any longer. Then we headed to DH's parents to tell them, and ended up telling my dad when he came home from work. He was actually showing DH his new shotgun when we gave him the bib to unwrap. Everyone was really excited. My mom said she wasn't ready for it yet, b/c she is too young lol. My dad said already I am not even 50. MIL opened the gift as said "Are you guys having a baby?" then jumped up & down. I am so glad we told them this weekend in person. It is so nice not having to keep the secret any longer.

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well if you are all going to be together, soounds llike a good opportunity
we didnt for a few reasons...
#1 our parents our VERY different and are rarely together, so it would just be awkward
#2 we told my parents the day after BFP, we had to wait to tell MIL bc she has a big mouth and would spread it through the family before we had the chance to do it

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With both DC, we told everyone at Thanksgiving dinner (May babies lend themselves nicely to be announced than... ).

However, even though we did it that way to avoid any controversy as to who was told first, my Aunt STILL thinks we told DW's family before Thanksgiving....

To paraphrase Norm from Cheers...
"Family; you can't live with them.... pass the beer nuts..."

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We told ours seperately, but that worked for us. I think since you are having dinner with both sets of parents you should tell them together!

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I would do it separately, this way one doesn't open the gift faster than the other and ruin someone else's surprise lol.

Goodluck!!!!

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we told them last weekend and we told them together It took a little while for them to even understand what was going on (after opening gifts which basically told them)