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HelenZ
So worth the wait :)
Member since 10/07 2862 total posts
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Helen
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So....
2 years after my miscarriage in January '09 I am finally emotionally ready to re-join the TTC ranks! I shared so much hurt & agony on this board when I was going through the miscarriage I thought this should be the first place I post on our new TTC journey!
my prayers to all of you with recent miscarriages and please do not feel rushed back into TTC, every woman is different and I think knows when they're truly ready to try again 
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AngnShaun
Sisters
Member since 1/10 21015 total posts
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Ang
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Re: So....
Good Luck!!!
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| Posted 2/3/11 9:58 AM |
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MrsFishstick
LIF Adult
Member since 5/10 935 total posts
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Re: So....
Best of luck and lots of look forward to seeing you around TTC
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| Posted 2/3/11 10:59 AM |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
Member since 5/08 3303 total posts
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Nik
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Re: So....
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again  but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to"  which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away?  will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
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| Posted 2/3/11 12:07 PM |
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Nicoley89
LIF Adolescent
Member since 9/10 623 total posts
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Nicole
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Re: So....
Lots of luck!
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| Posted 2/3/11 12:09 PM |
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mommy2devin
2 Boys, I need calgon!
Member since 10/07 1572 total posts
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Re: So....
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'm so so sorry. I know exactly how you are feeling. For ME, and this is just for me b/c we are all different in our journeys.... I had to try right away. I KNEW I was never NOT going to be scared of it happening again. I am still so so nervous ever day. But I just have to have faith that what is meant to be will be. I am going on 10 weeks, and am still petrified every.single.day! Seriously! There is a lot of praying and just trying to make it to my next appointment......
Hang in there!
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| Posted 2/3/11 2:03 PM |
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Shorty
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Member since 5/05 30390 total posts
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really
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Re: So....
I think of you often, but I would never ask.
Glad to see you back 
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| Posted 2/5/11 10:29 AM |
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PrincessP
Big sister!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: So....
Good Luck to you!!!
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| Posted 2/5/11 7:40 PM |
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smooney
Hidey Ho!
Member since 2/10 1669 total posts
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Re: So....
congratulations and best of luck!!!
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| Posted 2/8/11 6:03 PM |
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autumn
Mommy to 2 divas
Member since 9/07 3389 total posts
Name:
Lisa
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Re: So....
best of luck to you I waited awhile before starting TTC as well. I wasn't emotionally and mentally ready.
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| Posted 2/8/11 9:55 PM |
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HelenZ
So worth the wait :)
Member since 10/07 2862 total posts
Name:
Helen
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Re: So....
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'll send you an FM, I can't say you won't ever go into TTC without feeling a bit of fear, but I think you come to a point where you don't really feel as angry/confused as you do right now. It actually caused a little bit of friction with me & DH as well, I put up a wall afterwards and it was tough....you can't go back into TTC if you're not feeling like you can truly openly communicate with your husband. I was so afraid of seeming frail or getting upset, I really needed to wait a while.....but I definitely think it depends on how every woman feels and copes with the loss, not everyone waits because you want to have some kind of happiness to replace that loss.
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| Posted 2/8/11 11:37 PM |
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HelenZ
So worth the wait :)
Member since 10/07 2862 total posts
Name:
Helen
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Re: So....
Posted by mommy2devin
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'm so so sorry. I know exactly how you are feeling. For ME, and this is just for me b/c we are all different in our journeys.... I had to try right away. I KNEW I was never NOT going to be scared of it happening again. I am still so so nervous ever day. But I just have to have faith that what is meant to be will be. I am going on 10 weeks, and am still petrified every.single.day! Seriously! There is a lot of praying and just trying to make it to my next appointment......
Hang in there!
congrats on your pregnancy!! I'm sure I will be just as petrified when our time comes hopefully soon!!
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| Posted 2/8/11 11:40 PM |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
Member since 5/08 3303 total posts
Name:
Nik
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Re: So....
Posted by mommy2devin
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'm so so sorry. I know exactly how you are feeling. For ME, and this is just for me b/c we are all different in our journeys.... I had to try right away. I KNEW I was never NOT going to be scared of it happening again. I am still so so nervous ever day. But I just have to have faith that what is meant to be will be. I am going on 10 weeks, and am still petrified every.single.day! Seriously! There is a lot of praying and just trying to make it to my next appointment......
Hang in there!
thank you i know you are right about the worrying - and i know no matter how long i wait i'll always have a heightened fear of another loss - i don't think you ever stop worrying. i will be  for you...lots of luck!
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
Member since 12/09 8306 total posts
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Kerri
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Re: So....
BEST OF LUCK HELEN!!!!
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
Member since 12/09 8306 total posts
Name:
Kerri
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Re: So....
Posted by Nik211
Posted by mommy2devin
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'm so so sorry. I know exactly how you are feeling. For ME, and this is just for me b/c we are all different in our journeys.... I had to try right away. I KNEW I was never NOT going to be scared of it happening again. I am still so so nervous ever day. But I just have to have faith that what is meant to be will be. I am going on 10 weeks, and am still petrified every.single.day! Seriously! There is a lot of praying and just trying to make it to my next appointment......
Hang in there!
thank you i know you are right about the worrying - and i know no matter how long i wait i'll always have a heightened fear of another loss - i don't think you ever stop worrying. i will be for you...lots of luck!
I felt the same way as mommy2devin did. I just HAD to start trying right away. For me personally the thought of waiting to start TTC again gave me so much anxiety. I just wanted to be pregnant again so badly and I couldn't put it off.
It took a long 9 months of actual trying to finally get pregnant again. it was quite the roller coaster ride. I'm now almost 20 weeks. And even with that it's still scary. having a mc takes away the innocence of the pregnancy. but good things can and do happen.
if you feel you need to take time then take it. everyone is different in how they handle it and what they feel in terms of when to start TTC again. some people need to take the time to heal emotionally before they embark on the journey of TTC again and that's perfectly fine. there's no race.
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| Posted 2/10/11 2:44 PM |
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
Member since 12/09 8306 total posts
Name:
Kerri
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Re: So....
Posted by HelenZ
Posted by Nik211
congratulations! and good luck
if you don't mind can you let me know how you knew you were ready again? you can FM if you'd like...
i ask b/c i have mixed feelings about it. my DH is more than ready...to be honest he is dying to try again but he says if i'm not ready we can, "wait if we have to" which makes me feel so sad, he took the loss hard and he really wants to be a dad...
i just have a lot of fears about the next one. i'm afraid i won't enjoy it and i am afraid i'll be too nervous. i'm afraid i can't handle another loss. but i don't think those feelings will ever go away? will i be waiting forever if i wait to stop being scared? i want to start our family. i already feel so behind and ready. i want to be a mom more than anything. so i think i am ready, just scared/nervous...
I'll send you an FM, I can't say you won't ever go into TTC without feeling a bit of fear, but I think you come to a point where you don't really feel as angry/confused as you do right now. It actually caused a little bit of friction with me & DH as well, I put up a wall afterwards and it was tough....you can't go back into TTC if you're not feeling like you can truly openly communicate with your husband. I was so afraid of seeming frail or getting upset, I really needed to wait a while.....but I definitely think it depends on how every woman feels and copes with the loss, not everyone waits because you want to have some kind of happiness to replace that loss.
I know what you mean Helen.
We actually went to counseling/therapy with a mc therapist. it helped a lot.
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