should i ask her?

Ok, not sure what to do.. (and please don't move this to fashion/beauty..its not a fashion question)

I've recently gained some weight and am having trouble finding cute clothes to fit me properly. I'm around a size 14-16 now. Not quite plus size, but have trouble finding cute things (boobs got bigger, waist disappearing, arms got bigger etc.)

There is a girl i always see at work who i think is about the same size as me (tall and 'larger') and she always has the nicest clothes. I really want to ask her where she shops, but i'm nervous to do it because i'd essentially be saying 'hey, i notice you're a bigger girl too, can you help me?'

Would you be offended if someone asked you that? I just don't know how to approach it to get the answers i'm looking for, but not offend her.

thanks!

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as a "bigger" girl myself -- i would not find anything wrong with someone asking me where i buy my clothes.

just approach her and say "I swear whenever you come in, you always have the nicest outfits on! I have such a hard time finding the right fit for me, could you tell me where you find clothes that flatter you so nicely!"

Simple and not rude at all!


ETA: have you been checking out Lane Bryant? the cuts of clothing at size 14/16 are definitely much more flattering there, than in regular stores.

i have found good stuff at Tommy Hilfiger and Gap -- especially pants, that fit nicely too, for my plus size frame

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I dont' think you have to mention that you've gain weight and need bigger clothes and love hers.. Just simply say I love your clothes..you have great style I was wondering where you shop.

Good luck!!

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i dont think you offend, her, you can always say something like hey i really like that shirt your wearing, where did you get it from?


i am a 14-16 and i shop at all different places


old navy
gap
jcpenney
dress barn
target
lane bryant

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I would just say: " you are always so nicely dressed! Where do you find all these great clothes?!!" That isn't insulting in anyway IMO, It's flattering.

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I wonder if she'll think i'm stalking her if i ask her about her clothes every day

thanks for the responses... i do find clothes to fit me in many stores that you guys listed..i'm just looking for stuff a bit more stylish and cute and those are the things i have problems finding.
i.e - i like a lot of clothes at Anthropologie, and a lot of those fit, but they're too expensive. Some of the cheaper stores tend to have the smaller fitting clothing so i get frustrated..

i'll have to see if i can screw up the courage to approach her. i'm usually not shy, but when it comes to talking to girls about fashion i am since i'm not comfortable with how i look anymore.

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I would definitely say something like, I love your wardrobe, where do you shop? I would be flattered if someone asked me that..

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I would just compliment her taste and ask where she shops..

Here is where my plus size booty goes-

TORRID (added website link)

Old Navy

Macys

Lane Bryant

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i see no problem with it at all

I was offended ONCE by someone that was a size 20 asking me if she could borrow the size 12 dress I had on- she said, "We have the same body..."

I never been offended by someone asking where I shop!

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I have only been offended once... when my older boss asked where I got a shirt I was wearing... I couldn't remember but said maybe Kohl's. So she says, I saw some like that in Coldwater Creek... which to me is an "old lady" store!

At my new job almost every day someone asks someone else where they got a certain piece of clothing

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i see no problem with it at all

I was offended ONCE by someone that was a size 20 asking me if she could borrow the size 12 dress I had on- she said, "We have the same body..."

I never been offended by someone asking where I shop!

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As long as you don't refer to her size and merely say 'your outfits always look so nice... where do you shop?' I can't imagine her being offended...

I have a rather odd figure... I get most of my stuff at ann taylor, target (but it's hit or miss there), and banana republic (mainly tops).

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I don't think it's offensive at all! It is not like your saying something rude, you both wear the same size, she has nice stuff, you want to go buy some!

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I don't think that there is anything wrong with saying that she has nice clothes and inquiring as to where she shops.

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I'm a size 4-6, but have bigger legs and wide hips (thanks, Cailen!) and was wearing a pair of pants that a woman complimented me on. She was not that big - maybe a size bigger than me, and said how she liked my pants. Then she explained why they would look good on her, because they were straight and would flatter her hips.

I was like thanks

But a simple compliment and "where did you get them" would have gone just fine without me feeling like I was just being called a wide hipped fatass!

But I used to be a size 12, and I dressed very nicely. If a woman was a 12-14, and curvy like I was asked me where my clothes were from, it made me feel proud that I could inspire a woman to love her curves and find cute things for herself!!!

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Oh an I buy most of my clothes atKohls