so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

So dh had plates and pins put in his leg yesterday all went well and he has to be in a cast for about 6 weeks and then a pin comes out at 10 weeks and no athletic activity for 6 months . Now here come the part that i might get flamed for....

I totally get how bummed he is about how his summer is "ruined". I get that he wants to golf and play softball and how he just joined the gym and got a trainer to finally loose the weight he needs to and so on and so on but, in addition to that obviously my summer is a bit thrown off as well.. not a problwem not like he was doing something stupid and broke his leg it was freak thing just stepped the wrong way while on the golf course and boom borke it..

He goes on two golf trips in the fall. Now with the no atletic activity for 6 months we are not sure if he will be cleared to go and play golf. All i hear is him complaing about that.. ok fine totally understnd that.... now i said sort of joking sort of not.. well if you cant go why dont we go away for a long wekkend instead using the money you would have used for your two trips.... I forgot to mentiuon i had to cancel my mother day gift which was night out in montauk and it was going to take place on our anniversary weekend. Anyway he is like well my main gioal is to go golfing i rather do that... *** yes i know you love to golf and i know you liek the one trip in particular ( DRUNK FEST) but not for anyting i am going to be ayt your beck and call this summer with the baby as well. Not that i should be rewarded with a trip i am his wife obviously i am going to take care of him but i would think after a lousy summer gettign away TOGETHER woud be nice and i said IF AND ONLY if he cant make his trips for medical reasons. if he gets the clear to go then we wont go away together ( too much money two golf trips and a wekend away for us) Am i wrong? Do i sound like a selfish you know what? LOL

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Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

How come he gets TWO trips and you get nothing?

Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

Posted by LisaW

How come he gets TWO trips and you get nothing?

Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

I think you should talk to him again and explain how you want to spend time with him for a weekend. And maybe you can do one weekend together and he can have one golfing weekend.

Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

He broke his leg.... not his brain..... he needs to issue an apology for that one.

Plus since it is only a broken leg, he should be able to do MOST of what needs to be done anyway! So you shouldn't need to be at his beck and call anyway. (Except for the beginning recovery of course!)

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He was going to get 2 trips and you were going to get nothing -- Regardless of whether or not he broke his leg, that's not fair.

One golf trip, fine... but 2 trips and you get nothing because you can't afford any more than that.

I'd be upset, too, even if he hadn't broken his leg. That's really unfair.

Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

So can you split it, IF he is able to go play golf ok, go on one trip and skip the next. Then go on a mini-vaca together.

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you are NOT selfish AT ALL! and him saying that the golf trip is his #1 priority when he gets better is really messed up IMO!

Re: so Dh had his surgery for his broken leg.. question included....

let his golf buddies help him recouperate.

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I agree that you deserve your pre planned weekend when he feel better! If he can recover and maybe Golf he can also still honor your weekend when he feels better!